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Same. I also hate it when people tell me to trust my gut. I feel like I can't trust it because of my ocd
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Yeah that's a very unhelpful phrase. Just ignore it
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Same!! I used to be really into “spirituality” and angel numbers were a big trigger for me same with intuition.
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@Anonymous OMG you're not alone!! It triggers me so much too!!
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I know that feeling very well. It's weird how feeling like we don't love someone causes us immense distress, which doesn't make sense. If I don't love someone I don't care what I'm feeling. That said one of my rumination topics is my emotional numbness and feeling like I don't care. But regarding the IG quotes: use them as ERP!!! Instead of being scared of it, seek them out, agree with them until you feel your anxiety go down. It's the only way ❤️ U got this ;)
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I have also found that the typical sayings in this area aren't helpful for those with ROCD. I once saw a tweet that said "if you can't decide, the answer is no" and it bugged me a lot and gave me anxiety. Keep working on improving with your OCD therapy and things will start to get more clear. If you want things to work out and if the idea of breaking up is anxiety provoking... those could be good signs that you really do want the relationship and/or love your boyfriend. Something that has helped me is committing to act a certain way or do a certain thing - say "I love you", give hugs, purposely do not avoid my partner, do activities together - even if I am feeling anxious from OCD. Feelings aren't reliable if ROCD is active for me so actions speak louder. Good luck.
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Yes I 100% agree with you and when I read other people’s comments in their ROCD I can see it’s ROCD and I can give the right advice I think when you’re in the middle of it yourself it’s that much harder to take the advice on board and not doubt -but yeah I guess it is called the doubting disorder for a reason lol! I also find I feel sick before meeting my boyfriend but I am trying to be there for him regardless
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My ROCD is just so bad today I’m glued to my bed I have no energy for this ah , I don’t know how we cope with this :’)
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I have days like that too. I'm having a hard one today. You're not alone ❤️
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@lmls1305 My prayers are with you too🙏🏻
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@Tillyyyx Thank you!
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Hi Tillyyyx, I can relate ROCD makes it hard to be in a relationship sometimes, as well as before and after with the incessant doubt it causes and what if rabbit holes. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone down the unending road of “does she really love me?” “Is she mad at me?” “Why didn’t she’s respond…lemme check one more time…” “Maybe it’s all in my head…” and driven myself nauseous and unable to sleep. I have definitely had those not wanting to get out of bed days from my OCD as well. My ERP with my other subtypes has definitely helped me cope better with my ROCD, it does not rear its ugly head nearly as much as it used to. And don’t worry, I will spare you from using any cop-out lines about relationships, because there is no 100% knowing for sure that you will have a fairy tale ending with your current or another partner, no matter much OCD wants you to give it a definitive answer. The only thing you can do is treat your ROCD intrusive thoughts like your other intrusive thoughts and not dwell on them and live with the uncertainty that you may or may not be with the “right” person for you. All you can do is do your best to live your life the best you can, for you, not your OCD, and if more often than not you are not happy or cannot be yourself with your partner or if you imagine not being with them and that thoughts makes you feel relief or a sense of peace or happiness…that may tell you something. I will say in my case that with my current fiancé, she is the only girlfriend I have ever had where my ROCD has never really flared up and the intrusive thoughts about whether she loves me or if we should be together, etc…are barely a blip on my radar, which is completely new for me. Maybe it’s because I met her after I had already started ERP, or maybe my OCD knows it can’t shake me on this one…. In any event, hang in there, stay strong against your ROCD, take care and best wishes.
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And yeah the numbness is scaring me even more than the obsessive thoughts now cause at least the obsessive thoughts I’ve gotten used to but the numbness I haven’t worked that one out yet haha
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That's probably the hardest. I think an important step is accepting that you will feel numb sometimes.
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@k-low Thanks for your help I’m going to get through this even if it feels impossible !
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Thanks for your helpful comment ! You’re definetly right that there will always be uncertainty and you can’t magic your way into certainty through obsessive thoughts and ruminating lol! I don’t think that ROCD means you are a wrong relationship though , I think ocd is just the doubting disorder in general and so it attacks what we care most about ! Still I’m glad that you are not getting these thoughts with your current girlfriend, ERP does really work :)
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me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
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Recently my ocd keeps asking me if I love my boyfriend enough and that if I don’t love him enough I should breakup with him. It’s really bothering me and idk what to do about it. Sitting in the uncertainty is too much and I fear sitting with it too long I’m just gonna crack and give in to a compulsion.
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My ROCD is at an all time high right now. I have an appointment set up, but the wait is awful. My husband found one of my erp exercises where I write a sentence about him maybe not being the right partner. I had forgotten to throw it away. Of course it made him sad. I feel so ashamed and like I've damaged our relationship beyond repair. The sad part is, the thought comes,"if he ends it, at least I might get some relief". I feel like the worst wife.
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