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I have this feeling a lot too, it’s hard because even though he’s going through something, OCD always pushes us to act impulsively, you’re not a bad person, you just need to try and seek professional help for your OCD
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Hey , I wouldn’t over react to the situation because it’s going to heighten your anxiety . I’m hoping that you are able to sit down with him and explain to severity of your OCD because that would be helpful . I believe he’ll have some understanding in regards to your situation especially if he really likes/loves you . Now that you know confessing in this manner can be a compulsion , you’re able to make better decisions moving forward . The hardest part about OCD is giving in to our compulsions . It’s so much easier said than done . You telling him something about the past could have been important to discuss because it involved your relationship . Be proud of yourself for discussing the manner and showing honesty regardless of how old the situation is . Try to look at the bright side of this . When you feel anxious and you start spiraling take a deep breath , fix your focus and come back to the situation . Sometimes , it’s good to get some time away from the situations so that you can make better judgment. Don’t give in to every compulsion as it is very unhealthy. As you do counseling , you’ll be able to distinguish the compulsion and channel your focus . I hope that all is well with your relationship. Don’t over react to it . Take a breather and allow yourself some grace .
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This was a very kind and helpful response I appreciate it. Now I’m just anxious I’m going to ruin everything lol. I do want to sit down with him and talk about the severity of it, I’ve told him other stuff that I think relates to my ocd/ just my trauma and stuff but I even found an article that helps explain confessing as a compulsion so I’d like to show him. I just feel terrible for acting out irrationally and telling him this instead of focusing thag energy on making sure he was okay after sometning horrible happened, it makes me feel like a bad girlfriend even though I care so much I didn’t show it in the right way. I hope he can forgive me. I’ve recently started going to therapy again and I have a dr appointment to maybe take medication so perhaps it will help. I’m making an effort but I feel like I should do more? Idk I do need to take a breath and not give into my compulsions when the anxiety arise and wait to see if it’s really something worth bringing up. I’m also fearful that this behavior is just toxic and abusive and I never wanna do that :( ugh but thank you a lot
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It’s not intentional . You weren’t trying to dismiss his issue and just bombard him with your own issue . When your anxiety is heighten , we tend to just give immediately into our compulsion . Give your self some slack . Hopefully he understands . Don’t worry
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