Gaslighting is basically when one tries to convince you of a thing or a situation didn’t happen, trying to make you believe something that didn’t happen. So for example if someone said something to you with the intent to hurt you and they know they did but they try to convince you that it wasn’t their intention or that your being sensitive or misinterpreted what they said, therefore making you question what happened. I hope that helped!
I think of gaslighting as the way a perpetrator tries to convince a victim that they are innocent and it is the victim that has done something wrong. It is often used in abusive relationships. For instance, Person A confronts Person B about their slow or lack of responsiveness to text messages. Person B, however, responds by gaslighting Person A, saying it is actually Person A who is not slow in response or not responsive enough. If Person A is vulnerable, they may believe this gaslighting and start blaming themselves.
Another example is someone will say something hurtful. When you call them on it, they will say something like "You are taking this way too personally" or "You are way too sensitive and are just overreacting." They will try to convince that the problem is your reaction not the hurtful thing they said.
Omg yes people do it to me all the time and it pisses me off 💀