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You're asking for reassurance right now!! I know it's really scary, but the right way to approach this is 'If I'm gay, then I'm gay'. I knooow it sounds completely terrifying right now, but if you keep telling yourself that it doesn't matter and it will be okay no matter what, you will get out of this! I had Hocd as well a few times. The theme kept coming back haunting me, but with the right approach, it goes away. You will be alright, I promise ❤️
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Yeah and remember sexuality is on a spectrum. Not saying that you are gay - but don't afraid of losing your attraction to men - because so many bi sexual girls end up marrying men! But I don't want to trigger you anyway I just want to let you know there's no fear there. Also I'm 100% sure you're straight because this internal anxiety is a massive symptom of OCD. I had the same thing and I realised that this isn't want attraction feels like -- this is just over the top fear running through my body. Hope this helps :)
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No, I had only pure obsessional ocd. I would think " what if what if what if" all the time. But it doesn't matter if you have thoughts, images, sensations, urges, uncertaines... I approach them the same. It's the same thing! Dismiss all of them. Don't take them seriously. You are not your thoughts. If it scares you, you are super aware of who you really are. People with ocd have a very high sense of morality and it is very hard for them to admit that there could be a difference in their life (such as being gay) I've had this theme for sooo long and I couldn't even talk about it (Which is a big mistake). You have to expose to such things. Listen to podcasts about different sexual orientations, watch movies about gay people and so on. Expose yourself to such situations and the anxiety will decrease. AND DON'T FORGET! TREAT THOSE SENSATIONS THE SAME AS THE URGES, IMAGES, THOUGHTS.. They are the same! They don't represent you!!!
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I had as well a „coming-out“ by my parents. My strongly religious mom was annoyed, that I didn’t work, so as well my mother said: „it doesn’t matter, if you are gay, please just work!” I know now I don’t care if I am, but my mother tells me sometimes: “look he is hot, he has a nice body, are you looking guys on phone?” I just laugh now and think: “seriously, do you think i’m gay?”. I don’t care anymore ??♂️ and I appreciate you to accept these thoughts (as well it’s hard as hell)
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I'm just so terrified everytime I get those freaking groinals , whenever they come, I just think that I'll lose control and I'll be 100% attracted to women
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If you are now attracted to male sexe, you’ll be in the future
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Hey miru10 , have you ever struggled with groinal sensations, and if so, how have you overcome it?
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Groinals have ruined my life I spend hours each day checking for tjem
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Same
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i don’t have hocd, but i am a queer individual and just wanted to reiterate that sexuality is based on a spectrum! not everyone’s sexuality is purely black and white, so don’t feel that you have to label yourself!
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But that’s the thing I WANT to be straight
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@ihatecalculus That’s nice of ya :)
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@zidzad with high probability you are
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If you truly aren''t homophobic you wouldn't be afraid of being gay unless in very specific cases of bisexual cycling, what is the difference?
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I’ve been struggling with HOCD for years, and it started with an intrusive thought about being gay when I was younger. It came up at age 12 and ever since, I’ve been trapped in a cycle of doubt and anxiety. I obsess over whether or not I’m secretly gay, even though I don’t feel that way at all. What makes it worse is the fear that I might have internalized homophobia, and that’s why I’m having these obsessive thoughts. I worry that my anxiety is a sign that I’m repressing something or rejecting part of myself. It feels like my mind keeps repeating the same question—am I gay?—and no matter how much reassurance I get, the fear doesn’t go away. I used to pray for my family members, fearing that if I didn’t, something bad would happen to them, and now it feels like I have to control these thoughts, or something will go wrong. For a while, it was quieter, but a week ago, the thoughts spiraled up again, and now the anxiety feels overwhelming again. It’s exhausting, and I don’t know how to break free from this constant loop of doubt. Has anyone dealt with the fear of internalized homophobia alongside HOCD? How do you manage the anxiety that comes with it?
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So I’m afraid that I have HOCD, but at the same time that I might also be homosexual. Is that possible? I have all the typical compulsions… checking for attraction, analyzing thoughts, analyzing the past, analyzing emotions, searching the internet. Is it really HOCD? When I see anything related to LGBT, I get strongly triggered. Sometimes I observe how my body reacts around people, but most often I check with ChatGPT to calm myself down, although it doesn’t last long—it depends. I also compare myself to other straight women who look like lesbians, or to lesbians who look like they’re straight. I had a phase where I was analyzing my body… whether I have too much hair, whether I have an Adam’s apple, whether I act like a lesbian without realizing it. I also have the typical intrusive thoughts like “did something from the past actually mean something, or is it a sign?” “am I just lying to myself?” “what if I’m in denial?” “what if I’ve ignored signs my whole life and lied to myself?” “what if I’ll never be able to fall in love with a guy?” “what if there are too many signs and proofs and it’s true?” “what if it’s not HOCD at all?” And much more. But now I’m scared that it’s both—that I have HOCD and that I’m homosexual. I’ve cried multiple times because of this and it’s been going on for 7 months. Some days are better, some are worse. And there’s so much ‘evidence’ that I won’t even list now—over these seven months I’ve found so many things from my past and dreams that I feel like there has to be something to it. I’ve also had around four panic attacks because of this. And I truly believe I have HOCD and that I’m also homosexual, which is killing me and it feels horrible. I just want to be sure that im straight and be at peace. When im doubting and thinking that im a lesbian i feel like im not at peace and i hate it. But u feel like i just need to accept it but i don’t want to and i just want to have a boyfriend, kids but im scared that it’s not possible for me because im lesbian and i actually just think that i want a boyfriend but in reality i don’t. Ughhhh help me.
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