I’ll preface by saying he’s a brutally honest guy who doesn’t feel like there’s anything wrong with being honest. But um… yeah.
He says I concentrate on the bad too much instead of all the good. I said I feel the bad is still there lingering during the good.
He doesn’t compliment me like my previous boyfriends have unless I’m absolutely dressed to the nines, and even then, I can barely get it out of him.
I’m a few years older than him. The other day, I asked him if he is sacrificing being with his type to be with me, and without missing a beat, he said “yes.” Basically, his type would be skinnier, younger, hotter than me (shocker, I know).
I showed him a photo of myself that I liked, and he said “meh.” I tried to be confident and said, “well, I know it’s good, and that’s all that matters.” He asked what I liked about it, and I said my cheekbones looked good.
He said he “only saw cheeks.” I said, “yeah… kinda hard to see cheekbones without seeing the cheeks…”
He then proceeded to poke at my face/double chin, and when I asked what he’s doing, he said, “Trying to find the bones.”
In the same convo, he said he hasn’t wanted to sleep with me because of my weight. Said he wishes he could see my waist more. I’m 10 pounds heavier than I was when we met, and that’s nothing. He’s gained way more in this relationship, but I don’t give him shit about it.
He says “well maybe you should.” But I’m not gonna go insulting him just because he insults me.
When I tell him it makes me feel bad, he says, “well I wasn’t trying to make you feel bad, so…”
Anyway, I know it’s not just ROCD. I deserve better than this. But ROCD still makes me question myself.
Mad af at him ngl