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- 6y
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- 6y
Just go to a therapist and work on it, it’s no one’s business but your own, I wouldn’t tell your mom about the intrusive thoughts...they’re nothing to be ashamed of but having your mom stress out about it isn’t gonna make your situation any better....TRUST me
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- 6y
Well firstly, it’s good that you were able to identify just anxiety problems from OCD. That’s a big step. My parents were also super opposed to therapy and the way that I found best when coping with my OCD is kind of just taking the symptoms head on and one at a time. Try to identify your biggest compulsion and doing the exact opposite. For example, I had a huge problem with obsessive hand washing, so I started to keep a log of how many times I washed my hands and why. After about a week, I realized that washing my hands about thirty times an hour was unhealthy and the reasons I was washing them were dumb, so I decided to only wash my hands when completely necessary (before eating, after using the restroom, etc.). It was definitely the most difficult symptom for me to get over and I had a few panic attacks along the way, but once you eradicate that first compulsion, it only becomes easier. OCD will keep throwing new compulsions at you though, so you want to talk to at least some sort of medical professional; even a regular doctor could help you manage any panic attacks you may have as cause of your OCD. And remember that you’re not alone. OCD sucks, but it’s definitely manageable and you can totally do this ❤️
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- 6y
i can relate to this so much on the level of being scared to tell my mom/fam about my intrusive thoughts. I felt like I would sound like I needed to be admitted to a mental institution. I remember telling her everything and she told me she knew I wouldn’t do any of those things but my mind was the one counteracting shooting me responses like why would you have these thoughts then. I told her I needed help and my parents although they didn’t know much about ocd back then, they knew I wasn’t myself. I know your mom is opposed to therapy but I truly recommend seeing a psychologist and getting help. Having your mom help with the compulsions may wrap her up in giving you reassurance and you may rely on that much more (I know I did before therapy). I know your mom is opposed to it but seeing someone who is trained in helping those recover from ocd is so beneficial. you got this!
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- 6y
shoot :/ I’m sorry. I’d say give it one more chance if you feel up for it. you can’t control how you’re feeling and you know what you need. if she won’t agree to it, I’d say seek it yourself because no one deserves to suffer and not get the help they need
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- 6y
Interesting picture of OCD- https://www.behance.net/gallery/70808309/OCD-Infographic
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- 6y
Dang, yeah that sounds tough, ask again, and MAKE SURE you don’t let her make you feel bad about it...her stress doesn’t have to be yours, just say “I’d like to try therapy to help me manage my stress”.....and good luck dude!
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- 6y
I'm sorry your mom is so opposed to therapy. Maybe you can try talking to your regular doctor/pediatrician about your OCD and how you really want therapy to get on the right track to recovering even though your mom is so opposed. The doctor may be able to act as a middleman and talk with your mom, and at the very least, they can possibly give you some resources or advice on how to get the help you want. I would also recommend checking out the IOCDF website. It's such a helpful resource. While you're on the site, you might also want to try contacting someone who works for the IOCDF and explain your situation to them. They may be able to connect you to resources or give you advice on how to move forward. Sending you strength & hope!
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- 6y
Thank you! if i can’t get my mom to let me go to therapy then i’ll try to just tackle it myself.
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- 6y
The last time i asked for more therapy she started yelling and crying and said that she wished that this last year meant more to me, and that was moreso about anxiety in general. I’m really worried that she’s going to blow up if i try to talk to her
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- 14w
harm ocd is the bane of my existence. people always tell me that if you have anxiety over a thought, that’s ocd. and these intrusive thoughts cause me IMMENSE anxiety. i’m constantly looking for reasons why i’m not what these thoughts tell me i am. but WHY DOES IT FEEL SO REAL?? it’s like i can’t reassure myself that this isn’t me and i don’t want to do it, but i also look for reasons why it’s not me. my brain is constantly telling me “if you don’t act on this, you’ll never feel free”. WHAT EVEN IS THAT?? and why does it feel real?? anytime i think about getting therapy, i constantly think that it’s not going to help me positively but help me realize i am this person. i just wish someone with harm ocd could get into my brain, understand me, and tell me everything will be okay. i wish someone in recovery could tell me that they’ve been where i am, felt the same feelings, thought the same thoughts, and got through it when they thought they wouldn’t. i feel like i’m drowning in it. another thing is i think about how my mom knows a surface level understanding to this form of my ocd, but if she knew it all, i’m scared she’d never look at me the same. i’m scared she’d be scared of me and think i need psychiatric help. IM TERRIFIED.
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- 9w
My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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- 6w
I feel like my whole life I’ve been overthinking everything. I remember having really bad intrusive thoughts as a kid but I thought I had gotten over it. I feel like I’m starting to see that it’s just not manifested in different ways. I tried to bring it up with my therapist but she thinks it’s just anxiety. I feel like it’s something more. Does anyone have any advice on what personally showed you what was the difference
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