How to deal with someone saying your OCD is right

I’m. Lowkey freaking out a bit at the moment. So I’ve had kind of a thing for hyperfemininity most of my life (really just on men but that’s beside the point). A lot of what I find attractive is similar to Sabrina carpenter’s aesthetic. Like frilly lingerie for example. There was this clip where she was wearing like a babydoll or whatever they’re called and everyone said she looked like a toddler. I thought it was ok bc I’m only attracted to adults, and in this case it’s only concerning my attraction to men, but I was listening to a podcast today about Sabrina Carpenter (bc while I do think she’s very pretty I disagree with a lot of what she does) and the person speaking said she presented as a “sexy baby” and that it was pedophilic. Now I’m pretty frightened because I can’t just go “that’s false attraction” and be done with it. I AM attracted to hyperfemininity and now I feel like a predator for it. I’m scared

MichelleV

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 16h

This sounds like your OCD is trying to jump to conclusions, or find “proof” wherever it can. This is how OCD works. It isn’t a logical disorder. The podcast you listened to represents one opinion out of many. But, ocd will latch on to anything it hears that could “prove” OCD is right. Which is very annoying and frustrating and just not great. Try your best to sit with this feeling and let it be. I know it’s hard, but when you label thoughts as scary, or bad, or question your character, you only feed into your OCD. You don’t know if you’re a predator. You don’t have to know. Keep going with your evening and usual habits.

Ammbriel Fyr...

Date posted: 17h

I keep over thinking my response to this but long story short I'm not super in the know of sabrina carpenter but a quick Google search shows me her appealing to a cute/sexy feminine look I don't see where they are getting this "sexy baby" thought from but based on what knowledge I have when it comes to character designs for video games the way she presents is trying to show off the characteristics of someone who enjoys being femme and soft but with a hint of dark femme with the "sexy" appearance

This Too Sha...

Date posted: 15h

Did you look at her and think “oh that’s a sexy baby right there” or did you just look at her and think that she looks really pretty. It took someone putting the suggestion in your head to see it this way whereas before you didn’t. That’s just that specific persons opinion on the matter. You can’t control what another persons thoughts or opinions. Someone else might even thing that person is weird for even thinking of referencing a sexy baby. Everyone has thoughts, people with ocd just get stuck on them and catastrophize them. Hence why you’ve went from simply liking an outfit to suddenly being someone who thinks babies are sexy. Sometimes you have to breakdown how truly ridiculous your ocd is being and I find a good way to do that it to imagine a loved one was going through what you are, what would you say to them? Then apply that compassion to yourself.

Em2003

Date posted: 14w

Pls input, I haven’t panicked this hard in months

My whole life I’ve kind of stared at people’s crotches whenever they’re wearing something revealing a bikini. I feel like I’ve always searched to see if I can see an outline or something or anything because it’s so revealing. It kind of feels like curiosity I don’t know how to describe it. I did this before my OCD got bad and I do this now. I feel scared that I’m doing something I shouldn’t be. I’m scared that I’m doing something perverted. What scares me the most is that about a year ago this happened with my boyfriend sister. She was 15 at the time. I didn’t think much about it. I stared, searched and moved on. But now I really question if I did something awful or if my intentions were perverted. I’m questioning whether it’s okay to even have curiosity about this. Maybe this is normal and people don’t analyze their behavior, I don’t know. I had a theory that this has been a compulsion all along but right now it feels fully out the window. I haven’t been able to stop crying. I really need someone’s input or perspective. Please.

Anonymous

Date posted: 13w

Maybe it is OCD (please say anything)

I have no idea anymore. I guess this all started with me worrying about whether I was gay, then whether I was a P, then worried about being just attracted to teenagers. After that I started freaking out about not feeling “grown up” enough. Like “I’m an adult wtf is wrong with me for seeing someone who is probably younger and thinking they’re physically attractive. Then I started overthinking not finding older adults (like 30 or 40) very attractive. Like ofc I’m probably not gonna find them attractive, they’re not anywhere close my age. Maybe the desires are half real. Maybe as a 21 yr old young adult I do find older teenagers (16+) somewhat physically attractive. I still think it’d be weird to date one. Maybe that’s the normal reaction I’m supposed to have. If not, please let me know. I just don’t wanna do anything illegal one day and I’m super scared I will. I can’t tell if the fear is my just being afraid of the law though, in which case I might actually just be a bad person. I hate that my brain is just rationalizing thoughts now. I feel like I can’t do the ERP thing of “just accept that the thoughts are there but don’t engage.” Like what? How can I just think a thought that might be so integral to my identity and just ignore it? If it’s all true and I don’t like people my age anymore then I have to know and plan around that, that could change my entire life. I’m rambling, my b.

Ocd is horri...

Date posted: 13w

Help I’m loosing hope

18+ TW! Involves sexual content I have learning disabilities which means im always going to be 3-5 years mentally behind from my actual age… when I was 14 I remember finding people saying they work with kids “attractive” and I remember mastu*** over a kid around 5+ but when I was 14 I was either mentally age 11 or 9. So I didn’t know it was wrong, and as soon as I realised I stopped. People say I was young and it’s okay but I remember finding people saying they even walked past a nursery “attractive” but I don’t know if this is even the right word. Maybe cute? Because I find different emotions hard to tell the difference between, so maybe it’s cute rather than attractive. I never ever had intentions to do anything to younger individuals, it was just me finding people saying they worked with them etc attractive… which my ocd now plays on, because my friend mentioned they were working with kids but idk if it was the real me or not but I genuinely felt like I found it attractive and it was giving my so many groinal responses which then made me feel genuinely aroused like I wanted to do things. This plays on my mind because my ocd will always say “but you did/do find stuff like this attractive” but this literally stops me from eating, sleeping or anything. I can’t break from my compultions because what if I do genuinely find it attractive. I don’t think it’s even attractive maybe it’s cute? Like I find it cute… but cuteness can give people feelings down there I guess. I think because if my learning disabilities I found it hard to know the difference between “attraction” and cute so I did stuff over it because it gave me that feeling down there but that could of been cuteness feeling. I just need some support on this.

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