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- tia776
- Date posted
- 5y ago
You're asking for reassurance right now!! I know it's really scary, but the right way to approach this is 'If I'm gay, then I'm gay'. I knooow it sounds completely terrifying right now, but if you keep telling yourself that it doesn't matter and it will be okay no matter what, you will get out of this! I had Hocd as well a few times. The theme kept coming back haunting me, but with the right approach, it goes away. You will be alright, I promise ❤️
Yeah and remember sexuality is on a spectrum. Not saying that you are gay - but don't afraid of losing your attraction to men - because so many bi sexual girls end up marrying men! But I don't want to trigger you anyway I just want to let you know there's no fear there. Also I'm 100% sure you're straight because this internal anxiety is a massive symptom of OCD. I had the same thing and I realised that this isn't want attraction feels like -- this is just over the top fear running through my body. Hope this helps :)
No, I had only pure obsessional ocd. I would think " what if what if what if" all the time. But it doesn't matter if you have thoughts, images, sensations, urges, uncertaines... I approach them the same. It's the same thing! Dismiss all of them. Don't take them seriously. You are not your thoughts. If it scares you, you are super aware of who you really are. People with ocd have a very high sense of morality and it is very hard for them to admit that there could be a difference in their life (such as being gay) I've had this theme for sooo long and I couldn't even talk about it (Which is a big mistake). You have to expose to such things. Listen to podcasts about different sexual orientations, watch movies about gay people and so on. Expose yourself to such situations and the anxiety will decrease. AND DON'T FORGET! TREAT THOSE SENSATIONS THE SAME AS THE URGES, IMAGES, THOUGHTS.. They are the same! They don't represent you!!!
I had as well a „coming-out“ by my parents. My strongly religious mom was annoyed, that I didn’t work, so as well my mother said: „it doesn’t matter, if you are gay, please just work!” I know now I don’t care if I am, but my mother tells me sometimes: “look he is hot, he has a nice body, are you looking guys on phone?” I just laugh now and think: “seriously, do you think i’m gay?”. I don’t care anymore ??♂️ and I appreciate you to accept these thoughts (as well it’s hard as hell)
I'm just so terrified everytime I get those freaking groinals , whenever they come, I just think that I'll lose control and I'll be 100% attracted to women
If you are now attracted to male sexe, you’ll be in the future
Hey miru10 , have you ever struggled with groinal sensations, and if so, how have you overcome it?
Groinals have ruined my life I spend hours each day checking for tjem
Same
i don’t have hocd, but i am a queer individual and just wanted to reiterate that sexuality is based on a spectrum! not everyone’s sexuality is purely black and white, so don’t feel that you have to label yourself!
But that’s the thing I WANT to be straight
@ihatecalculus That’s nice of ya :)
@zidzad with high probability you are
I’ve never heard of HOCD. When I read about it, it says “fear of being homosexual when you are straight or vice versa,” yet it’s still called “homosexual OCD.” I’m a lesbian and I am having a hard time wrapping my head around this concept because honestly the symptoms sound kind of homophobic? Constantly FEARING you might be gay? I’m trying to think of it from other people’s perspective and trying not to be insensitive, it’s just that when I was questioning my sexuality it’s because I was actually gay, and the symptoms sound a lot like someone just discovering their sexuality but being struck with fear and hiding it. Thoughts?
i would feel so much better if my parents and family weren’t so homophobic ugh. i’m SO afraid of lesbian, mainly because of the things i would have to go through after coming out. this isn’t supposed to be reassurance but, do people usually have an OCD theme and primarily fear the outcome of a situation?? for example, the possibility of me being lesbian doesn’t scare me (it does make me uncomfortable though, given that i’ve been attracted to guys my whole life), it’s the fact that if i were lesbian, my family would probably not support me or ever look at me the same again. does that make sense??
This may sound like a stupid question... but what is the difference between having hocd and actually being gay, but you’re in denial. I used to freak out and worry constantly if I was gay, but it’s been a few years now and I just feel like what if I am gay. I don’t really freak out, but my family is very traditional.
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