Mental health communities can be so draining. Aside from the anti-recovery behaviour, there's the tone policing. I get it, I've been there, but sometimes it just makes it more tiring than not reaching out for help at all

I get that reassurance isn’t helpful , however with many people expressing how they feel and things , others are able to empathize and provide help that they’ve never had before . Sometimes it takes for that one person to say something that could change your life. Reassurance isn’t always intentional . Often times , it becomes so inadvertent. People just do it . Reassurance is honestly part of learning and growing . It’s part of the process . Each person will grow . They’ll soon learn that reassurance isn’t always helpful . I just don’t believe there should be a report for that though . Thats a bit much . Just my opinion.

@Junior96! Yes, but sometimes it's just blatant. People getting mad when you give them something that isn't reassurance. You can get advice without asking to please tell me that the intrusive thought I'm suppose to ignore is wrong

They have a reassurance seeking option when you report something. But I think the post should be closed to comments if it’s deemed reassurance.

@Nica What do you mean by that ? Sorry I don’t understand

@Nica Oh I see. Sorry, I didn't know.

@Junior96! You can press the three dots on the corner of a post, press "flag" and then press "reassurance"

@AnonymouslyMe (see bio) Got you. Guess they put it on here as a report because most counselors don’t advise reassurance . They may see it as not helpful

@AnonymouslyMe (see bio) I find the idea of what exactly reassurance is a little confusing, because discussing my problems which maybe counted as reassurance has helped calm me down a lot.

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Although the comment isn’t toward me, I just wanted to share that I am on the same page as you . I believe she is too . She was referring to people getting mad because she isn’t telling them exactly what they want to hear . A lot of times reassurance can become unhealthy because we want to hear what we “ want “ to hear instead of what we need to hear. What we need to hear isn’t always so reassuring. It’ll be something new to us , so sometimes people may get upset . I believe that’s where she was coming from . Glad you’ve received helped by being vocal on here .

@Junior96! I get what she's saying now, thanks.

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ No problem ! I also saw on your profile about the GG OCD app . How is that app compared to this one ? Same idea ?

@Junior96! It gives you exercises to do, moving the good thoughts to one side and the unhelpful thoughts to the other. I wanna talk to a therapist on here but I'm in Australia :(

@Junior96! I also created a group on DatChat called Mental Disorders, an encrypted site. I have no members yet.

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Oh you’re from Australia awesome ! I’m from The United States . It’s 3 in the morning 😂. What time is it there ? Also that’s pretty cool . I downloaded the app

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ If you wanna talk more outside of here as to not fill up the comments.

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ What do you mean a group ? And what’s dat chat

@Junior96! I stayed up late researching OCD a couple of nights ago, then couldn't sleep but got a good night's sleep tonight. It's 4 pm here.

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Is that a website ?

@Junior96! It's an encrypted social networking app. It'd be great if you could join 😅

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ I don't know, a group is a group. A page?

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Do you host the chat ?

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ I just downloaded the app.

@Junior96! I'm the creator of it. I'm also on Telegram if you wanna talk there.

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Love making friends , so if it’s positive things and we can help one another . I’m all in . By the way , I’m a Christian believer . A lot of advice and truth I give is from the Bible !

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Really ? You created the app ? And I deleted telegram , sorry

@Junior96! My boyfriend is Christian, I know a Christian philosopher and a lot of my family are Catholic. Even though I personally don't believe, I respect other people's beliefs as long as you do good in the world :)

@Junior96! No, hahaha, I created the group called Mental Disorders.

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ That’s awesome ! I just created the app . I don’t know how to work it though . And being a Christian is awesome . I’m Not going to force you to believe , but hopefully over time , my kindness and sincerity will allow Gods love to transform your heart and mind . Who knows

@Junior96! I think you mean downloaded 😂 Just select the second thing at the bottom, select the search button(magnifying glass) and type Mental Disorders :D

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Yeah downloaded 😂

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Yeah I don’t see your chat there , sorry

@Junior96! Oh, maybe it needs to be approved first? I am new to the app, too. We can message there though if you want. I am vivampire on there.

@Junior96! If you want to, select the thing on the bottom right, click the people with the + symbol next to them and type my name :)

@ViVampire🧛🏻‍♀️ Generally you can tell it's compulsive reassurance by how it feels. You know if the OCD wants it or not

I agree it's nice to help people. I wasn't referring to the "please reassure me that therapy is worth it" people. I was referring to the people asking you to invalidate their obsessions, when they should probably take it as a chance to do exposures or call a warmline/hotline/use other resources... there may be extreme circumstances when the reassurance seeking is necessary, but I think there are better options than normalizing it on peer support