- Username
- Brooklyn33
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I think I know what you mean.. where the OCD blurs the lines between gender and sexuality to the point where you don’t even know who you are anymore
I know exactly what you mean by "you feel like your life is going to change forever". Part of me feels like ill never be the same after this which is frightening. I feel like im outside of my own body most days. Ive been having better ups since ive started just letting the thoughts be there but its so hard and tiring. I feel so alien.
yep!!
Im a trans guy and for a while flip flopped between "well maybe im just nb" for a bit especially during this. Mostly it was because of pressure, but my so-ocd made me question my gender identity a lot because its been fucking with my thoughts.
Same. Like is more devastating why* you think about this now than the real question at all... I mean, if something has to be, has to be, and that should makes us feel complete or happy. But this feels like numb, stupid, obsessing, terrific... Giving answer of yes or not being this or that is never enough, it doesn't make me feel better. It just gives us anxiety and not answering too xd I know this takes a lot of time but I hate egodistonic thoughts, ugh.
Thank you all, you are all right ♡ I don't know exactly how I feel about this. I think is ocd because I already have hocd and I think that being nb is actually really possible for me because I'm loosing the way I see sex or genders and that's killing me in some way too, even if is not a bad thing, I feel empty and lost all the time, like is too much for me, I know people who is nonbinary and they are really happy about their identity. Being queer is okay for me ♡ but this makes me believe like Im in a transition even if I just cry every day since this popped in my head and even in my dreams I can't escape or sleep more than 5 hours of this thought xd I think that in my compulsion I had read too much about SOOCD and I associate every single shit. I'm actually trying to fight hocd and I'm a little better but this has no sense now... I had never questioned this or had felt it neccesary to be someone. Don't you feel sometimes your life is going to change for any of these thoughts like forever. Like there is no in between. Like is the thought or nothing and even the thought makes you feel no one. I don't want to lose who I am but my head also tells me this is real and being a girl has no meaning... Again thank you all... I feel less lonely about this. Like you all understand me better than anyone ♡
HOCDers: do any of you ever go through moments that feel like realisation or discovery of being gay (I hate this so much because I know I’m not) Also does your ocd ever make you feel funny about being straight when you know you are? Sometimes if I say to myself ‘I’m straight’ I get a sensation that isn’t quite anxiety, I don’t know if it’s a longing/missing just knowing?
i have been feeling like the ideia of being makes me happy, like my mind says that i want to be gay, but deep down it feels like i don’t. but when i tell myself i don’t, my mind says that i do. it is possible to have hocd and become gay after that ? my mind also says that i always knew that i would be gay, which is a lie because i know i never doubted me being heterosexual
TW: GENDER OCD Okay, I posted a lil while ago about SO-OCD, but I have recently been suffering Gender OCD too. And unlike SO-OCD, this one is blowing a hole through my heart. I have never once questioned my gender. I’ve helped my trans and NB friends come out, and never once thought about my gender. But ever since my SO-OCD started and then died down, the thoughts about my gender cropped up. They range from two thoughts: I’m nonbinary, or I’m a gay trans dude in denial. And the latter one freaks me out so much, because I love reading queer media (I’m bi, and so many of my fave book series focus on gay couples), and my brain uses that as an excuse that I like it because I actually AM a gay guy. The thought is paralyzingly, and I can’t even begin to think of a way to overcome it like SO-OCD because the thought of me ‘accepting’ it as true scares the hell out of me. I can’t enjoy my favourite books anymore, or my favourite TV shows/movies. Anything with a gay couple makes my brain think I want to literally be one of them, when before I could just enjoy it for what it was, a story with queer characters. My connection to my gender is something I’ve always held dear to me, and the thought of being pulled from it is heartbreaking, and also makes me feel extremely guilty because I support trans rights so much, so why am I so scared of being trans/NB? How do I even begin to get over this when the idea of accepting the thought terrifies me? How do I begin to convince the anxiety that just because I enjoyed reading/watching something doesn’t mean I actually want it to happen in real life?
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