I just did a mentality change that is really helping me with my doubts. We all have doubts right (rocd and pure ocd)? So what If we use our doubts as motivations to become a better version of ourselves? Obviously not by listening to them or giving them importance, but watching them from a different point of view! I'm just venting, but I would love a your opinion on that!! I think this is a very very powerful mentality!! If you want to try with your doubts too, maby it can helps!! For examples! [TW] (thought->motivation) _ "maby I don't love him enough" -> "I want to heal to love him even more, let's see how!" _ "maby we are not right" -> "I would love to be right, what can I do to improve my relationship and becoming even more right" _ "maby he doesn't love me enough" -> "what can I do to make myself feel more loved (by him and by myself too), I want to do somethingthat turn him on again, that can embrace his and mine qualities!" _ "will I ever be able to feel emotions again?" -> "I want to feel emotions again. What can I do? I think therapy can help so let's start it!"

Really need input. I have been suffering with doubts and thoughts since November. I saw a therapist who diagnosed me with OCD and have been in OCD medication for a couple months now. The meds have helped drastically with the frequency and urgency of my thoughts. But over the last week or so they have increased again. I did just get laid off from my job so I’m not sure if the stress from that has anything to do with it. But I’m at the point of questioning whether it really even is ROCD or if I’ve just been using it as an excuse to not see red flags. For example, my doubts are mainly around his contribution to chores, our quality time and romance, and how much of the load he will carry in the future once kids and things come into the picture. He is a hard worker who works long hours. He does also have ADHD which I think could be important to know here. But he will often say he is going to do little things like “Wednesday we will play a game together that night” and then they day comes and he ends up being too tired to play or just wants to watch our show together instead. And then if he doesn’t do a chore on the exact day he’s supposed to I start thinking he doesn’t care or doesn’t keep his word. I feel like I’m constantly asking for dates or romance or him to say sweet things. And I know sometimes he does. But at this point I can’t tell if it’s genuine unmet needs or if ROCD is making me not see the positive things he does or if ROCD is making me think I need more of these things because of unrealistic expectations or comparisons to social media. I think I know deep down I love him and want to be with him but then I start to think that I’m being treated wrong or that I’m settling. Please help.

Hi everyone, I recently had a chat with a coach on Instagram about my relationship anxiety, and they said I probably don’t have ROCD — because what I’m experiencing sounds more like real doubts, not intrusive thoughts. In her opinion I have signs of real doubts: – There are understandable reasons, like lack of sexual desire – The thoughts show up in specific situations – Talking about the issue or seeing changes in the relationship brings relief They also asked: “Would you still have these doubts if you knew for sure that your relationship was healthy?” And now I’m just stuck. And now I’m wondering: am I just in denial? Or is this still OCD? Have any of you been through something similar — where someone told you your doubts are real, and it made things worse? Thanks for reading. I’d really appreciate hearing how others have navigated this.

I wanted to talk about my experiences with rOCD since I currently do still suffer from it but I know if I talked about them. My thoughts are just gonna get stronger, but I’ll do it for the sake of talking about my experiences to others who feel like they’re alone. I have a very loving relationship actually my first healthy relationship we are currently still dating one year and six months. I would say these intrusive thoughts started to happen once I hit the one year mark with him. Nothing in the relationship has made me think these thoughts, but it just came. Like when my mind tried to make me think I liked another guy other than my boyfriend and that I was losing feelings for him. I started to panic because I knew that my heart belonged to my boyfriend and having thoughts that were against that belief it made me really anxious cause I never had those thoughts before. I was in and out of the care center at my school constantly having anxiety attacks, and it was affecting me day by day. I talk to my boyfriend about it because my mind can never keep secrets from him because then I would feel like that I’m lying to him… my mind just kinda works that way and I believe it’s due to the situation I have with rOCD. Luckily, he was really supportive.. in thoughts I’ve had was what if I don’t like him anymore or if he doesn’t do this does that mean he likes me or if he’s even the one just a lot of doubts about me and him in the relationship. And for anyone who’s experiencing stuff familiar to this you are not alone invalid only what you believe is what is true. And I know it’s gonna be hard to know what’s true or not because these thoughts that you have versus what’s in your heart you get confused but if you know that you love that person then that’s what true. Also, the only reason why it affected me a lot was because I kept trying to solve it and the only solution is to let those thoughts in and accept that you have those thoughts. I don’t mean as an accept that these thoughts are true, but accepts that those are the thoughts that you’re thinking because if you keep on trying to find a solution to remove them, it only just get worse.