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I feel like people with hocd end up bisexual and i feel like im becoming happy at the thought of being with woman and i wanna cry:(

GUYS I'M REALLY FREAKING OUT I MIGHT KILL MYSELF I just remembered how my HOCD started. Some months ago, I drew this picture of a sad girl who was crying and was in huge pain and distress. I don't really know why I drew this but I was very proud because the drawing came out to be really well. A few months pass, and I had this drawing in front of me while some sad music was playing on my phone. I was staring at the drawing, praising myself for how nicely I drew it, feeling very good about myself... Then, in my head, I started telling the crying girl in the picture to stop crying and that it will all be okay And then, in a split second I HAD A THOUGHT OF FUCKING KISSING THE GIRL. THEN THE WHOLE CYCLE STARTED. I SWEAR TO GOD I'VE NEVER BEEN ATTRACTED TO FEMALES. I always get really jealous of girls who look pretty because even I want to look like them Never in my life did I ever think about having sex with a girl Even when I fantasise, it's always about men and boys my age and above I'M REALLY DISTRESSED I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO

i haven’t been diagnosed with ocd yet but i’m pretty sure i have it. when i was younger i used to hear things in my head like if you don’t do this in 5 seconds then something would happen to your family. i could manage that abs still can however something else is triggering me. i am afraid of becoming lesbian/ bi. i admire many female celebrities like dancers and stuff and i have always wanted to be them/ look like them up untill now in my head somethings telling me i wanna date them. this is completely untrue and it’s messing me about now every day i wake up and fear i’m lesbian or bi and i don’t know it or i’m so deeply in denial before i used to get discusted by the intrusive thoughts ans now something in my head is telling me i like it. the other day on tiktok a masculine women popped up on my fyp and something in my head told me i liked her and i wanted to date masculine women! i then searched through the vids of masculine women to see if i got aroused but thankfully i couldn’t feel anything. by this point i’ve stopped feeling anything for men and i just wish i could like boys in the way i used to!! i can’t think senarios in my head about boys anymore without an intrusive thought sayijf i like women. please i’m so confused and scared abs upset i need help

So first I get triggered tonight be a real event and start doing massive research on it because getting a panic attack until I realize I'm ruminating so I stop that and just let the anxiety and depression take over till its done. Then I decide to watch some porn and I decided to watch some hentai. I have a weird nostalgia with it since it was the first pornographic material I saw as a child. So I'm looking at a page with reccomendations and they reccomended this one I've seen some of before but vaguely remembered it. Basically about 3 sisters living with their bro, massive sexual setting. 2 of the sisters looked of age, usual massive anime breasts, so I was like whatever nothing really triggering then they introduce the last sister who looked petite and kinda flat chested and I was like eh I hope this isn't a loli, I've seen that kinda stuff in the past and it really freaks me out so I try my best to avoid it. But anyways they made her super attractive, even dressed how I usually find girls attractive, and suddenly she's trying to seduce him and when she takes her top off she isn't flat chested just smaller boobs so I felt less disturbed, finished to that and then the guilt hit me like a train. I was like omg, did I just jerk it to loli? And I start spiraling like what if I'm a P? What if this is what proves it?? I wasn't looking for loli but I watched through that scene, and I couldn't stop the anxiety so I started researching the show to see if loli was associated with it at all and thankfully I couldn't find any description of that being associated with this show but the uncertainty was driving me insane and after just coming out of a panic attack from a earlier trigger this just sent me into another one. And so I'm trying to stop myself from ruminating but my mind is like "IF YOU DON'T YOU'LL DO SOMETHING EVEN WORSE, JUST THINK ABOUT THIS LONGER YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT." It sucks because I can't even sleep right now. I feel like if I don't spend more time thinking about it, something bad will happen. Idk even what, I just keep feeling this unsettling feeling of danger.

I look at straight couples and cry cause i will never be able to have that. The thought of being happy with another girl makes me sad, and i feel bad that it makes me sad cause then it feeds my horrible person ocd and makes me feel homophobic cause nothings wrong with it but i dont want to be with a girl and dont want to be lesbian cause i dont want girls or dont want to desire them. And the thought of never being happy with a boy makes it even worse. Then im scared i’m actually okay with that thought. I always dreamt of being with a boy and now i can’t even fantasize about kissing and cuddling. Cause suddenly i feel like kissing a boy is gross and cuddling i feel nothing. AND I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT I JUST WANNA BE ABLE TO BE WITH A GUY AND FEEL ATTRACTED TO THEM. And i dont know why i want it so bad but i do. I want it so bad but i cant have it. I just can’t handle this anymore. The fear, the stress, the not knowing, the confusion. My mind at war. Feeling as if my mind and body are at war. My body responds to something and my mind hates it and freaks out and doesnt want it. Hocd is a fucking demon and i feel like jumping off a cliff rn. Anything would be better than this, anything.

If i don’t get better soon i don’t know how much longer i can last. This battle in my mind is draining me. I can’t keep doing it for much longer.

Every time I watch an explicit video, I obsessively worry about whether or not the person in the video was of legal age or if I unintentionally looked at a minor. This causes me to have intrusive OCD thoughts that I am some kind of horrible pedophile or that the FBI will arrest me. I'm currently experiencing an anxiety spike right now because of it. Can anyone else relate to this? I only want to watch videos of consenting adults, but the need for 100 percent certainty makes it difficult for me to stop questioning it. Because of my religious beliefs, things like pornography are outside of my ethical values anyways, so I really want to break the habit of watching it in any capacity (even if I knew for certain I couldn't accidentally stumble upon a video of a minor), but I struggle with doing that. Does anyone have any tips to stop engaging in lustful behaviors, and how to deal with catastrophic thinking about jail time and being a sick person because I'm paranoid about if the model could be underage?

Curious question: how come people date someone new after their ex pasted away? Like Ariana’s ex Mac Miller died and now she’s with Dalton isn’t that disrespectful?

Oof. Every time my mind isn’t occupied by a new task, I find myself ruminating on a really upsetting thread on our neighborhood’s social media. It was so bad at the time, that my Fitbit tracked a big spike in my pulse. I try to keep redirecting back to the moment or doing a breathing exercise when I catch myself ruminating. (Luckily, my personal time limit for Facebook has just kicked in.) Is that avoidance? I haven’t figured out exercises for ruminating yet. I’m not in a panic, but my heart rate is definitely not at “calm”.

It keeps telling me to hurt a child and that its okay to hurt a child. I dont know if thats me or that’s intrusive thoughts. Why dont I feel anxiety, am i okay with this? Do i feel anxiety? Do i think this okay or am i forcing myself to believe its not okay? Is anyone dealing with the same thing?

I’m making this post for anyone to tell me if this sounds like ocd or denial. Im an all state football linebacker who’s always found love for lifting weights and being with my friends. Im also a catholic. I’ve always been a really happy person. One thing to know is my dad was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, I’m not sure if it’s ocd or not. I’ve also always been attracted to females, and never guys. I’ve only watched gay porn once before when I was 12 as experimentation, and it never felt right so I just never watched again. Now this begins back in July of 2020. I was on vacation at the beach when I was at this gym, and I met my gym idol. I was going to take a picture with him and I grabbed his trap really awkwardly. I thought “he probably thinks I’m gay” then I thought “what if I am gay”.Later that day my uncle (who was drunk at the time) was trying to get me to walk up to random girls and ask to take a picture. When I refused (because I thought it was weird to walk up to random people for pictures, and also because I have social anxiety and low confidence) he asked me if I was gay. But at this point in time the anxiety was very mild, and football started the next week, so it left my mind as fast as the thought came in. So throughout the entire football season, the anxiety basically wasn’t there. There was no question of my sexuality, no knowledge that this ocd even existed. Although something to note is that throughout football, the fear of me somehow getting CTE (a brain condition from head trauma) gave me some anxiety, and I frequently asked my parents for MRI’s, even though I haven’t even had a concussion before. But the season came and went, and I was insanely excited for the offseason where I could get better at what I love the most. Fast forward to November of 2020, and the last game of football just ended. One day I was thinking back on my last game and I recalled to myself that one of the players had perfect teeth. I spiraled into a panic. I was getting teeth pulled the next day, and was terrified that while I was loopy on medicine I would confess that I was falsely gay. What happened was much worse. My sister ended up getting COVID, and I was quarantined for 2 weeks. The very first thought I had to myself was “wow this is it, I’m not going to be able to stop thinking about this”. And I was exactly right. The next 2 weeks were one of the worst of my life, I couldn’t believe it was happening to me. Throughout the past year before that I only cited twice (once when we lost a big game and once when my father was in an accident) and I was bawling my eyes out for hours every single day. This is when I first learned about hocd, and considered the possibility that I could have it. I was really excited to get out of quarantine, because I thought the thoughts would just go away once everything went back to normal. And to an extent they did. For about 2 weeks extending from Thanksgiving break, I felt decent, and just wrote it off as hocd. I felt like I’d be able to accomplish my goals and get rid of this disease. The time is mid December, and I go for my yearly checkup with my pediatrician. He gives me my physical exam, which gives me a ridiculous amount of anxiety. I keep thinking to myself, wondering if I like it or not. Later that day, I started doing even more research about hocd, and found this one forum of a man saying how hocd is just a coping mechanism for closeted people. This pushed me over the edge. I couldn’t stop freaking out or crying. In my life, I’ve never fell below an A in any class, and here I was failing almost 3. This was by far the worst time of my life. Things did get better however, because my relentless research did get me reassurance. I stumbled alongside a YouTube video explaining the difference between hocd and denial, and one of the comments said “here’s a simple answer, if you’re watching this video, you have hocd”. I was thrilled at this, and things got better for quite a bit, but the baseline anxiety and thoughts never went away. Things got really good in the second half of January, because I gave up masturbation for a short period of time. One of the things I’ve noticed is that when I don’t masturbate, the built up sexual drive I have gives me reassurance that I’m not gay. I was also excited because school was starting back up full time again, and being around my friends always made me feel better. Things got better, and I thought me being cured was right around the corner Here comes the month of February. We got drilled with a huge blizzard almost every week and the thoughts and feelings came back. The thoughts are trying to tell me that I’ve always known I was gay, even though that’s not true. I’ve always been straight. I started to research ocd again and found another article of people saying hocd is just denial and found a YouTube video of a man saying that even if you have hocd, you still might be gay. And that leads me to typing this right now. There have been times where I’ve begged God to help me, or asked why I deserve this, even though I’m not super into my faith. I know reassurance is bad, but I need something to get through this week and stay motivated to lift. The thoughts are telling me I want to look feminine, which is insane because I’ve been obsessed with bodybuilding and fitness my entire life. If no reassurance can be given about my situation, can someone just give me reassurance that hocd is a real thing, not just a coping mechanism? If you read this far, thank you so much for hearing me out and please let me know what you think. Thanks again

i heard p*dos sometimes feel distress over their attraction towards children?? idk what to think anymore....

Why is there so much studf about pedophiles every where. Im tired of clicking off video or skipping things. Like understand why children are everywhere by why pedophiles. Can people shut up about it. Im watching a stream right now and there talking about dude with child porn in his discord and now i think I want to go to his discord. I keep having intrusive thoughts like “you gotta look that up” or “ come on, we need to go to his discord” or “i like grooming, let groom people.” Sometimes its like “pedophillia is okay, lets watch child porn.” Its so annoying. Why are they everywhere. Im tired of feeling sick and nauseous. Im tired it trying to tell me im a pedophile, its annoying. Its weird because two years ago, i hates children but everytime I think that its telling me that im faking my hage and want to touch them. I dont want to be near them, its sickening. Why is this happening now? i cant watch shows woth children in them because it says i like the shows because children are in them but I cant skip the show because apparently skipping the show makes ocd worse. Like why are there so much children everywhere? And why are people talking pedophiles so much? Im tired of it.

i need help... recently my brain has been saying "ur sexually attracted to inanimate objects" or "ur sexually attracted to school subjects" and i feel like im going crazy and i tried googling it and i didnt find anything related to ocd but i found something called objectumsexual and now im scared and crying...pls help i feel like im the only one

Social media triggers me so much.

Does anybody else have to take something to fall asleep every night? I hate that I can’t fall asleep on my own because of my mind keeping me up. I envy people that can just fall asleep on their own :(

Hey guys. i’m a 14 year old female and i think i may be struggling from HOCD. My reason for this is because i really struggle setting aside thoughts about my sexual orientation. Growing up i always wanted to marry a man and have kids but up untill now there’s something in my head telling me that i don’t want to do that and i’m making it up. i have all kinds of intrusive thoughts about s€xual intercourse with girls and even just being in a relationship with a girl and they have become that common it’s like in my head that i’ve accepted it and my head is tricking me into the fact i like it, when in reality i don’t! there’s so much more to this but all i want to know is is this HOCD and i’m not in denial? pls it’s causing me so much distress, i’d appreciate any help! <3

Okay so, I'd like to tell my story for the first time, even though I still struggle with the idea of it because of the fear of being rejected... I am white, and two years ago I got in first contact with anti-racism activism. The first things I read and came in contact with made me freak out excessively, for reasons I don't know yet. I got an intense panic of my reality and sense of truth being turned upside down, as well of constant doubting about what was I doing right or wrong. I had many strong fears and other really negative emotions and doubts suddenly emerging as I was trying to learn and read other perspectives online. I got obsessed with the fear it provoked me, and most importantly, the fear of my own weakness being displayed in such an important and sensitive topic. I hated myself for having such intense anxiety, so I compulsively looked for stimulus that could trigger my anxiety. I wanted to expose myself so I could get over it and be stronger. I would not stop thinking about anti-racism the whole day, and I would get trouble sleeping. I could not leave my phone. I couldn't stop stalking social media activists, and I would spend hours checking other tagged accounts, falling into a spiral of stalking and eventually having an anxiety and doubting breakdown, followed by intense catastrophic thinking. I felt (and still feel) surveilled by myself and other people online. My fears became more sophisticated the more I learnt. I gazed multiple times every corner of the anti-racism online activism. Eventually I came across the concept of "white fragility", and it's definition made so much sense that it just fed my intrusive thoughts and self-loathing. To this day I haven't gotten over it. Only someone with white fragility would experience the emotions I was feeling. My rumination found another topic to fixate over. One day I started thinking if my behaviour was anything normal, since I would relate everything to my obsession, I was definitely feeling depressed and my repetitive behaviour would last the whole day. That's when I googled about OCD, and after a while reflecting I started taking it seriously. The doubts, the hatred for myself, the compulsions and the triggers are really something unbearable. Uncertainty has taken over my whole worldview, and in my bad OCD days I still reject the idea of having it, because "I am definitely a white supremacist and have white fragility and I'm just making up excuses". Social media has only validated my OCD and nurtured my compulsions. But listening to other people, seeking for help and learning more about the little details of OCD really makes me feel like there is hope and I'll be fine 💟. This has become my safe space, and I have developed such empathy and love for all of you that really makes my days better. I still haven't gotten over it, and I still don't know where do my fear comes from, but I will be okay. Sorry for writing so much, it is the first time I voice all of this. Thank you for reading 💟

I've been trying to help myself by telling myself You can find men attractive without wanting to have sex with them You can like gay porn without wanting gay sex You can have gay fantasties without wanting gay sex

Anybody taking buspar for ocd? I’ve read it helps with ocd and I was thinking of taking it because I don’t want to take an ssri.