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You're asking for reassurance right now!! I know it's really scary, but the right way to approach this is 'If I'm gay, then I'm gay'. I knooow it sounds completely terrifying right now, but if you keep telling yourself that it doesn't matter and it will be okay no matter what, you will get out of this! I had Hocd as well a few times. The theme kept coming back haunting me, but with the right approach, it goes away. You will be alright, I promise ❤️
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Yeah and remember sexuality is on a spectrum. Not saying that you are gay - but don't afraid of losing your attraction to men - because so many bi sexual girls end up marrying men! But I don't want to trigger you anyway I just want to let you know there's no fear there. Also I'm 100% sure you're straight because this internal anxiety is a massive symptom of OCD. I had the same thing and I realised that this isn't want attraction feels like -- this is just over the top fear running through my body. Hope this helps :)
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No, I had only pure obsessional ocd. I would think " what if what if what if" all the time. But it doesn't matter if you have thoughts, images, sensations, urges, uncertaines... I approach them the same. It's the same thing! Dismiss all of them. Don't take them seriously. You are not your thoughts. If it scares you, you are super aware of who you really are. People with ocd have a very high sense of morality and it is very hard for them to admit that there could be a difference in their life (such as being gay) I've had this theme for sooo long and I couldn't even talk about it (Which is a big mistake). You have to expose to such things. Listen to podcasts about different sexual orientations, watch movies about gay people and so on. Expose yourself to such situations and the anxiety will decrease. AND DON'T FORGET! TREAT THOSE SENSATIONS THE SAME AS THE URGES, IMAGES, THOUGHTS.. They are the same! They don't represent you!!!
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I had as well a „coming-out“ by my parents. My strongly religious mom was annoyed, that I didn’t work, so as well my mother said: „it doesn’t matter, if you are gay, please just work!” I know now I don’t care if I am, but my mother tells me sometimes: “look he is hot, he has a nice body, are you looking guys on phone?” I just laugh now and think: “seriously, do you think i’m gay?”. I don’t care anymore ??♂️ and I appreciate you to accept these thoughts (as well it’s hard as hell)
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I'm just so terrified everytime I get those freaking groinals , whenever they come, I just think that I'll lose control and I'll be 100% attracted to women
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If you are now attracted to male sexe, you’ll be in the future
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Hey miru10 , have you ever struggled with groinal sensations, and if so, how have you overcome it?
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Groinals have ruined my life I spend hours each day checking for tjem
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Same
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i don’t have hocd, but i am a queer individual and just wanted to reiterate that sexuality is based on a spectrum! not everyone’s sexuality is purely black and white, so don’t feel that you have to label yourself!
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But that’s the thing I WANT to be straight
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@ihatecalculus That’s nice of ya :)
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@zidzad with high probability you are
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- 24w
I keep having this weird feeling none stop that it’s most likely not HOCD and most my feelings. Like I’ve suffered none stop distress and unwanted thoughts the past few days. But those thoughts after a bit just feel weird not the kind of discomfort but are just their and stale. When I look at a guy I don’t feel anything but my thoughts sometimes compliment his looks or personality which makes me doubt my sexuality. I’ve never felt this weirded out. Because I’ve always been straight and still believe I am but I’ve never even had an emotional connection to someone of the opposite gender in fact. My view of the female body has been ruined with none stop pornography addictions. I don’t believe I’m gay but I feel like it may just be denial instead of HOCD but all my symptoms are literally HOCD. I don’t hate the idea of gay people but I can’t imagine or see my heart going off to like someone of the same sex. I haven’t really had any meaningful real life friends besides online but that also ended a few months ago. My only friend ever online that was my friend for the longest of time was a queer but I never really cared about what he liked. Like yes at some point I did try to challenge him with his own feelings but that didn’t last long I just accepted what he liked and moved on. I’ve never even touched let alone held a long conversation with a female. I’ve always been timid and shy around them but I can just say that towards male as well. The gay feelings feel so real. The thoughts feel a bit natural to me but I don’t want this. But I hate how I can’t just move on and be myself and love women when those thoughts demand attention and an answer. It won’t quit it. If I try to do a compulsion it calms down but it quickly becomes a problem again. I’m lonely I don’t have any friends or past relationships I can even think of helping me with the emotions. I still believe I’m straight and I just can’t see myself with a guy. It just doesn’t feel right for me despite my lack of experiences. I just wanna go back to how I was happy and loving girls and not having to question if it was a real feeling or just my natural timid nature. Everytime I think these distressing thoughts I always just wanna sit down and close my eyes and sleep. Because that’s where I can have peace of self. It sucks but I’m so exhausted of having to deal with emotional distress and I can’t even focus on my job as much. I want to meet new people discover my love for women again but I’m scared in the process I may discover I may be gay. Because deep down I know I wouldn’t ever be happy with myself if my greatest fears where confirmed. My dream of always being a father with a loving women and kids would be torn away by something I never asked for. Yes I’m religious, yes I come from a place that homosexuals are usually seen in a bad light. I just hate feeling this emotion that I may not be what I thought and having my dreams torn apart maybe true. I’ve read MUTIPLE articles about HOCD and seen MUTIPLE videos. I’ve come to the realization that I most likely have it. But it’s still hard when the feelings of maybe being gay maybe true you know? I hope I get better I hope I don’t suffer. I just wanna be happy with myself and loving females and I don’t wanna hate myself for feeling an emotion that never occurred to me more then a few times.
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it feels like i accepted being gay and thats part of who i am but i still feel that tension and fake attraction whenever i see a man and i feel like i could be able to have a sexual intercourse with a man even though i dont want it is it still hocd or just denial? like i am feeling okey but there is still that doubt that how can i know that im not gay if i dont get disgusted by gay things or gay personality traits and at the same time i want to feel normal again like before
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I’ve been struggling with HOCD for years, and it started with an intrusive thought about being gay when I was younger. It came up at age 12 and ever since, I’ve been trapped in a cycle of doubt and anxiety. I obsess over whether or not I’m secretly gay, even though I don’t feel that way at all. What makes it worse is the fear that I might have internalized homophobia, and that’s why I’m having these obsessive thoughts. I worry that my anxiety is a sign that I’m repressing something or rejecting part of myself. It feels like my mind keeps repeating the same question—am I gay?—and no matter how much reassurance I get, the fear doesn’t go away. I used to pray for my family members, fearing that if I didn’t, something bad would happen to them, and now it feels like I have to control these thoughts, or something will go wrong. For a while, it was quieter, but a week ago, the thoughts spiraled up again, and now the anxiety feels overwhelming again. It’s exhausting, and I don’t know how to break free from this constant loop of doubt. Has anyone dealt with the fear of internalized homophobia alongside HOCD? How do you manage the anxiety that comes with it?
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