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- 3y
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Yeah or like, am I ocd enough? Am I doing the things an OCD person would do? Like I’m really struggling at the moment because it feels like I want my intrusive thoughts to be true. Idk
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Yep
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Yes and I’m very grateful my therapist knew me well enough to warn me about that when she diagnosed me. For me the exposure is any thought that basically says, “I have to FIX my ocd and I have to do everything right in my ERP in order to do so.” I don’t need a planned exposure when it’s already there naturally. The key is recognizing those are ocd thoughts as quickly as possible and treating them the same as any other ocd thought. Letting the thought exist instead of resisting it or giving into it, choosing not to do compulsions. my standards for this are avoidance or obsessive plans to “do erp perfectly”… lists of all the exposures I could ever do and prioritizing them all and ahhhhh. And then ya know, “maybe, maybe not.” “Maybe I’m doing recovery well, maybe not. I am doing what I can today.”
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- 3y
This is great advice, I can relate to this a lot and will try to implement into my recovery. Thanks!
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- 24w
I’m having a big OCD relapse and would like to hear anyone’s tips on how to be present and healthily deal with these intrusive thoughts and the “need” to preform compulsions. Thank you!!
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- 21w
So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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- 10w
Hey guys just wondering if anyone suffers from this type of OCD. I feel a big struggle to even begin things because it doesn’t feel right or if I resume things it doesn’t feel right. Anyone have any advice ? Thank you
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