Hi. As a partner of someone with rocd, how can I help him?? How can I make his life easier? What should I do when he has a "down" moment? He has ups and downs with apathy and feelings, and sometimes I took it personal and I feel used because of it... he has an avoidant attachment stile I think, and he tends to rationalise everything!

honestly, as someone with rocd I think the number 1 thing I hope my partner ALWAYS knows is it has nothing to do with them and EVERYTHING to do with the disorder. there's not much you can personally do for him besides just show your support and tell him that it'll all be okay. but judging from the fact that you got this app and are actively looking for a way to help him, I'm sure you're doing great :)

I’ve got a bf that I’ve begged to learn bout my illness I’m not complaining and bitching I’m sick and my ocd makes me think stuff and makes me do certain things but he has narsasism I tell him I need help he asks me we’re he can get from the problems I’m caseuing him for being upset bout my ocd I get triggered and panick and he tells me he has to listen to me and then go work all day like he has it worse fucking everybody works that’s normal life stress we live together we have the same normal life stresses but ontop of that I have debilitating ocd if we’re liveing in my car furring a hard time that sucks I’m general but I change my clothes a certain way and need certain things for my ocd rituals so liveing in a car sucks for anyone but I can’t complete and ocd ritual and panick it’s the worst feeling in the world I try telling him he shouldn’t compare my mental illness to stress cause it’s not the same but he literally comforts me then adds that he’s a little worse he’s got problems that I don’t even no bout which isn’t true he’s abusive and narsasistic he Even went to the hospital when he busted the windshield out of his van threw things grabbed a road sign and started shakeing it then got took to mental hospital cause he told them he was gonna kill himself when really he was scared of the consequences of the way he acted and while at the hospital he called like nothing happened telling me don’t leave him he’s actually getting help when all they gave him was depression meds desperation meds don’t make ppl stop hitting you and choking you though but he told me I should be supportive cause he’s actually getting help but wasn’t getting help wit narsasism and abuse he was just going off the lie of wanting to kill himself cause he can’t handle his emotions and doesn’t no wat he’s feeling meanwhile I have ocd and struggle to wash my own hair and shave and I’m 29 years old.

They just sprayed bug spray in my brand new apartment I just moved into and chemicals are dirty to me and I’ve been histarically crying for days literally in shock not eating just crazy but it’s all bout him he helps me do stuff but complains and huffs and puffs the entire time when I was wit my husband he did the same thing but didn’t complain he just di them and we got threw it it made me feel less of a berden and my bf turns it into a jealousy thing cause I mentioned a guy when I was trying to tell him I’ve had help from other ppl and no one ever tlk to me like he does if he helps me do something that debilitating for me he degraded me makes me feel worse bout it even when I was trying to start to shave on my own he accused me of doing it to have sex wit other ppl but I told him if I was normal I wouldn’t of ever stopped shaveing and it wouldn’t be a problem if I shaved cause normal ppl can shave I had stopped shaveing cause it was to hard for me he liked me like that so he new I wouldn’t go anywere he’s a sick jealous type it’s awful and don’t even ask me to leave I’m on ssi I make 500 dollars a month wit debilitating ocd I can’t function and afford to live on my own.