Can I make my mind stop? Story + Help please :(

Hi everyone. I need some guidance on how to navigate my feelings the right way? Or if there is anyway I can calm down tonight? For Context. My sister a few years ago. Sort of catfished me? Pretended to be someone else to be my friend. I didn’t have friends and so she pretended to be some guy to be a friend to me. But I randomly thought one day. What if he isn’t real and it was her. I thought it was my OCD. But I eventually got her to admit it. I never called or FaceTimed this person or spoke to them in person. Fast forward, she introduced me to another friend. This friend seems real given the fact they have multiple social media’s that go back a long time. Consistent photos. And most importantly. I have called them, FaceTimed once I think. And have played video games with them. But I have never met them in person. Today we went to their work to just say hi and leave. Thing is. We didn’t see them there. Couldn’t find them anywhere. And I felt that knot in my stomach. Has she somehow lied to me again? How could she have done all this. They have to be real, right? I have played games with them. Called them with my sister right next to me. I felt and still feel sick. I doubted myself last time. Thought of all the stuff that made the other person real just to find out my sister faked them. But I don’t know if she could fake all this or how she could. Regardless. I feel sick. And suspicious of her. And I hate feeling like this. This friend said they would come out drinking with us tomorrow so we can meet in person for the first time. Guess I’ll see if they turn up. But I just don’t know. I feel like I’m being crazy. I have spoken and FaceTimed them I’m pretty sure. Definitely played video games with them. But. I guess I’m anticipating the sadness I’ll feel if it turns out my sister is pretending to be yet another one of my friends somehow.. and that a person I saw as a friend just doesn’t fucking exist again.. so yeah. Guess I’ll see tomorrow? I don’t know. Anyway. This has put a spanner in my day/ night. And I wish I could stop thinking of it but I can’t.. please help me find some clarity guys :(

LittleBright

Date posted: 2d

Do you have a good relationship with your sister? Like did it come from a good place. Lowkey valid thoughts since that actually did happen to you. But the rumination isn’t gonna help a thing, you just gotta find out if they’re legit. if they are then cool. If they’re not, then don’t meet people through your sister anymore. Put yourself out there to make friends! Step outside your comfort zone, try new things, I know you’ll make friends! You gotta stop obsessing over it tho cause it’s not gonna change a thing. keep yourself occupied and when your mind wants to dwell on it, don’t let it. only then will the obsession stop. You gotta tell yourself that you’re okay with what happened/happens but you have to make that decision for yourself.

pureolife

Date posted: Yesterday

You do NOT sound crazy. Your sister does a little though.. and mean spirited. I really hope this person is real and that your sister has learned her lesson. If not, i dont think your sister is a very nice person or someone you should spend much time with in the immediate future. Focus on looking for new connections in person where possible. Join a club or group. It can be a sport or a book club or anything really. Practicing trust is going to be hard for a little while. And that’s not because of ocd. It’s because your sister tricked you. And I’m really sorry she did that. That’s unbelievably cruel to me.

komorebi11

Date posted: 7h

@pureolife She was trying to give me a friend because I couldn’t make one. She had a sort of good intention. At that point I was trying to make so many friends but couldn’t keep any. And I guess in her own way she was trying to help. But she didn’t really think it through. The person is actually real. Met them yesterday. Figured as I have played games and talked to them before. But my rumination on the what ifs were stressing me. She had learned her lesson. I let her know my feelings and she understood why I felt that way. She knows what she did was cruel even if it wasn’t her intention to be. We were kids when she did it. We are adults now.

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