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- 6y ago
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- 6y ago
I think I know what you mean.. where the OCD blurs the lines between gender and sexuality to the point where you don’t even know who you are anymore
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- 6y ago
I know exactly what you mean by "you feel like your life is going to change forever". Part of me feels like ill never be the same after this which is frightening. I feel like im outside of my own body most days. Ive been having better ups since ive started just letting the thoughts be there but its so hard and tiring. I feel so alien.
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- 6y ago
yep!!
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- 6y ago
Im a trans guy and for a while flip flopped between "well maybe im just nb" for a bit especially during this. Mostly it was because of pressure, but my so-ocd made me question my gender identity a lot because its been fucking with my thoughts.
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- 6y ago
Same. Like is more devastating why* you think about this now than the real question at all... I mean, if something has to be, has to be, and that should makes us feel complete or happy. But this feels like numb, stupid, obsessing, terrific... Giving answer of yes or not being this or that is never enough, it doesn't make me feel better. It just gives us anxiety and not answering too xd I know this takes a lot of time but I hate egodistonic thoughts, ugh.
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- 6y ago
Thank you all, you are all right ♡ I don't know exactly how I feel about this. I think is ocd because I already have hocd and I think that being nb is actually really possible for me because I'm loosing the way I see sex or genders and that's killing me in some way too, even if is not a bad thing, I feel empty and lost all the time, like is too much for me, I know people who is nonbinary and they are really happy about their identity. Being queer is okay for me ♡ but this makes me believe like Im in a transition even if I just cry every day since this popped in my head and even in my dreams I can't escape or sleep more than 5 hours of this thought xd I think that in my compulsion I had read too much about SOOCD and I associate every single shit. I'm actually trying to fight hocd and I'm a little better but this has no sense now... I had never questioned this or had felt it neccesary to be someone. Don't you feel sometimes your life is going to change for any of these thoughts like forever. Like there is no in between. Like is the thought or nothing and even the thought makes you feel no one. I don't want to lose who I am but my head also tells me this is real and being a girl has no meaning... Again thank you all... I feel less lonely about this. Like you all understand me better than anyone ♡
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- 24w ago
Does anyone else with SO-OCD struggle with imagining a future partner and checking feelings? That’s been my biggest compulsion, and now I feel like I don’t want to end up with a man someday, or that if I do I’ll feel sad or lonely. I’m also sitting here imagining being with women and I can’t tell if I like the sexual thoughts or not anymore, or if my negative reactions mean anything. My face scrunches and I feel anxious and my temperature rises. I’ve been off this app for a couple weeks but still feeling anxiety pretty steadily. I keep imagining the future and getting this feeling and voice that I’m gay and I need to come out to everyone. It’s distressing and I don’t feel like myself anymore
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- 15w ago
im having a unusually hard flare up for two months. ive never had it this bad before (ive had this on and off for many years - thank god not constantly.) lately, i keep having these images in my head and scenarios in my head of me "coming out" in the future and ending my relationship with my amazing fiance who i love dearly. he knows everything but i still feel like i am constantly lying to him, my family, and friends. i need to know that this is something the SO-OCD can do to you? the weird thing is, is that i have never been attracted to woman. i do admire their beauty and wish to LOOK like them or have a specific feature they have, but i dont have any urges to like be with them yet i am dealing with this really bad flare up. My brain keeps telling me that since i have never tried it, i would never know, and i am just getting really distressed from it. i just want to be happy again and it seems impossible. I am convinced i am only person that is using SO-OCD as an excuse. Any guidance or advice, or anything really, will help. i just feel alone and scared and sad all the time.
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- 9w ago
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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