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- 3y
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It’s hard to tell wether it’s ocd or not. The best way to deal with it is probably through therapy. However, there are some things you could think about, like - do you think you are obsessing over the possibility of you being a narcissist? As in, does it follow the same pattern as the obsessions you already know to be ocd related? If the answer to those questions is yes then you should treat it as you treat the rest of your ocd. If the answer is no, you should know that having narcissistic behaviours does not make you bad. No one is perfect and wanting other people to like you is something human - everyone feels like that a bit. Also, having had a childhood that coincides with that of narcissists does not mean you are one yourself. You can’t put people in a box like that. Of course, there are some behaviours which are more common in certain types of people but that does not necessarily mean all of the people of this type have this behaviour nor that all people that have this behaviour are of this type. Just try to calm yourself down and take it easy. If you catch yourself doing some of the things you just described, just try to think to yourself “is this the right thing to do?” - if you think it is not, try your best not to do it while bearing in mind it is ok if you don’t secceed because real change is tough to achieve. I hope this comment helped you a little. And again, as always, the best thing you could seek out is therapy. Hope you feel better soon x
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- 3y
It seems like to that if you are WORRIED you are a narcissist, you probably really just sre not one. A person with really intense narcissistic traits could give a fuck less about fucking people over.
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i really appreciate your comment thanks so much for just idk i needed someone to speak rationally to me without giving me reassurance one way or the other and you did just that thank you 🙏
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Are we the same person😳
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- 16w
I’ve had off and on fears and thoughts of being a narcissist but at this point it doesn’t feel like a fear anymore it feels true and it feels like it all makes sense the more I learn about narcissism. I’ve even put the label on myself and have been monitoring all my social interacts and motivations. I don’t know if telling myself I’m a narcissist causes me to act more narcissistic either. I have some specific examples and factors to talk about that might be too long to post, so if I can talk about them to anyone on here I’d appreciate it 😭🙏
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