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- Username
- Ready4Recovery
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
- Suicidal OCD
- Harm OCD
I have gone through intense ERP, and feel I am on a much better path than I was a few months ago. I can get through the day without crying or shutting down, I can work, I can socialize…all things that are a great step! BUT all of things just feel OK, I feel just okay. The thoughts are still constantly there but my response to them has changed so my anxiety has gone down. I’m in recovery but I’m most definitely not where I want to be, I want to be able to have these happy moments with my boyfriend and family - instead I just don’t even feel emotion anymore unless it’s sadness. I have little blips of moments where I feel like me again and there are wonderful but 80% of the time I’m just coasting through life Any suggestions are greatly appreciated🤍
- Username
- user111
- Date posted
- 491d ago
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
has anyone tried gabapentin? if so has it helped?
- Username
- Anon465
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Relationship OCD
I have a history of relationship ocd but have not had it in a while. I had a thought last night when I saw a Tiktok. ‘What if I don’t want kids?’. Ive never doubted this before and have always felt secure in wanting them most of the time despite a couple of fears. I asked my partner what he would do if I didn’t want them and he said he wasn’t sure as he really wants them. This has sent me into a massive spiral and now I feel like it’s inevitable that it’s going to end or like I’m lying to him or we are wasting our time. Even though I’m still confident I want kids. It’s like it’s picking holes in anything and everything. This didn’t even cross my mind two days ago and I was so happy even when I thought about kids one day. Can anyone relate to this??
- Username
- Clurp
- Date posted
- 491d ago
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- False Memory OCD
Any one else with ROCD going through a breakup right now? I got broken up with in April and I’m still obsessing about the relationship/what I did wrong/him and it’s driving me insane. Anyone else have this? I feel like most ROCD posts I see are of people still in relationships …
- Username
- Kain366
- Date posted
- 491d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
Tips on how to get over it? It's slowly and completely destroying my life bit by bit. People saying find someone else whose past I'm more comfortable with but wouldn't that be another compulsion of avoidance?
- Username
- Ocd I don’t like these thoughts
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Real Events OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
I was so so happy with him. So in love. I always reacted right away to his texts. Right now because of my SO-ocd I don’t feel any attraction or love for him and I hate it. Please someone help me. Are other experience this?
- Username
- Ocd I don’t like these thoughts
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
Sometimes I don't even know what I'm deep down, and this sentence makes me anxious. Anyone else?
- Username
- lolathegoldenretriever
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Relationship OCD
I cant stop feeling anxious around my partner and when it’s quiet. I start thinking there is something wrong and just can’t enjoy those moments. It is getting frustrating and im tired it’s been going on for a while and I wish it could just stop.
- Username
- Things will get better <3
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- OCD newbies
- Harm OCD
Never give up ! Ocd lies and tries to make us feel and manipulate us into thinking we’re something that we know we’re not even when we feel so convinced, we know deep down that we are not that bad person or monster. Just remember don’t try to prove or disprove when ocd tries to throw questions at you it’s just a trap that ocd wants you to fall into . There’s no problem to fix and nothing to figure out even when we feel like there is it’s an an illusion by ocd. Just remember to breathe and realize what’s happening in the present moment. Realize that thoughts are not actions. We all got this !❤️
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- Sero82
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
For having this space to share everything that bothers me. I feel extremely sentimental and emotional about all I've endured and gone through. It's hard for me to grasp everything I've gone through in life, sometimes, even hard to remember. I've been through so much, seen so much, been to so many places, met so many people, cried so many nights, and it makes me feel really emotionally that, truly, no one in this world can say they know me as much as I know me. All I've experienced and felt. My home life is difficult because for all I've seen, change is not one of them. I hate change but I always wish for it in my household. I grow older now, and I get so nervous and sad because not only do I age, but so do those around me. I've developed depression and anxiety and have had them impact my life beyond belief. It's hard to remember how fucked up many days were and still are because I just can't realize it. Now I have this OCD, and it's a reminder that I have yet another thing I can't see impacting my life so much and terribly. It's so hard to believe that depression, anxiety, and OCD mess with our being and psyche so bad because out of all the things we experience, these are the only ones we cannot see. On days where I reflect like this, it lets me have some sympathy for me. And that's all I can ask for.
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Username
- Theocdguitarist
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Perfectionism OCD
- Relationship OCD
- POCD
- "Pure" OCD
I've been in therapy with NOCD since the beginning of this year. Looking back over the course of the year, therapy certainly brought me some comfort, but lately, I realized I wasn't quite going about it the right way. For most of my life, I've done talk-therapy sessions, where the goal is to talk out your problems in a rational way. I got good at this; so good, that during my therapy sessions, I felt like I wanted to talk about everything wrong in my life. I remember feeling so overwhelmed earlier this year to speak to my therapist, because our sessions are generally 30 minutes and I was always wondering how I could possibly discuss all my life problems in that short of a time. It took me until last month to really realize what ERP is; ERP is sitting with uncertainty. Not fighting it, avoiding it, or neutralizing it. Looking back on previous sessions, I think I always wanted to talk about my problems because I was too afraid to just sit with their uncertainty. However, I noticed that whenever I dumped my emotions and stress on the therapy table, I'd feel better for a few days, and it would all return again. Over the past 3 years, I've returned to the same talk therapist on and off again. He has helped me tremendously with repairing some of my relationships, but talk therapy doesn't work for OCD. When I'd walk into his office after a few months, he'd always ask, "so why are you here?" I never knew how to answer that question. Because it always felt so urgent for me to just talk to someone about my OCD. But that therapist didn't specialize in OCD, and his philosophy was that by "focusing on improving other areas of my life, my OCD symptoms would shrink." Which is true to a small extent. But my intrusive thoughts and rumination would keep coming back again and again. I felt hopeless and embarrassed to talk about my OCD. It felt like I was making excuses, and that I just wasn't strong enough to follow my talk therapist's advice. Like everyone else knew a secret ingredient to life that I didn't, and because I didn't, I was damned to repeat the same cycles my whole life. Luckily, that has changed lately. I'm realizing that I have been hunting for certainty for so long that I had forgotten that life is uncertain. Now in my ERP sessions, I focus on doing exposures and sitting with and through my discomfort. I'm not perfect at it, but I'm making progress. I'm comparing myself less to the other people in my life, and focusing more on my own growth. It is still so hard; I'm sitting down right now to make a budget for my finances, and I am terrified to do so. But I know that uncertainty is the key, and accepting it is my road to healing. I wish you all good luck on your ERP journey, and remember that uncertainty makes us human.
- Username
- Themechanger
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
Does anyone’s themes bounce around? Yesterday I was suffering heavy from contamination intrusive thoughts, today I am having thoughts that “what if I hit someone on my way home and didn’t realize” when reality is nobody was around on the road and I know I’d know if I hit someone. I have had high stress in life recently which I think is triggering this flare up. I just wanna be okay and I know I need to see a therapist but financially as a student that Isn’t in the cards right now. Anybody have advice for how to handle your mind consult dining new things to fixate on? In the last two years relationship and SO themes have been the ones I’ve struggled with, but these constant intrusive thoughts are all over the place and it’s less easy to cope now. Any advice appreciated! Thank You!
- Username
- Antito31
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Young adults with OCD
- Relationship OCD
- POCD
Hello, I come with a question that has me quite anxious. when I talked to my therapist about what Rumination is (I'm Chilean and sometimes the info changes from Spanish to English or they mention things in one language that they don't in the other) and he said that rumination is something unconscious, many times when I ruminate I don't realize it until hours later, but also many times I know that I am ruminating, turning my thoughts over and over again without being able to get out of that obsessive cycle, knowing that I am doing it would make it a conscious act, so I want to know if ruminating only occurs unconsciously or can also be consciously, one can also know and be aware of it but still be ruminating. I wanna know this so badly bc i generally notice my OCD attacking me when i feel the urge to do a compulsion (as rumination is), but if I’m not ruminating there is no compulsion, and that makes me think i don’t have ocd and that mu obssesions must be true :(
- Username
- tay.
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Relationship OCD
I question my partners every move.. he hurt me a lot in the past and now I assume it’s gonna happen again and I question everything. I ask him the same questions over and over for constant reassurance even tho I get the same answers and I know it’s draining him and the constant thoughts of what if he’s doing this or that are so exhausting.. I always wondered what was wrong with me why my thoughts don’t stop and am I obsessive over him and then I learned that rocd is a thing. Idk how to cope
- Username
- Anonymous_2
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Relationship OCD
This is a really hard week. My bf and I have been together for almost two years and it’s super healthy since I found out I have OCD and started therapy and medication but my brain is trying to convince me that I don’t love him enough because we’re in the comfort stage of love but it’s still so hard to just sit with these thoughts and feelings. It’s like I want to feel obsessed all the time to make sure I love him enough.
- Username
- Virgo!
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Relationship OCD
do you ever talk to friends about your relationship and then start thinking you aren’t being treated right or your partner doesn’t value you ? today I told my friend my bf is a bad texter and always has been and it bothers me but like it’s something about him that isn’t personal and we’ve talked about it before and she said that’s bad idk
- Username
- Ocd I don’t like these thoughts
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
And I am diagnosed with OCD. Somehow I don’t believe it. My thoughts are telling me that I was lying to my therapist and that he know that I’m lying. What if my thoughts are true. I’m so anxious
- Username
- Rous
- Date posted
- 492d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
- False Memory OCD
Does anyone else get really nervous when telling someone about OCD/the thoughts you’re struggling with? I’m going to talk to a spiritual mentor today about it and am feeling anxious.
- Username
- Ocd I don’t like these thoughts
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- "Pure" OCD
And I’m scared they gonna say I don’t have ocd. I’m so so scared. Can someone help me? And who has experienced this too?
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Students with OCD
So I’ve never had a boyfriend and I really want to have a relationship and I want someone to love and care about me, but I have never had my first kiss or even been on a date. My ocd makes me think the reason for that is that I’m gay. I have had crushes on guys but then I even start to doubt those. I’m afraid that once I do get a boyfriend that I won’t like them or be too afraid to get intimate. Which in my head “proves” I’m gay.. I hope you understand what im trying to say But the fact I typed the work gay 3 times is a step in the right direction for me
- Username
- lolathegoldenretriever
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
My intrusive thought that whenever there is comfortable silence between me and my girlfriend i think we’ll maybe this is a sign that you have nothing else to say and your not compatible and there isn’t a connect. This thought has being making me anxious for too long and I’m so annoyed at it. Ik me and her have a connection but this thought just eats at me.
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Username
- Beth172
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
Can OCD keep you from doing things you used to love? I used to write a lot of poetry but ever since rocd I feel like I can’t express myself because I’m afraid I’m going to find that I don’t love my partner as I write…like I’m scared I’m ignoring how I truly feel or something due to this? Anyway thanks everyone for this community! I hope all you beautiful people stay strong❤️
- Username
- lolathegoldenretriever
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
So I have grown use to being anxious around my girlfriend because of my intrusive thoughts. When I am doing fine I tend to be scared if I’ll be anxious again around her. Does that happened to anyone else?
- Username
- Cruella
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Existential OCD
- Relationship OCD
- Perfectionism OCD
- Religion & Spirituality OCD
I’m looking for ocd community in NWA, Does anyone else live here?
- Username
- Anonymous_2
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- OCD newbies
- Relationship OCD
I’m scared again that I don’t love my boyfriend enough. It makes me think that I’ll never feel it again and it makes my mind think that I’m in the wrong relationship but everything about it is right. I know it’s good and that I love him I just hate when my mind tries to think otherwise when I’m getting close to my period.
- Username
- Sero82
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
Somehow, my bookmarked info got wiped, and I had a bunch of good resources stored. If you all could be so kind to provide any books, youtubes, websites, etc. That provide info and help out with ROCD, SOOCD, etc. Thanks!
- Username
- KeepPushing
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
I’m not sure how to sentence the way I’m feeling, but it’s almost like I kinda just stopped arguing with the ocd thoughts and just let them be there, recently my hocd has turned into a voice saying “you’re gay” and I used to get anxious about it and start doing all this checking to see if I was and it would always end in me starting from stage 1 again However, recently I kinda just stopped caring, and even tho at first it felt like it was acceptance and it made me even more anxious, overall the anxiety came to a major decrease. Idk if you guys experience this but sometimes when I get a very detailed event or image of something sexual, it scares me and grossed me out, but then I really try to put myself in that situation to see if I would like it and my brain always spazzs out and my body tightens all across. That’s one of the ways Ik I wouldn’t enjoy it, but since it scares me so much my brain keeps bringing it back up
- Username
- Things will get better <3
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Students with OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- Relationship OCD
- Harm OCD
Accepting uncertainty is truly hard, having to sit with a bunch of questions in your head that you can’t answer. And anxiety that goes along with it . One question that I have for those who have recovered do you still deal with self-doubt or are you aware?
- Username
- AnnikaBC
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- OCD newbies
- Relationship OCD
I'm 1 year into a polyamorous relationship with my partner who I now live with and am a few months into an ROCD diagnosis and looking at it head on. Would love to hear from anyone else who is poly with ROCD about your experience, what has helped and really if it's possible that these 2 things can co exist. If you know of any online community groups or support groups please share!
- Username
- Cassandragoth
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
I know I enjoy having sex with my boyfriend, but I worry it’s not enough because I enjoy fantasizing about other things. I just feel weird about it. I know that fantasies are just fantasies but it just makes me feel like I don’t actually like my boyfriend and I’m not actually straight.
- Username
- ella473736
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
I constantly worry that it’s not my rocd kicking in and it’s just that I don’t like him in that way anymore or I don’t love him but I know I do and keep telling my self I do but then in my head im saying your trying to convince yourself when let’s be honest it’s just intrusive thoughts. This happens constantly where I worry about thoughts like this but then the next day I love him all of a sudden, I love spending time with him texting him and calling him it’s just my thoughts. It all started with my friend not liking her bf anymore but that was only because she didn’t like him fully from the start and i loved my bf from the start 100% is this just me?
- Username
- valeryortega
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
I have this friend we are friends with benefits anyway but me and my spoue separated and i feel like wagt if like this guy? I dont like him at all im aromantic but like what if i forget my spouse or what if idk i fall in love i dont want to and im scare i love them sk much (my spouse) i dont wanna idk is completed i jusy dont lkke this guy but what if i do?
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
Every time my partner does something that i like or she says something that I would say I always get so upset. It seems like my brain thinks that she copy paste me or that because she is woman and I am woman we have too much common and it’s a problem. I don’t know how to change my attitude towards it because I’m afraid if I’m going to think differently about it it will be as compulsion . Like I’m so sad she likes it too and instead of think that actually no I’m excited too for it! It really upsets me all the time and I don’t want her to stop do thinks that she likes to do.
- Username
- manuh ⋆ ˚。⋆
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
I've been pretty bad about the relationship ocd, I know the fears of those who are going through it, and I still have my difficult moments, but now I want to advise those who are going through it! It's simple things I did, but that helped me a lot! 1- Talk to your partner. This is very important, even if you are not very intimate, it is necessary for the other to know that your behavior has a reason! Gradually explain your fears, and what ROCD is, at first it may be difficult for your partner to understand, but this is for the best of both parties. 2- Face your fears! It was one of the hardest things to do! But do you know everything that causes you anxiety? And what makes you create imaginary scenarios? I was afraid to talk to people and listen to music that gave me thoughts! Everything that you avoid, try to start doing, of course, little by little! 3- Compulsions. If your head says you need to do it one more time to be sure, be strong! And don't! Show your brain that you are in control! And try to do the things you avoid even having the thoughts! You need to be really strong to deal with anxiety, and it will feel really bad at first, but try it for yourself! 4- You don't need to confession. You don't have to tell your partner all your thoughts for this to give you temporary relief. Learn to separate what is really important, only tell if you really do something very wrong and that harms your partner. 5- Be kind to yourself. Learn that we all make mistakes, you don't have to condemn yourself for it! But don't think that just because it's okay to fail that you shouldn't try to improve. 6- You are in control of your actions. Things don't happen magically, there are mistakes that can be avoided, you just need to be aware, always think if it were the other way around, if it were your partner doing what you are thinking of doing, such as giving intimacy to other people, flirting with others people and make jokes about. This is not cool, take responsibility for your actions, because your partner is not obliged to forgive you. 7- Feel butterflies... Understand that it's normal not to feel totally attracted or in love with your partner all the time, and that's completely normal. There are times we feel more in love, there are times we miss our partner so much, and there are times we don't, and that's okay! That's it, I'll be answering comments if you have any questions, I'll try to help! Good luck 💗
- Username
- manuh ⋆ ˚。⋆
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
Things get better! believe me! there can be bad days yes, we are human and we make small mistakes every day! but gradually and without haste we can improve! I went through a horrible time this year with OCD but now I'm much better! just learn to deal with our disease and face it ♡
- Username
- KeepPushing
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
I grew up in a very loving household that treated everyone that walked in there like family, I always had love for all of my close friends and looked at them as family, and I always loved being the person that would uplift people and spread positivity and love. But now HOCD is making me rethink all of those past events as “what if I was attracted to me friends” I know that’s not the case but I hate that it’s gotten to this point. Anyone else struggle with showing love to friends?
- Username
- Swapnil Bisht
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Mid-life adults with OCD
Due to which I get myself admitted to Rehab Centers and this time really receiving the treatment for ocd since last 7 months.Intaking Flunil 20 Capsule once a day at the moment.But I really don't know about my alcohol craving or obsession as I would call it once I am out of the Rehab Environment.I am a practising lawyer at High Court.But adversely affected due to ocd ailment.
- Username
- Ocd I don’t like these thoughts
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
Everytime I have a thought, I start panicking. To relax myself I watch How I met your mother. But is this a compulsion?
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 493d ago
- Relationship OCD
Anyone have specific mantras or things they tell their ocd when they’re scared they’re not attracted enough to their partner? My compulsions to check for that feel very automatic.
- Username
- kiki♡
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
To my fellow ROCDers... what do you tell your partner(s)? I am at a loss of how to talk about it without giving details that would just hurt (ex: I don't feel in love with you, I am embarrassed by you, etc etc.). My partner told me it's very difficult to understand my anxiety because I mostly say I can't talk about it. Any advice on what you've done would be so helpful!
- Username
- KeepPushing
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
I’ve been doing research on the difference between the two and it says that HOCD is lead by anxiety, while denial is lead by fear. This has been one of the most confusing parts about this process for me What if they thought of becoming homosexual scares me, isn’t that fear? But I also feel anxiety. I feel like it’s not that simple to make a distinction between the two. Anyone have any other way of differentiating the two?
- Username
- Things will get better <3
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- NOCD Therapy Alumni
- Relationship OCD
- Harm OCD
- Young adults with OCD
I don’t understand what accepting uncertainty is there’s many messages about it. Is there a simple way to understand it ?
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Relationship OCD
Hello! Question: does anyone else worry that their relationship has always been hard and will always be hard? I’m wondering if this is common to others with ROCD. (Of course, the underlying fear is that this feeling is NOT ROCD, that it just means he’s wrong for me…so if anyone has had this and gotten through it, that would be useful to know.) I also have a difficult time telling when asking questions here is good and when it’s reassurance seeking.
- Username
- Things will get better <3
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- NOCD Therapy Alumni
- Relationship OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- Harm OCD
I know self doubt is a big part of ocd, but for those who have recovered is that self doubt still there?
- Username
- kmobes
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Relationship OCD
- False Memory OCD
I’m so sick of living life with these awful thoughts all the time. It feels like it will never end no matter what I do and I’m so scared and sad all the time. I wish there was an all-seeing person who could make moral decisions for me because being a person is so hard and I’m so done with it.
- Username
- Corinneeble
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Mid-life adults with OCD
- Relationship OCD
My boyfriend said he is tired and we don't live together he usually comes over for a bit after work. So now my head is spinning thinking he is "tired" and doesn't want to spend time with me because he doesn't like me or I said something annoying. I was being silly earlier probably a little obnoxious so I feel like me being obnoxious might have made him not want to hang out with me. He said he will see me later but now if I text anything my head had convinced me I'm being annoying or needy. I'm not sure how to stop the spinning head
- Username
- kiki♡
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
Anybody have the same set of thoughts that just KEEP coming up even after 15 years? I am seeing an ocd specialist now, but I'm wondering if anybody here has had an obsession this constant?
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Relationship OCD
Does yalls ROCD focus on yalls partners flaws and amplify them to make you doubt if you are making a mistake?
- Username
- kmobes
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Relationship OCD
I have ROCD, and it’s coming back so much right now most likely because I’m at home for break and I left for school with severe ROCD. It ducks because I just want to be calm and happy. I’m thinking about literally every single thing my boyfriend has ever said or done and I keep ruminating about breaking up even though I don’t want to. It’s to the point where I don’t even want to eat
- Username
- Shannon
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
How often is normal to have relapses/flare ups of OCD? I go weeks with nothing or managing it then it can cripple me for weeks at a time.
- Username
- LittleSoubrette
- Date posted
- 494d ago
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
Hey all, could really use some support today. Right now, I’m going through a relapse of my OCD and I feel especially bad about it. When I first started getting treatment for OCD in 2017, I thought everything was going to be great. I did ERP for a while but had to stop it prematurely because of some scheduling issues. I was fine for two years, then I relapsed again. Started doing ERP again and came out of it. But after two years, it happened again. I was more aggressive with my ERP after my last relapse and that seemed to help. This time, I went three years without a relapse, but here we are again. I feel guilty because I feel like I didn’t do ERP as much as I should have the first time around. I really thought I was in recovery because my intrusive thoughts had ceased and when they did pop up, I felt like I was managing them better than I ever had. Part of me feels like a failure because I feel like no one else who had OCD has relapsed this much. I’m back to doing ERP with a therapist again and I don’t want to make the same mistakes I did in the past. But my history of OCD and therapy for it is making me worried that this pattern will just keep continuing. Any advice?
- Username
- Bald Is Beautiful
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Real Events OCD
Does anyone else constantly feel like every ocd trait they have is ruining all of their personal relationships and causing so much hardship YET in other aspects of your life such as work, business, money, fitness, it can be a super power and you're constantly in a struggle between one area of life such as work which has done nothing but reward the terrible ocd traits all your life but then for personal cause crippling anxiety and pain?! I'm in this constant back and forth and for several years I was praised for my successes and then now 7 years with my wife we are in so many fights and every single symptom is causing so much pain. 😢
- Username
- hiitsemmy
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
Anyone have any tride and true erp methods for helping rocd? The main things im struggling wtih right now are doubting that I like/ attracted to my partner and doubting that he actually cares about me. I’m also feeling particularly sensitive to everything he says and also silence. Any tips for helping this would be much appreciated :)
- Username
- EndangeredHobbit
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Harm OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
Hey guys, I talked to my counsellor/therapist yesterday and it irritated me. My psychiatrist wrote down that she believes I have OCD but my therapist was saying he thinks I have split personality. The reason behind this is because I tried to explain what I was going through like when I get my harm thoughts/images it’s as if I’m looking through the eyes of the individual and my brain puts it together as it’s me. Or when I get my relationship thoughts and feelings because my brain tries to tell me that my fiancée and I should break up even though I don’t want to and it gives me massive anxiety, my therapist says something like it seems like there’s a lot of pint up anger… but there’s not and I don’t know how to explain it besides saying there’s a good and bad side like a war in there and the good side is the real me and the bad side is the intrusive thoughts/feelings/images.
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- krying
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Harm OCD
- Young adults with OCD
I want to free my boyfriend from this compulsive behavior but i cant stop hes sleeping on the couch and wants me to get better but i had an episode over an eyelash i found and the confessed everything i never forgave him for help
- Username
- jmmm
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Health Concern OCD
- Relationship OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Somatic OCD
Does anyone have a spike in their anxiety and ocd symptoms now that winter weather is coming (in the northern hemisphere). I was fine all summer and proud of how far I’d come but now my anxiety is spiking and I feel like I’m spiraling.
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Health Concern OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- Relationship OCD
Does anyone deal with superstitious ocd ? Kinda hard to explain but the past few years I’ve been dealing with it. I went to a psychic and she told me I was going to get married and be with a certain guy by the age I am now. I started dating him and things around working out and I feel like if we break up my ocd makes me think I’m dying. ( I’ve had health issue the last year and my health ocd has been so bad) whenever I hear about the same illness on the tv or someone talking about it it also makes me feel like the universe is sending me a message to confirm it. Anyway me and this guy broke up yesterday now my ocd is triggered making me believe it didn’t work out because I’m. “ dying”
- Username
- Huttmutt!
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
- Perfectionism OCD
I know I’m pansexual. I was raised in a very strict and homophobic environment. Didn’t know that bisexuality could exist until I was nearly sixteen. I’m 21. Still feel like I have to “choose a side”. My partner is non-binary — clearly I haven’t chosen a side 🤣 but god I hate these thoughts. I hate that I overthink every aspect of my relationship. That I can’t simply enjoy my love, my life. I want to be okay again — I was for five years. Before the thoughts started again, the constant pressing, all consuming anxiety. I’m so fucking depressed. I only feel okay when I’m warm and have a substance in me. Which then makes me panic that I’m becoming an alcoholic or pothead, even though I don’t exceed two drinks or 5mg a night. I just want to be okay again. God, I wish I was okay again. I can’t even smile for photos without it being obvious I’m lying. That I’m not fine. That I want this part to be over. I want to live, I want to smile. I want to go on trips, go to work, go to sleep without dreading what the next day brings. Will I ever get there? I don’t know. And that kills me.
- Username
- Antito31
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
- POCD
Is rumination unconscious or conscious? And why
- Username
- Shannon
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
I have been doing really well but now it’s hit me again but it feels as if I don’t care. I switch between ROCD and SOOCD. Tonight I had a goodnight with my partner and friends but got a thought of ‘I don’t want this’- I usually find it hard being around people Drinking as I’m sober so it’s not unusual for me to be slightly less tolerant. I confessed to my boyfriend and he said ‘if you are spending an evening thinking you shouldn’t be with me then you shouldn’t be’. This isn’t great to hear but I also feel like I don’t care. I don’t want to feel this or have these thoughts but they do happen often. Not sure if my ‘lack of feeling’ is because there isn’t any OR if because I’m so used to OCD it’s hard to feel that extreme anxiety anymore. I so want to make my relationship work but this is pretty much never ending. What’s the solution? Doubting this is OCD anymore.
- Username
- cg2017
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
Does anyone else with OCD simultaneously struggle with sex performance anxiety and other performance issues? Not looking for reassurance - I’m just interested to hear if anyone else struggles with the same issues and what has been helpful for them.
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Relationship OCD
Hi everyone. I’m 21 and I’m a realtor. I struggle so hard with relationship ocd and anxiety. The last encounter I had with my client is killing me, like I cannot move right now or replaying how I might have ruined a deal. It stated off well, I was anxious but I showed them a few houses. They didn’t like the last house (#5) and walked out immediately because they are allergic to smell of dogs which I didn’t know. I apologized and said I hope you enjoy the tour. I get so awkward and anxious ending any encounters, and I feel like I made them uncomfortable and they are not gonna want to put an offer on a home because of Me. They said they wanted to and will give me a call back, but I am dreading it because my anxiety and I feel like my personality ruined the deal. Guys, please help me, I cannot stop panicking. I cannot move rn, I cannot stop crying. I feel so anxious
- Username
- sazza123
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Real Events OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- False Memory OCD
- Relationship OCD
Hi all, guilt is crippling me. Partner and I have been together 8 years. 4 years ago I went out and got drunk. Passed out and an ambulance was called; the following day at work my colleague said he had kissed me. We had banter at work but he really wasn’t my cup of tea, but after the kiss it confused me. Mainly because of the cheating narrative that you wanted to do it etc! Once a cheater always a cheater. My partner forgave me, stating that he thinks I was in a terrible state that I couldn’t have known what was going on (he was the one the paramedics called, so he saw 1st hand how bad I was) I have now been sober for a year but the guilt kills me, it also makes my ROCD bad because it’s says you don’t cheat on people you love etc. when we are intimate I get flashbacks to snippets of the night, such as falling over and the paramedics. I feel like nobody has ever been through this so my OCD just can’t relate. I feel like a monster for cheating and for getting in such a state. What can I do to make this better? It’s really taking it’s toll on
- Username
- jackiag862
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Relationship OCD
Can someone tell me how many times a day and/or for how long I should be doing exposures? I need some guidance on this. I need like a schedule. My ROCD is horrific and all I think about all day is my anxiety and intrusive thoughts. I’m so irritable all the time. I’m terrified I don’t actually love my fiancé. That he’s the wrong one, that everything will be ruined or I fell out of love. It’s all I think about. I’m just scared.
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- Ocd I don’t like these thoughts
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Relationship OCD
And I’m scared my SO-OCD will be triggered… anyone tips?
- Username
- kmobes
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Relationship OCD
I’m so annoyed, my ROCD was really bad during the summer, then it mostly went away for a while, but now it’s starting to come back and I’m getting triggered by everything he does and I don’t know why. I think part of it is because we’ve both been sick for like 2 weeks, therefore, we haven’t been talking or doing fun things together as often. I also wonder if I’m flaring up because I’m a home and have to isolate bc of covid. I just hope this goes away because I just want to be able to relax…
- Username
- LSea2021
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
I haven’t posted in many months, but when I was deepest in my OCD despair I remember people’s treatment stories giving me hope. This time last year I was inconsolable. I felt disconnected from real life because of how much time I was spending in my own mind. I could hardly work, barely could participate in my relationship with my fiancé, and found myself in hysterics more often than not. I was overwhelmed, I was consumed. My main themes were SOOCD and ROCD—incredibly challenging themes to battle. For anyone battling them now, I and so many others here see you. You are not alone. A year ago I hit rock bottom on a Thanksgiving visit to my husband’s parent’s house. I disrupted the whole trip with my instability. I privately scribbled in my journal about how terrified I was, and how I knew the thoughts weren’t me but I didn’t know how to make them stop. A week later I learned about OCD. A month later I stated ERP. A year later I am feeling safer and cozier in my life than I’ve ever felt. I still have the thoughts about the same themes, even some new themes that try to latch every once in awhile. The difference is now I have the tools to let go of the thoughts, because that’s all they truly are: a string of words or images I’ve simply made up. I noticed they’re worse when I’m sick, tired, or stressed. A year later and, for the first time in my life, sometimes I don’t have a single thought in my brain at all. I can just be alive. You can make it through this.
- Username
- mfa
- Date posted
- 495d ago
- Relationship OCD
I love my partner we are in a perfect place with no issues they are everything i have ever wanted. yet i still cant get rid of the intrusive thoughts telling me that this isnt right and that we need to break up and it leaves me with terrible anxiety and affects me physically. how can i tell if this is the ocd at work or if i should take this as a gut feeling and give in?
- Username
- rachelOz
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- Mid-life adults with OCD
I have a bestie that i see very often. She has sometimes got a very vague non expressive look on her face when I ask her something and it triggers me as I need to know what others are thinking or it sets off my ROCD. She’s the kindest person but doesn’t always be straight up. How do i cope with this on a regular basis ?? Do i open up and tell her? Most of my friends are very open and which I see I need as I really don’t handle feelings of uncertainty when people don’t tell me what they are thinking.
- Username
- Anonymously2
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Relationship OCD
- "Pure" OCD
It’s so weird, yesterday I said on this app that I struggled with thoughts if I love him enough and worry about that intensely. Now it has completely switched and I’m scared he doesn’t love me or I’m doing to much/less and he has grown tired of me. Now I’m looking for certainty he loves me. Why do I have such switches?!
- Username
- Things will get better <3
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Suicidal OCD
- Harm OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- Relationship OCD
I’m not seeking for reassurance, but I wanna know if anyone gets to a point like this with their ocd. I just had a huge melt down started to cry uncontrollably because these thoughts are so controlling and I don’t ever want to hurt anybody I don’t understand what’s wrong. I’m afraid of my own mind :(
- Username
- halem77
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Relationship OCD
- Health Concern OCD
- "Pure" OCD
- Harm OCD
Has anyone tried Wellbutrin with Zoloft ? I’ve been on Zoloft which definitely helps but the side effects (weight gain and loss of libido) were really bothering me. Since starting Wellbutrin I’ve been more anxious though. I don’t know what to do at this point medication wise. Thanks!
- Username
- allie05
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Relationship OCD
the past few weeks i’ve been doing better. UNTIL a friend of mine made a joke about the fact that my boyfriend and I “act like we don’t care about each other but are just dating.”This hurts so bad because it’s what I’m most fearful of. What if it’s true? What if my ocd isn’t even ocd and it’s just a gut feeling? Whatever it is, it hurts and I can’t do constant questioning anymore. I need help.
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Username
- _Meh
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- "Pure" OCD
- Perfectionism OCD
- Relationship OCD
I’m in a LDR and I have a question. I had this intrusive thought about me having a crush on someone and I ended up ruminating on it and for some reason there’s no anxiety 😭😭😭😭 does this mean I like this person and I’m not in love anymore with my boyfriend. I remember all the things that my boyfriend does that I love and everything about him, but I just can’t seem to refocus. Like this person that I may have a crush on isn’t even that great of a person. He’s just has one good trait and that he’s a good Christian. My boyfriend is also a good Christian and has many more good things about him that are great. But idk. I’m so sad.
- Username
- taylebrun
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Relationship OCD
Does your Rocd ever make your partner feel like a stranger. My brain keeps saying that “you’re only dating him so you won’t be alone” when in reality I have many friends and a loving family. I would rather spend time with him. It’s so frustrating!!!
- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Relationship OCD
Does anyone else feel fine, no anxiety when you are alone. Or distracted from your partner. And not talking to them? Like you have no care in the world. Everything is fine. But then the second you think about them/remember, the anxiety comes back?
- Username
- sunshineforest
- Date posted
- 496d ago
- Relationship OCD
Hello I have extreme relationship OCD. I am terrified of cheating. I have withdrawn from my male best friend because of it and I'm scared about how it might seem on my partner (like he might be controlling), so I went and explained that it's just because of an anxiety thing and swore that it was nothing to do with my boyfriend. But I'm kind of pissed off with my bf at the moment so I feel like I'm emotionally cheating / going to someone else. When really I'm just trying to clear his name. i'm so scared, i feel sick
- Username
- positivityyyyy
- Date posted
- 497d ago
- Relationship OCD
Can I treat ROCD while single? Or do I have to be in a relationship?
- Username
- Cry me a river
- Date posted
- 497d ago
- Relationship OCD
Anyone else in a long distance relationship?