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I am totally in that place! I've recently started ERP and it truly is the light at the end of the tunnel, the relief is almost indescribable! And at the same time, I am feeling exhausted and sad
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That is completely normal! OCD sucks big time and ERP is hard work. After my first ERP session, I felt physically and emotionally drained. The best thing you can do is be kind to yourself. Be proud of yourself. Celebrate even small victories. Also, it is normal to feel worse before you feel better.
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@Lms526 thank you so much for that feedback!
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@Blessed_dm Yes definitely celebrating every single small win whether it feels like it or not. The harrowing part for me is that the OCD is linked to a significant amount of real life trauma
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@Blessed_dm My whole life was holding space for everyone around me - the very core of my identity is linked to compassion, connection and joy. And the universe ensured I had a base in that no matter how far I flung from it. But now for the first time, I am going inward, tackling not only intergenerational trauma, but navigating my own life - which included the ending of a 16 year relationship, distancing from biogical family as I refuse to be the scapegoat and heal their crap for them anymore, switching careers and managing ocd while figuring out what the next phase of my life looks like
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I kinda get what you mean but I’m also a little confused still like feeling like it could still possibly show up again or?
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I mean isn’t that always a possibility? I just get completely exhausted and sad after a obsession passes-doing ERP and other tools can wear me out
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I need a place to do erp I have debilitating ocd I’m on ssi for it and need someone that can do erp wit me.
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Totally make use of NOCD
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I can confidently say it is saving my life
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you're not completely out of the obsession if you're trying to run from the emotions of it. accept that you won't always have a positive outcome after fighting your obsessions. sit with those negative emotions just as much as you sit with the positive emotions. it is still a compulsion to ignore your true emotions. maybe it is ok to just be sad after having your obsessions. hope this helps!
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I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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I’ve seen wayyyy too many negative posts on here (I totally get it)…but can someone please share some positive experiences? Doesn’t have to be so grand, it could be just that you achieved a small goal with your ocd! I don’t want to continue feeling drowned by this debilitating disorder. I want to see what has helped some of you! So we can all encourage each other! 😊
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