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I really beginning to think that this might be related to not being able to establish and maintain relationships (current or past) and then questioning yourself about it. Did you or are you having problems with women?
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It’s to the point where anything triggers it.
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Is it because you constantly have the anxiety and distressed images that don’t allow you to be aroused or are you not interested in having sex with them at all?
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Me all the time. It’s driving me crazy.
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Almost 3 months
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I've been with this shit for 4 years. Ruined my life. I have no sexual drive and almost any sexual desire for women. Anything could trigger that feeling of panic and angusih. Depression is always around the corner. It's hell. Did anyone also lose attraction to women?
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Several months... I feel like I don't know who I am anymore... like I am not real... I hate despersonalization
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What’s up guys, I’m in a relationship currently as of 2 years. My HOCD has gotten progressively worse over the past month. Every time I reassure myself and read someone else story I’m always able to pick out various things of how I can’t be gay. Now my mind is trying to convince me that isn’t true. I’ve never been sexually attracted to a man but now I’m in fear that I should watch gay porn just to confirm I won’t be aroused. I can’t believe I’m at this point. I’ve watched countless porn videos and never even paid attention to the guy. It’s like I transformed into a homosexual overnight. I still get hard when having fantasies about women but I just don’t understand why I’m having these thoughts and why they won’t go away.
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My biggest issue right now is when I fantasize about sex. I never had intrusive thoughts sexually about a man when it first started. But when I watch porn I’m able to get aroused without much of a problem, the issue is that I start to get intrusive thoughts and during and then I make myself think it’s the images that make me aroused. So now I watch lesbian porn instead to take the guy out of it. But the shitty thing is I still constantly think about it and keep checking to see if I get aroused and I fear I’m conditioning my mind to get used to the thoughts or that it’s something I want
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I feel all of you on this. I’ve dealt and still deal with HOCD since January. My problem is now when I feel like myself again, I’ll look at porn or my gf and fantasize about her but then one of my friends will pop in my head and I feel uncomfortable.
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Groinal Responses are normal with hocd, I have them all the time. It’s torture. My advice is to stop watching any type of porn and to searching for reassurance.
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They’re not normal like mine, I feel a semi erection maybe even a full erection it makes me very sad
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How long has this been occurring several weeks or several months?
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I have hocd for almost 6 years
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Damn I can’t imagine having it for that long. I want to get back to how I used to be with women but my mind is saying that I don’t want that.
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And groin responses don’t help much.
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Are you guys in relationships right now?
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Try the organic raw Maca powder to boost drive. I sprinkle or dust a little on cereal every few days.
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I’ve had HOCD for about 5 months
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My ex girlfriend ended our relationship 7 months ago, the breakup recovery process was horrible but now I am pretty much over her. I used to get random thoughts about if I was gay or when I saw a guy that I would consider him attractive but I quickly ignored the thoughts like it was nothing. Now the thoughts came back stronger than ever about 2 months ago and it’s been pure hell. I have no sexual drive at all and when I do get aroused by women, my erection only last a few minutes and then thoughts of guys and what If I don’t like this come in and the mood goes out the window. It’s terrible.
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High stresses and uncertainty could be exacerbating these types of thoughts.
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Well my only problem right now is that I have women that want to get with me but I feel no sexual attraction towards them. And the groin responses I’m getting because of my hocd is really taking a toll on me
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To re-condition the thought pattern switch from intrusive aroused thoughts immediately over to thoughts and images of every sexual female detail and attribute.
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That’s rough man, I couldn’t imagine if it was one of my friends. Would it help as an exposure to talk to them and maybe relieve your anxiety during that moment? Kind of let the thoughts come in and respond to them rather than react?
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I’m not that interested in some of them, but I have really bad performance anxiety, and I’m also scared of thoughts of guys popping up in my head since this happens when I masturbate.
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Yes! Happens to me as well
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I’ve been checking gay porn for arousal it’s really depressing
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I’m really depressed I got a groinal response I can’t deal with it I can’t do it anymore
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Help
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What does it mean
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Like I feel geroinals ALL DAY and it’s stuck… I think I’m bi. But this still drives me nuts.
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I’ve been struggling with HOCD for years, and it started with an intrusive thought about being gay when I was younger. It came up at age 12 and ever since, I’ve been trapped in a cycle of doubt and anxiety. I obsess over whether or not I’m secretly gay, even though I don’t feel that way at all. What makes it worse is the fear that I might have internalized homophobia, and that’s why I’m having these obsessive thoughts. I worry that my anxiety is a sign that I’m repressing something or rejecting part of myself. It feels like my mind keeps repeating the same question—am I gay?—and no matter how much reassurance I get, the fear doesn’t go away. I used to pray for my family members, fearing that if I didn’t, something bad would happen to them, and now it feels like I have to control these thoughts, or something will go wrong. For a while, it was quieter, but a week ago, the thoughts spiraled up again, and now the anxiety feels overwhelming again. It’s exhausting, and I don’t know how to break free from this constant loop of doubt. Has anyone dealt with the fear of internalized homophobia alongside HOCD? How do you manage the anxiety that comes with it?
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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