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I am totally in that place! I've recently started ERP and it truly is the light at the end of the tunnel, the relief is almost indescribable! And at the same time, I am feeling exhausted and sad
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That is completely normal! OCD sucks big time and ERP is hard work. After my first ERP session, I felt physically and emotionally drained. The best thing you can do is be kind to yourself. Be proud of yourself. Celebrate even small victories. Also, it is normal to feel worse before you feel better.
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@Lms526 thank you so much for that feedback!
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@Blessed_dm Yes definitely celebrating every single small win whether it feels like it or not. The harrowing part for me is that the OCD is linked to a significant amount of real life trauma
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@Blessed_dm My whole life was holding space for everyone around me - the very core of my identity is linked to compassion, connection and joy. And the universe ensured I had a base in that no matter how far I flung from it. But now for the first time, I am going inward, tackling not only intergenerational trauma, but navigating my own life - which included the ending of a 16 year relationship, distancing from biogical family as I refuse to be the scapegoat and heal their crap for them anymore, switching careers and managing ocd while figuring out what the next phase of my life looks like
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I kinda get what you mean but I’m also a little confused still like feeling like it could still possibly show up again or?
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I mean isn’t that always a possibility? I just get completely exhausted and sad after a obsession passes-doing ERP and other tools can wear me out
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I need a place to do erp I have debilitating ocd I’m on ssi for it and need someone that can do erp wit me.
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Totally make use of NOCD
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I can confidently say it is saving my life
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- OCD Conqueror
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you're not completely out of the obsession if you're trying to run from the emotions of it. accept that you won't always have a positive outcome after fighting your obsessions. sit with those negative emotions just as much as you sit with the positive emotions. it is still a compulsion to ignore your true emotions. maybe it is ok to just be sad after having your obsessions. hope this helps!
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Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
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Hi this is my first time posting on here. I wasn't sure if I should because I want to make sure I'm not seeking reassurance because I heard that makes ocd worse. I don't want to talk about what my ocd problem was, but basically I was really upset about a religious ocd problem that I know isn't true. I'm feeling a lot better about it now, but when it was bad I decided to try and get better on my own. I read about ERP therapy and how you're supposed to make a list of your ocd problems, from least distressing to most. So I wrote them down on two pieces of paper. At first I started with the simple ones, like looking for spiders before leaving the room. I have a tendency to look for spiders before leaving a room but lately I've been trying not to anymore. Then I decided to try and do one of the hard things. It was a religious ocd problem. I decided to start simple, and just write the problem down on a piece of paper. So I went downstairs and got some paper. But then I thought, oh no, my ocd is probably not going to like this. What do I do with the paper once I write it down? If I think what I wrote down is bad and going to upset God and I will go to hell, (even though I know logically it's not), my ocd is probably going to freak out if I throw away the paper. It probably won't calm down unless I erase it. So I just decided to not write it down on a paper, and just type it on my phone instead. So I did, I typed it on my phone. So, even though I didn't write anything down on the paper, now it feels like that peice of paper is bad. I feel like it's connected to the problem I was having, and I was so upset I called my mom crying asking her what to do. Eventually I decided to just put the paper back with the rest of the paper downstairs, but I'm still upset. I feel like I have to throw away all the paper downstairs, the pencil I was going to use to write down the problem, and the eraser I was going to use in case I needed to erase anything. It feels like if I use any of those items I will make God angry and go to hell. I know I shouldn't do this though, so I'm not going to. I don't know what to do with the papers where I wrote down my ocd problems. They are on my desk and I'm too afraid to move them. And if I put them in my desk I'm afraid they will get mixed up with other papers. I guess I can do whatever I want with them. I think I'll put them in a folder or binder and if I make any more ocd papers I can just put them in there. I'm just really confused on how to move forward. Right now, I'm too afraid to use the papers, pencil, or eraser for anything. I feel like I can't write on them, draw on them, or anything. It's even making me feel like I can't make digital art. It's making me feel like I can't do a lot of things. I guess what I have to do is just do whatever I want to, because I know the ocd isn't true and doesn't make sense.
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- 14w
Does anyone have advice for dealing with a breakup. This hurts so bad and my brain is torturing me. OCD makes it so much worse. It’s been a month already. I need to start letting go but can’t stop. Any advice for letting things go .. ?
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