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That’s definitely not the nicest thing to hear, I’d be in tears too. Your feelings are completely valid, that must be awful to hear, and you’re allowed to be upset because of it
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I’m literally crying 😭
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My eyes are red right now
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That’s messed up... that’s not something a friend should ever say and I seriously hate the fact that this person said that...
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How would you feel 😭😭😭
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@Peridottttt I would feel betrayed, and hurt...
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@POCD/RealEventOCD How hurt tho from 1-10
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@Peridottttt A solid 9
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Block that friend. Don’t ever speak to them again. Don’t respond. Literally act like she doesn’t exist.
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How would you feel please I don’t want to feel like I’m overreacting
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@Peridottttt I’d be pissed off and I would block them and never talk to them again
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@Bookworm91 What if she apologize
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@Peridottttt Doesn’t matter. That kind of viciousness isn’t something you can apologize for. That is actually how she feels about you and it wouldn’t be smart to ever be her friend agaib
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@Bookworm91 I’m usually very forgiving maybe she had a bad day and didn’t mean it
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@Bookworm91 But I do see your point across
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@Peridottttt Ok forgiving is good but not to the point where you have people like her in your life. Her bad day absolutely does not matter. She has no right to talk to you like that
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I would feel very hurt your feelings are 100% valid and I am so sorry they said that and you don’t deserve it please be kind to yourself remeber to take deep breaths and watch something happy to take your mind off things
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I’m already hurt because the hotline I just got off only gave me 5 mins to talk and left the chat
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@Peridottttt I’m so sorry I know it’s really tough right now but hang in there it’s going to be okay. It may be hard to reach somebody now due to the holidays but know that we are here for you. I would try the hotline again tomorrow maybe tomorrow will be easier. I hope you feel better
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@Bananaclip I tried many hotlines and last night that one was my last straw they should’ve checked up on me but they just ended the chat as if I was a budern, they didn’t even really help they were like “you can find some ways to cope like coloring” that doesn’t help the problem at all.
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I’m really sorry she said that to you. That’s so so awful. I believe you should forgive her no matter what. Forgiveness can be hard, but it’s the right thing to do and it’s not healthy to hold on to pain and anger. But that doesn’t mean you automatically have to trust that she won’t hurt you this way again.
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- 22w
When I was 5, I met my best friend in kindergarten. Ever since, she had not really been allowing me to hang out with other kids because she wanted me all for herself, which I thought was cute at the time, but then she also began completely leaving me for another friend whom she'd become obsessed eith, and when she got bored of them, she'd then come back to me. Many times she's insult me, but if I ever dared say she's even doing something wrong she'd get mad. I always had to do what she wanted, and every time I said no and wanted to do something she'd barge into my bedroom (because this was mostly in my house when we used to play), slam the door, and throw things at me when I came in to talk. Once, I found a horseshoe (I can't remember if I was with her or if I told her about it?) but anyways I was the one who found it, and she demanded I give it to her. I told her no because I loved it and wanted it and I found it, and she told me that if I didn't give it to her she would h**ng me with it. I didn't even know what that meant but I knew it meant something terrifying. I also began developing OCD around 8 and she and basically everyone made fun of me because I had a lot of physical compulsions and they reanacted my compulsions, and for that I always felt stupid and weird. I began to hide my compulsions, only doing them when no one was watching or when I was alone. I normalised it all by the time I turned 13, but my relationship had gotten so bad with her that I was actually absolutely terrified of going to her house to hang out, and for her birthday, she invited me out with another friend she hung out with. They ONLY spoke about things they were interested in like books and that's fine, but they knew that I wasn't interested in that stuff at all and asked me "Why don't you talk?" Like always, I felt left out because the only time my ex bsf spoke to me was when she embarrassed me in front of the other friend. Anyways I couldn't take it anymore that summer and stopped talking to her because I just couldn't do it anymore. Thoughout those years (and now still) I've been using Maladaptive Daydreaming SEVERELY every day to cope. I remember it reached the point where I would be actually talking to them in my head, like using my tongue to talk as if I was speaking physically but not opening my mouth or letting out any noise so nobody thinks I'm weird if that makes any sense, and I'd just be listening to music ALL day and pace for hours and hell, my OCD began targeting my MD, which was LITERALLY the thing my brain was using in order to protect my brain from loneliness AND OCD which os crazy lol, but I feel so stupid because I feel like with the MD i should've just sucked it up and changed fandoms instead of letting my OCD keep targeting the characters of the fandom I was Daydreaming to, even though I would spend days feeling physically hot, head and thoughts spinning, overanalyzing the game I daydreamed to over and over again to make sure that the character I roleplayed as was loved by the other characters that brought me comfort. I was so obsessed with the characters and the Daydreaming that it probably became the only thing that made me feel genuinely understood and loved and they were in my very own head! Does what happened even count as trauma lol? It feels kinda stupid cus it was just a childhood friend being a kid like yea sure she was toxic, but I never hated her. My parents loathe her because of this, but I feel like I'm just over exaggerating everything and don't want to be saying that this girl has traumatised me because I don't want to be blaming someone for something severe.
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- 18w
Hey, yesterday my ex told me something I did that hurt them. This was that I didnt respond in a supportive way when he came out to me. I genuinely had no idea he was coming out (I thought it was a flippant comment) and I was frustrated as we had been having issues with intimacy for months. He said it made him feel awful and it’s only since telling his friends that he has realised how painful my reaction was. I apologised as I do feel awful I made him feel that way but now I keep questioning my reality or perception of what happened. I also keep wanting to reach out to explain why I responded the way I did. Any tips for when you genuinely feel like a monster or did something so outside of your morals? I feel awful
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Basically, My best friends both remained close with my ex. Someone who completely broke me when we broke up. My friends know that. They remained friends with him, pretty close too. It’s always bothered me, even 3 years down the line because it’s something I would NEVER do to them. Ever. My best friend cancelled some plans we had, which was very unlike her. I asked why, she said she’s going on a walk with a friend. I was like fun! What friend? And she didn’t want to say, from that, I knew it was my ex. She then confirmed it to be my ex. It was clear I was annoyed. I’d had a shit day and that topped it off. She then cancelled the plan with him. I felt awful. I said no, just because I’m annoyed please don’t cancel. I said I’m not mad at you, I’m disappointed about the situation and the way things are. She was very understanding and said that she does not blame me for feeling upset about it. I asked her to please not cancel the plans because of me. She said she wanted to move it to another date anyways. Am I a bad friend for feeling annoyed/uncomfortable at the fact both of my best friends are close friends with my ex? It’s been 3 years and it still makes me SO uncomfortable.
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