I just got in a huge fight with my mom about trans rights. She thinks “girls” will never look like boys, and I got really upset because some of my closest friends are trans, so now she’s like “WELL WHY DO YOU CARE SO MUCH?!!?!” And I’m worried that now she thinks I’m trans, which I am not. It just makes me upset to hear her talk about my friends appearance like that. Or maybe she thinks I’m gay cuz I’m not homophobic and transphobic like her. Idk, I’m worried she’s gonna make this awkward lol. I’m literally crying rn

Not wise advice ! There are many ways to go about that . Telling her mom that will not help in any way

@Bookworm91 Still not a way to address something to her mother . To each is own . It’s not what you say , it’s how you say it .

@Bookworm91 You seem very bothered by this topic . You must personally know her mom or something ?

@Bookworm91 She posted something about her mom . Whether you like what her mom says or not , doesn’t mean she needs to respond that way . Giving advice is all from different perspectives but it’s how you do it . Don’t you think if her mom already needs to be “ knocked down a peg” that her saying that would make things worse ? Not very wise …..like at all

@Bookworm91 This matter seems very personable to you or something . Again , not always what you say but how you say it . Maybe common sense isn’t so common after all

also, some people like the exercise where you ask someone "What if you were born as a/assigned a [different gender]?" but that doesn't really work with cis ppl, because they assume that since they are cis now, they'd be cis then. instead, ask her what she'd do if tomorrow someone took her intact brain and dropped it into a "male" body. Would she instantly feel like a man, or would she still feel like the same woman she always has been? Cis people assume that there must be a brain and body connection BECAUSE they got lucky enough to collect a matching set. But if the body didn't match her brain, it would probably be different.

And remember, it's not your responsibility to change the minds and hearts of other people if doing so will make YOU unsafe. You're no use to anyone dead or hurt-- so take any advice with a grain of salt if it puts you in physical or emotional danger, or if it puts someone else in that danger.