So I've been told that the difference between hocd and being gay is that when you are gay your only fear is with regards to how your family and friends will react to this. But me on the other hand, I've caught myself a couple of times thinking that if I were gay, I would dissapoint my family and I would get treated badly. Please tell me I'm not the only one

You're asking for reassurance right now!! I know it's really scary, but the right way to approach this is 'If I'm gay, then I'm gay'. I knooow it sounds completely terrifying right now, but if you keep telling yourself that it doesn't matter and it will be okay no matter what, you will get out of this! I had Hocd as well a few times. The theme kept coming back haunting me, but with the right approach, it goes away. You will be alright, I promise ❤️

Yeah and remember sexuality is on a spectrum. Not saying that you are gay - but don't afraid of losing your attraction to men - because so many bi sexual girls end up marrying men! But I don't want to trigger you anyway I just want to let you know there's no fear there. Also I'm 100% sure you're straight because this internal anxiety is a massive symptom of OCD. I had the same thing and I realised that this isn't want attraction feels like -- this is just over the top fear running through my body. Hope this helps :)

No, I had only pure obsessional ocd. I would think " what if what if what if" all the time. But it doesn't matter if you have thoughts, images, sensations, urges, uncertaines... I approach them the same. It's the same thing! Dismiss all of them. Don't take them seriously. You are not your thoughts. If it scares you, you are super aware of who you really are. People with ocd have a very high sense of morality and it is very hard for them to admit that there could be a difference in their life (such as being gay) I've had this theme for sooo long and I couldn't even talk about it (Which is a big mistake). You have to expose to such things. Listen to podcasts about different sexual orientations, watch movies about gay people and so on. Expose yourself to such situations and the anxiety will decrease. AND DON'T FORGET! TREAT THOSE SENSATIONS THE SAME AS THE URGES, IMAGES, THOUGHTS.. They are the same! They don't represent you!!!

I had as well a „coming-out“ by my parents. My strongly religious mom was annoyed, that I didn’t work, so as well my mother said: „it doesn’t matter, if you are gay, please just work!” I know now I don’t care if I am, but my mother tells me sometimes: “look he is hot, he has a nice body, are you looking guys on phone?” I just laugh now and think: “seriously, do you think i’m gay?”. I don’t care anymore ??‍♂️ and I appreciate you to accept these thoughts (as well it’s hard as hell)

I'm just so terrified everytime I get those freaking groinals , whenever they come, I just think that I'll lose control and I'll be 100% attracted to women

If you are now attracted to male sexe, you’ll be in the future

Hey miru10 , have you ever struggled with groinal sensations, and if so, how have you overcome it?

Groinals have ruined my life I spend hours each day checking for tjem

Same

i don’t have hocd, but i am a queer individual and just wanted to reiterate that sexuality is based on a spectrum! not everyone’s sexuality is purely black and white, so don’t feel that you have to label yourself!

But that’s the thing I WANT to be straight

@ihatecalculus That’s nice of ya :)

@zidzad with high probability you are