Ok this isn’t ROCD related whatsoever. I’m stressed and frustrated about other things too. No one needs to write or respond to this I am just venting since it’s about my friend and her freaking husband. We’ve been roommates for 5 years now. My husband and I are moving into my sister’s new home since she offered and we couldn’t find a place before January. Her husband which is my husband’s so called freaking friend has been pissed and angry and all we’ve been feeling is tension from him which is making things very uncomfortable before we have to move. We can’t move yet since my sister’s new place is having work done on it so it won’t be ready until the end of the month. I get it. We’ve been here long enough and they got married awhile back so they want the house to themselves again since they are more financially stable than us. We are not angry about that. We are angry bc of the freaking tension he is giving off. It’s really starting to piss me off. I just wish he would tell us what’s bothering him to get it over with and if he or my friend never wants to see us again JUST bc we are not at the same level as them in life than of the fuck well. I’m care about my friend we are close but I’m tired of her husband giving off this freaking tension that is adding extra stress. He has a huge freaking history for holding grudges. He will hate someone forever if they do something wrong to them and isn’t willing to talk it out with them. Like my friend told me her husband is upset with mine bc he doesn’t wanna hang out. My partner is stressed out depressed and honestly is just a homebody. The thing is they don’t talk shit out and he expects my partner to just know when he wants to hang out. Her husband has been busy with work, doing stuff with his music and hanging out with his other friends that he gets into annoyed with on occasions. I told my friend that if her husband is having issues with mine then he needs to talk to mine about it. I can’t do it for him or either can she. If he isn’t willing which sounds like he isn’t then what’s the point of bringing it up!? She said it isn’t upsetting him now but it must be upsetting him in some way if she had to bring it up in the first place. My friend and I get along perfectly fine but I can’t bring this up to her bc I don’t want things to get worse before we move out. I know them living with my ROCD hasn’t been great and lately I tried my best to stay far away from them. I even told her I don’t wanna bother her with my issues anymore but she tells me to let it out so I do. I even try to changed topic quickly by asking her how her new job is going. But my god her husband needs to either tell us what’s bothering him or just calm down with the tension. He will have his house back soon after 5 years. Oh he even gets upset that my partner doesn’t like to go drinking and going out to randomly places to hang. He even said he doesn’t bother to hang out with him while he is at home. Well it’s hard when her husband is busy or seems freaking angry all the time. My partner sure can be oblivious sometimes that’s just who he is but he knows and can feel the tension with his friend so he stays away for that purpose. Right now too with us moving he doesn’t even see hanging out with friends right now as top priority. I don’t even hang out with my friend that often just bc there are bigger things to worry about. Sure I hung out with her twice this month for like an hour 1/2. Socializing drains my energy so I don’t like to hang out that much unless I’m in the mood too. I wish I could be open about this with her but I can’t without problems arising. My partner already has confident issues about what people think of him and this isn’t helping him at all. So I think when we move we are gonna stay away from them for awhile. Even though I have a feeling his friend will no longer want anything to do with him anymore which is pissing me the hell off. Sorry that was so long. I am just frustrated.