I have a problem maybe you guys can help, Im 27 years old and NEVER doubt that about my sexuality before, i was (i think im still) girl crazy and i have nothing against gay people i have friends how are gay, i was working nights shifts like for 3 months straight and not sleeping at all, and one day i was drinking and smoking weed, having a good time and from no where this thought that i might be gay appears, and have been struggling for about 5 months from now, i now i have a crush on this girl we are even dating but some times it thoughs feels so real like im on a denial and get depressed i used to be a happy person with out doubts about my sexuality i mean im 27 years i should have seen this coming long time ago if its real right? At this point I don't know what to do i live in a country that therapy is hard to find especially this kind im taking some medication but i need help this is taking my life and im afraid that im liying to my girlfriend, what should i do ? Is this HOCD or im on a denial? ( Sorry about my English, is not my first language)

Hi there! First of all, please know that if you truly are gay there is absolutely nothing wrong with you whatsoever. But based on what you’re saying it sounds like it’s an obsessive and intrusive thought. Try not to let ocd keep you from forming genuine relationships and meeting people. Remind yourself that you know who you are. That these questions are coming from being a person dealing with ocd. Just try to be confident in who you KNOW you are and not let those thoughts get the better of you. The more we entertain them, the more control they have. You are not lying to anyone, ocd is lying to you!

It kinda scared and tortured me the possibility that i might be gay.

Same here

Honestly it seems almost that you’re not scared about if you are gay. You are scared about not knowing who you are. It’s a terrifying thought, waking up one day questioning everything you’ve ever known about yourself. These thoughts are making you doubt your own identity. If you feel really scared right now try to stop and just breathe and gather yourself. Then try (even if it feels like you’re faking confidence) to tell yourself that you KNOW who you are.

@kooan yes, but here in my country its kinda hard a good therapist

Accepting uncertainty sucks, it’s really difficult... but it works.