- Date posted
- 3y
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 3y
HiPolarisJoy, to me resisting/not giving into compulsions is a major foundation of ERP….so you kind of are already doing it. To me the main addition with ERP is practicing making your self able to deal with the anxiety caused by exposures, be it in real life, or in “practice” scenarios so that over time the anxiety you feel from them will lessen to the point that you won’t feel the need to do the compulsion at all. Yes it will take awhile to gradually build up to a point where you don’t do the compulsions and at first will be taking steps to extend the time before doing compulsions, but with ERP you can pick your lower anxiety inducing obsessions to work on first and apply the same techniques to higher anxiety inducing ones as you go. Also, mentally just getting accustomed to not giving your OCD a definitive answer, in this case by doing your compulsion, is something that helps with your intrusive thoughts in general. ERP can be used for any type of theme/subtype and it does work extremely well (especially in my own experience) which is why it is so highly recommended. I started the same as you and @egirl96 by just trying to resist the compulsions as they happened, but it wasn’t until I started practicing ERP, and getting creative with it, that my anxiety spikes would lessen as i tried to not give into my compulsions, until many of them don’t typically bother me anymore. Yes, I do slip up, especially when up under duress from outside stressors, but I am definitely a lot better in general than I used to be. Just think of ERP as your resisting of compulsions that you do now, but just planned out in real life or in practice, in a controlled environment and with practicing being able to sit and live with the uncertainty and being okay with it. Different things work for different people, depending on your themes/subtypes and severity, you may be able to manage with just doing the not giving into compulsions, and if so that’s great, more power to you. I will say though that for many people, myself included, full on ERP has been the only way for me to get my OCD under control and it more than likely would help you as well. I highly encourage looking into ERP, and at least trying it, but whatever you decide, good luck in your recovery and stay strong.
- Date posted
- 3y
That’s where I’m at. I can’t do my compulsions so I literally have just had to work through my anxiety. ERP isn’t useful in my situation either. It seems to be working though!
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- Date posted
- 18w
I had just posted a summary of ERP for a group member, and I thought it might be useful for everybody. Here it is below (with a little extra added)…. ERP therapy is researched-based. Most other therapies don’t work. There have been people who have been literally stuck in their houses (from their OCD) who gained their lives back through ERP therapy. NOCD does ERP therapy exclusively. You can find it in other places too, but you have to ask around. There are two tenants of ERP therapy: The first one has to do with the repetitive thoughts inside our heads. These thoughts are actually defined as “obsessions”. You are not supposed to do anything with the obsessions. You are supposed to let them run through your head freely, without trying to fix them or stop them. Imagine a tree planted by a river. The leaves fall off and float down the river. You can see the leaves falling, but you don’t try to stop them or pick them up. You don’t try to fix them. You just let them float away. This is really important to do with your obsessive thoughts. The more you try to fight them off, the worse they get. I used to have blasphemous sentences running in my head 24/7. I felt like I had to put a “not” next to each sentence in order to “fix” it. But this just took hours of my time every day, and it was very scary, because I was worried that if I messed up, that I would go to hell. It was very freeing to learn later that I could just let those sentences run freely through my head without trying to fix them. The second part of ERP therapy is all about “denying your compulsions.” Every time OCD tells you that if you don’t do things a certain way that something really bad will happen, that is a compulsion. Once you recognize what your compulsions are, ERP therapy will have you practice stopping doing all of those things. For some people, that will mean stopping washing their hands or touching lights switches or, in my case, putting “fixing” words in their head. Compulsions are safety behaviors. During ERP therapy, you will practice stopping engaging with safety behaviors. All this is very hard to do and scary, so during therapy you will be given tools to help you deal with the fear. Often ERP therapy will take people from being non-functional to functional. I highly recommend it. ————————————————- PITFALL #1: After you have been doing ERP for a while and become somewhat successful, the OCD will try subtle little tricks to bring you down again. The first one is to tell you that your thoughts are REAL and not OCD, and therefore you can’t apply ERP therapy. Don’t fall for this trick! All thoughts are just thoughts. They are all meaningless. Don’t try to figure out what is real and what is OCD. Just treat all thoughts with ERP therapy. PITFALL #2: The second pitfall is that OCD will tell you that you can’t move forward unless you have absolute certainty that you will be safe. Hate to tell you this, folks, but there is no certainty in life. You will never know for SURE that you or your loved ones will be “safe” from the OCD rules. Therefore, you have to move forward in the uncertainty. It’s hard, but it gets easier with time and practice. We got this, guys !!!!!!
- Date posted
- 14w
Anyone have any tips on not making ERP a compulsion? I find myself sometimes wanting to do exposures in order to make myself feel better (feel my anxiety go down and feel relief). 😅
- Date posted
- 12w
I don't have an official OCD diagnosis, although I am near enough certain I have it after a long year of distressing intrusive thoughts and compulsions that have strongly affected my life. Unfortunately though, I do not have the opportunity or the finances to get checked or go to therapy for a good few months at least. Due to this, I have taken it upon myself to teach myself techniques to tackle it and to reduce and not engage in compulsions, as I did not want to take the risk of getting even worse before being able to get help (and desperation lol). For the first time in the past year I feel like I'm finally making some progress in getting better since incorporating these techniques into my life as my symptoms have become more manageable (minus the obvious bad days) at the time being. Is self-recovery actually possible? Has anyone managed to recover without a therapist's help?
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