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I'm going through something similar! Please, don't forget that things will definitely get better. You deserve the whole world! 💜 Please don't end your life and please don't hurt yourself. Do you have the Suicide prevention hotlines? And Suicide prevention textline? 💜 Please don't let OCD win.
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- 3y
@lettingifoff Yes, me too. So so so so many people are going through the same thing. You're never alone. ❤️
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Feel the exact same. OCD is in the top 10 most debilitating illnesses in the world, and especially with taboo topics like this we have been given a tough challenge, but once we come out of it the other end, there’s not gunna be much left that we can’t overcome! Stay strong you aren’t alone 💙
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- 3y
OCDHaver, I am very sorry that your OCD has brought you to such a bad place, but you are definitely not alone. I was in a pretty similar state before I sought out help for my anxiety/depression and found the underlying OCD that I always suspected was there. You can get through this, no matter how much it seems like OCD has taken over your thoughts and your life, you can take your mind and your life back, especially with the care and help of a good therapist, it just takes time. Also try to remember that you are not your intrusive thoughts, you didn’t ask for them and they do not define you. To me the real event and and false memory are the hardest for me to shake or ignore the intrusive thoughts about as well. Especially with real events from years past, the more I ruminate on them, the more they always seem to distort /warp until I am left questioning what actually occurred, if anything at all, and they become more like false memories at that point. I have more recent events that elven just typing about now causes my anxiety to rise and the intrusive thoughts to start flooding in, but as hard as it seems the best thing is to remind my self that I can’t change the past….no matter how much I dwell or worry about it. The fact that you are questioning whether or not if you are a bad person over events that you regret, to me indicates that you are not a bad or horrible person at all, otherwise you wouldn’t show any regret over your actions or even question if you were a bad person or not. As hard as it seems, try not to give into all the doubt the OCD is causing, much like you did with your other themes. Even though these thoughts are more difficult to ignore and causing much more anxiety and doubt, the same techniques of ERP and sitting with the uncertainty are what is necessary with these themes as well, as insurmountable as that may currently seem. Please stay strong and don’t give in to your OCD Bully, you are not the terrible thoughts it wants you to believe you are, you are worthy of love from your friends and family and you are definitely not alone in this.
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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since february i have "POcd". Initial symptoms were thoughts, but then I did a testing compulsion during an intimate time, and I spiraled ever since. I struggle with addiction to smut. I'm cutting that out, but I feel as if it is too late. Ive never experienced this much mental, and emotional anguish in my life. On my time on this application I have given advice to others, and helped around, but I wonder if that even applies to me. Millions of times I wish I could turn back time and be more careful. I want to prevent many things, including what led me to spiral into OCD in the first place. I'm surely having an OCD episode. I have gotten a diagnosis, but I'm still not sure. I feel evil, cause unlike many here, I tested on my body sensations and it backfired (twice) I know I'm not supposed to figure out why that is the case, but now I have to live with it for the rest of my life even if its something I don't desire. This is disgusting for me, it is abhorrent. I could've never seen this coming. Day by day I've become more fearful of living with this, "OCD". I was a normal person before this, I knew what I was attracted to, I know my preferences, so why did this come about? This is singlehandedly the most painful thing that has happened to me and I have nobody but myself to blame. I am scared of death but I also would'nt mind sleeping for years on end. My parents and brother were understanding of my situation, but I failed them regardless. I don't want them to see me this way, nor do I want them to learn more of my predicament. I'm cooked. I know it, Fin, thats all folks. I'm only 20 and I already have other diagnosed mental illness so I recklessly brought upon myself another one. Its agonizing to live through, I wish this on nobody, not even my worst enemy. I can't even identify myself at this point. Its tearing me apart.
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