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i know how awful this feeling is. i’ve literally been exactly where you are and it’s terrifying and upsetting. i dealt with this for a very long time and really wanted to give up. all i can say that worked for me is simply accept that you might be trans. the phrase “maybe, maybe not” is the only thing that helped me out of it. it’s been almost a year now and i’ve only had it in little spirts. i promise it will get better eventually.
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the surgery thing especially
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The thing is that I am not trans. My ocd tried to tell me I am. I first had SOOCD where my ocd tried to tell me I am heterosexual. And this time it is exactly the same. Deep down I know that I am definitely not trans and that I am homosexual. My ocd tries to tell me I am. I just want to know how to get rid of ocd. My therapist already diagnosed transgender ocd. That means it’s just ocd not the fact that you are really trans. It’s just that at the moment I can’t go to therapy that’s why I ask it here.
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@Milan.G yeah dude i went through the same thing. i’m not trans but my ocd tried telling me i was and i was in denial. i’m also diagnosed with tocd. i was just suggesting the “maybe, maybe not method” because it worked for me. not rationalizing my ocd thoughts and simply letting them happen and not fighting them is what eventually led to me overcoming my tocd
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@nicklepickle i just don’t see lots of people on here with tocd and i know how awful it can be, so i like to try and help as best as i can because i hate to think anyone else has to go through what i went through
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@nicklepickle Oh sorry I misunderstood this. Thank you for the suggestion. I will try that. My ocd gets very fast very obsessed and at the end of the obsession it will make we sometimes actually belive the things. For example with SOOCD when it was at its worst my ocd convinced me I am actually into men. I don’t have SOOCD anymore and I have never thought about if I like men or not anymore. I am just scared that if I let my ocd do it’s thing it will convince me I am trans and I get the surgeries. And when the ocd is gone (I usually don’t have an ocd longer than 2 years than it switches to a new theme) I will completely regret this surgery and it’s irreversible. Even now I don’t want the surgery. That proofs me that I am not trans because my trans friends want nothing more than that. But my ocd still tries to tell me I am trans...
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@nicklepickle I am sorry you went through this... And thank you so much for your help :)
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2 nights ago I saw something on my phone and it has now spiraled into me scared of being trans or being gay because i don’t want to be… now i have a huge fear of what if i am gay and am attracted to woman or what if im not comfortable in my body and want to turn into a man. It’s freaking me out - my ocd always makes me question my character! Has anyone experienced this 😩
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having so-ocd has to be the hardest thing ever, and having different sub types pop out after is even harder. i want these thoughts to stop, when i think about ending up with a man i feel like it’s the end of the world, when a sexual or romantic thought about a man pops up i feel like throwing and my stomach hurts. i don’t want to be straight or end up with a man. i know my body knows what it wants and that’s why it’s making me anxious and stressed but i just want this ocd to stop, i miss who i was before this. are there any tips on how to battle SO-OCD and be back to who you were? i was in remission for almost a month and the thoughts that did come i didn’t care for, but it’s back harder this time.
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I wouldn’t really say I have SO-OCD, but it manifests in some areas of my TOCD. Like if I see a woman for example my thoughts will go “what if I like her but as a man?” like my thoughts say I’m a straight man instead of a straight woman. And it’s really bothering me. If I see an attractive woman my brain will re-wire and imagine myself as a man looking at an attraction woman and it gets super uncomfortable that I have to like shake my head and say “no no no no no” multiple times to get the thought out. I know that counts as a compulsion but it’s hard to not do it because it’s so triggering. Now I don’t mind if I like women, however I’m really scared that I’m actually a straight man who likes women (or at least a bisexual man, considering I like men) and I hate it because I don’t want to be a man. Like I’ll think of my desired relationship as a woman dating a man but my OCD will switch it up to me being the man dating the woman, which is the opposite of what I want. I don’t want to be a man at all and I don’t want to date a woman, both of those are the opposite of my desires, but I’m still so scared. I’ll accept myself if I actually like women and am a bisexual woman, however I heard that being bisexual can mean being trans which scares me (for the record it was said in reddit by a sub which is mainly focused on a pseudoscientific phenomenon, that is still believed by the members to be true, so it’s definitely not a trustworthy statement, but my OCD will use anything to work against me) Does anyone here relate a little? 🥲
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