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I really beginning to think that this might be related to not being able to establish and maintain relationships (current or past) and then questioning yourself about it. Did you or are you having problems with women?
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It’s to the point where anything triggers it.
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Is it because you constantly have the anxiety and distressed images that don’t allow you to be aroused or are you not interested in having sex with them at all?
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Me all the time. It’s driving me crazy.
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Almost 3 months
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I've been with this shit for 4 years. Ruined my life. I have no sexual drive and almost any sexual desire for women. Anything could trigger that feeling of panic and angusih. Depression is always around the corner. It's hell. Did anyone also lose attraction to women?
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Several months... I feel like I don't know who I am anymore... like I am not real... I hate despersonalization
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What’s up guys, I’m in a relationship currently as of 2 years. My HOCD has gotten progressively worse over the past month. Every time I reassure myself and read someone else story I’m always able to pick out various things of how I can’t be gay. Now my mind is trying to convince me that isn’t true. I’ve never been sexually attracted to a man but now I’m in fear that I should watch gay porn just to confirm I won’t be aroused. I can’t believe I’m at this point. I’ve watched countless porn videos and never even paid attention to the guy. It’s like I transformed into a homosexual overnight. I still get hard when having fantasies about women but I just don’t understand why I’m having these thoughts and why they won’t go away.
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My biggest issue right now is when I fantasize about sex. I never had intrusive thoughts sexually about a man when it first started. But when I watch porn I’m able to get aroused without much of a problem, the issue is that I start to get intrusive thoughts and during and then I make myself think it’s the images that make me aroused. So now I watch lesbian porn instead to take the guy out of it. But the shitty thing is I still constantly think about it and keep checking to see if I get aroused and I fear I’m conditioning my mind to get used to the thoughts or that it’s something I want
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I feel all of you on this. I’ve dealt and still deal with HOCD since January. My problem is now when I feel like myself again, I’ll look at porn or my gf and fantasize about her but then one of my friends will pop in my head and I feel uncomfortable.
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Groinal Responses are normal with hocd, I have them all the time. It’s torture. My advice is to stop watching any type of porn and to searching for reassurance.
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They’re not normal like mine, I feel a semi erection maybe even a full erection it makes me very sad
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How long has this been occurring several weeks or several months?
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I have hocd for almost 6 years
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Damn I can’t imagine having it for that long. I want to get back to how I used to be with women but my mind is saying that I don’t want that.
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And groin responses don’t help much.
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Are you guys in relationships right now?
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Try the organic raw Maca powder to boost drive. I sprinkle or dust a little on cereal every few days.
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I’ve had HOCD for about 5 months
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My ex girlfriend ended our relationship 7 months ago, the breakup recovery process was horrible but now I am pretty much over her. I used to get random thoughts about if I was gay or when I saw a guy that I would consider him attractive but I quickly ignored the thoughts like it was nothing. Now the thoughts came back stronger than ever about 2 months ago and it’s been pure hell. I have no sexual drive at all and when I do get aroused by women, my erection only last a few minutes and then thoughts of guys and what If I don’t like this come in and the mood goes out the window. It’s terrible.
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High stresses and uncertainty could be exacerbating these types of thoughts.
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Well my only problem right now is that I have women that want to get with me but I feel no sexual attraction towards them. And the groin responses I’m getting because of my hocd is really taking a toll on me
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To re-condition the thought pattern switch from intrusive aroused thoughts immediately over to thoughts and images of every sexual female detail and attribute.
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That’s rough man, I couldn’t imagine if it was one of my friends. Would it help as an exposure to talk to them and maybe relieve your anxiety during that moment? Kind of let the thoughts come in and respond to them rather than react?
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I’m not that interested in some of them, but I have really bad performance anxiety, and I’m also scared of thoughts of guys popping up in my head since this happens when I masturbate.
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Yes! Happens to me as well
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I’ve been checking gay porn for arousal it’s really depressing
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I’m really depressed I got a groinal response I can’t deal with it I can’t do it anymore
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Help
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What does it mean
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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Idk if this post is even worth it but it seemed like a normal day for me, called off work due to the weather so I get to just stay home and play games all day. Easy day besides dealing with the constant and unbearable battle with my intrusive thoughts/feelings. Took a shower and I just had constant thoughts, (heart palpitations are pretty constant) ended up breaking down and bawling my eyes out. I was diagnosed with HOCD and ROCD about 2 months ago and since it's just gotten worse. It feels as real as it can get and after talking to my girlfriend about the anxiety attack, it feels even more real. I have no desire or enjoyment from what comes from my brain, and at this point I'm on my knees begging the big man upstairs for my old life back, how do I go from being obsessed with women (sexually and emotionally) to pretty much doing a 180 overnight (with the obvious anxiety and worry behind it. No real desire obviously). I'm just at a loss, I've done a little ERP and it seemed to help with the brain fog but besides that, everything that it does to someone, I have. And again there's the doubt I even have OCD and I'm in straight denial. It just sucks.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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