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Gaslighting is basically when one tries to convince you of a thing or a situation didn’t happen, trying to make you believe something that didn’t happen. So for example if someone said something to you with the intent to hurt you and they know they did but they try to convince you that it wasn’t their intention or that your being sensitive or misinterpreted what they said, therefore making you question what happened. I hope that helped!
Another example is someone will say something hurtful. When you call them on it, they will say something like "You are taking this way too personally" or "You are way too sensitive and are just overreacting." They will try to convince that the problem is your reaction not the hurtful thing they said.
Omg yes people do it to me all the time and it pisses me off 💀
I think of gaslighting as the way a perpetrator tries to convince a victim that they are innocent and it is the victim that has done something wrong. It is often used in abusive relationships. For instance, Person A confronts Person B about their slow or lack of responsiveness to text messages. Person B, however, responds by gaslighting Person A, saying it is actually Person A who is not slow in response or not responsive enough. If Person A is vulnerable, they may believe this gaslighting and start blaming themselves.
Trigger warning!!! I’m suffering from false memory OCD and I started to feel better, let the thoughts come and go, started to think more rational. Then I remembered a post about false memory on another platform by a woman. The issue was “why does guilt feel so real in terms of false memory?” And someone said: “I have not found feelings to be false, They are the feed back for your conscious and subconscious level. I see this as a way to discount something that someone thinks is not wanted to be seen. If a person feels a certain way it needs to be honored. Someone else may think it is false, if that person does not want to address the issues behind the feelings from their fear of having to look at themselves honestly. I would call it a form of gas lighting. If you feel it is real. Find the root cause in hypnotherapy or regression counseling to heal the source and move on into being present in your life.” Now I’m start to obsess again about my thoughts, only because I remembered this post! What do you guys think? 😓
im beginning to doubt my own memories and fundamental things about myself :\ every time i make a claim it's like my brain gets a little foggy and i start questioning it. for example i might narrate an event, or state a fact about something or someone, and question whether that really is true or happened. and when i get that thought it's like my brain goes blank and i don't know how to get back on track. i constantly feel like a liar. i also had a phase where i excessively doubted my identity and personality. every time i expressed a strong opinion or emotion, or made a statement about who i am as a person i got an unwanted thought that said "is this really who you are" and my mind would go blank again. id also feel anxious and hopeless. i compensate for this by taking personality tests on the internet to reassure myself that im secure in my identity and have an actual personality, but it can also be triggering sometimes because when im unsure about something i start feeling like i have no identity again ;( this is stupid i know
I have a family member who has a mental health degree but seems to use their knowledge to label all of our relatives as narcissistic or as having other negative psychological traits. This usually happens whenever someone disagrees with her. Recently, she told me that if I feel guilty about a recent argument we had, it's not her problem that I haven't appropriately dealt with my OCD. I feel like this was a strategy to get under my skin and to use my OCD against me, because this relative knows how important my recovery has been to me. Has anyone else here experienced this type of gaslighting (disregarding your feelings or opinions based in your OCD) & how have you handled it, whilst maintaining fidelity to ERP?
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