Can TOCD make you feel anxious when somebody refers you as your assigned at birth gender? Before TOCD i never felt uncomfortable but now i am so anxious when i see all gendered terms ( boy, girl, sister etc) I hope its not real dysphoria.I don't want to be man or non binary but when i say ı'm girl my mind say no you are not girl then i feel bad ugh im going crazy i just want to be girl and i am girl!
i think i definitely went through a time where i was scared of being triggered by such things. i have always known who i am as i am comfortable in my birth assigned body/identity and didn’t have an issue with such things before tocd as you say! (a girl and pronouns are she/her) however my mind made it a compulsion to check when someone referred to me as my pronouns whether i feel comfortable with it or not which made me uncomfortable, even when shopping for clothes etc. i was scared that i was uncomfortable in my body and was in “denial” but i quickly realised that what was making me uncomfortable was the feeling of needing to check not my actual identity? if that makes sense. you’ll get through it one way or another :)
Hello! Thanks for your response.I thought tocd was gone but it come back.Also ı struggled with other ocd themes like HOCD,HARM OCD etc.When somebody refers me as a girl,I have to translate a word girl to boy to see how i feel.
@WhoIamm ıt is compulsion i guees.Cause i saw this in a few forums.
@WhoIamm it is most certainly a compulsion and that’s what reduced my anxiety. the testing of pronouns, clothes, how i feel in my body etc. all compulsions. it’s hard to wrap your head around it because it feels so real and i still struggle with it sometimes and get thoughts such as “what if i am in denial?” but ultimately just brush it off :)
@justtryingtobeme Do you feel like.. disconnect? When ı saw something related to girls i feel like i am not in this girl group and i am just pretending to be a girl ı think? I also think that how girls and womens can live without anxiety? My mother language not is a English and i know 3 language and i think these compulsions in 3 language LOL i hope we can beat this
@WhoIamm yes but again it’s just intrusive thoughts because i am very much connected and am happy in being so. i think the wondering about others anxiety thing is just something that people with ocd have anyway :)
@justtryingtobeme ı know that ı'm not trans male but i afraid that i am non binary.But i doubt everything.I am not happy or bad in my gender it just feels normal to me.
@WhoIamm yeah i get that too but ultimately i know in my heart who i am and remind myself that no amount of doubt will change that which ultimately helps me in all of my themes! :)