OCDGuy123
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Lms526Lms526
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes, to a point. I think we should support and encourage each other. But the problem is that so many of the people who post on here are seeking reassurance. You try to encourage and support them, and they reject it. Another thing I've noticed is there are a lot of people who will make a reassurance post and then get all ticked off when no one responds. Or they will ask people to respond to their posts.
GoneHikingGoneHiking
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I second Lms526 and excalibre - support and encouragement are good, reassurance is not. That said, I do kinda feel like there's a difference between wanting a second opinion and seeking reassurance; I don't normally ask for reassurance because I know it won't really help, but if I'm facing a conundrum or life-related challenge and I feel like I'm in a stable place emotionally, I'll sometimes look for another perspective to obtain an idea of how my stance compares. Once I've done that ONCE, however, I'm done - even though it doesn't feel compulsive, I never allow myself to ask the same questions twice because it's difficult to distinguish between OCD-related doubt and a desire for another viewpoint. I don't ask community members to read my posts either, although I am happy when they do.
Lms526Lms526
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Sounds like a good approach.
Bookworm91Bookworm91
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yeah. Yes to all of this. It’s like if you can tell someone’s having a really really horrible day I’m not sure if reassurance is the right word but seeing a little bit of something is immensely helpful.
excalibre-hotmessexpressexcalibre-ho...
- Date posted
- 3y ago
yeah there's a difference between reassurance-- "your OCD fears aren't true, you're a good person"-- encouragement-- "you've got this, you will beat this, I believe in you"-- commiserating-- "I'm so sorry you're going through this. You deserve better."-- and advising-- "You need to do some self-care." The last 3 are gooodd
excalibre-hotmessexpressexcalibre-ho...
- Date posted
- 3y ago
there's also tough love. "suck it up. do your erp. and go to sleep."
anon222anon222
- Date posted
- 3y ago
yes, i think helping people see more clearly ab a situation is different than reassurance in some instances possibly
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hopefulxmess
- Date posted
- 19w ago
This really set me back😪
The other day I made a post about being kind and supportive and not being judgmental when commenting on other people’s posts because someone made a comment on my post insinuating that I don’t have ocd and i’m actually just a bad person. At first it didn’t really bother me because I know i’m not a bad person but now my ocd is latching onto their comment and it’s making me feel horrible. My post that they commented on was about how whenever I think things to myself like how my pre teen daughter is blessed to have slim legs and not chubby thighs like mine and she’s growing up into a nice shape or my teen son has a nice shape jawline and neck and it’s good that he’s slim but he’s too slim or how all of my adult kids are so handsome/beautiful my ocd turns my random normal mom thoughts into something inappropriate. I know I don’t think of or look at my kids or any kids or young person in an inappropriate way. My ocd says I do and I was seeking support. That persons comment was so damaging for me. I tried to think maybe they have never had dark disturbing intrusive thoughts with their ocd themes and maybe they just don’t understand or maybe they have never had pocd theme or maybe they are not a parent but even if all of that were true, their comment was still so judgmental and damaging. I am struggling even more now because my ocd is latching onto that persons comment and making me feel like a horrible person. Has anyone else had this happen? How did you get through it?
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