Happy monday y'all :) i could honestly use some help and support if anyone has experience dealing with narcissistic parents... This is hard for me to say, but basically it feels like my parents don't want me to heal and that they're kind of standing in the way of my healing--especially my father. He keeps sending me extremely below the belt messages about how me distancing myself from him and my mother is a horrible idea. Just one type of thing he says is "you'll be alone after your nana dies, then who will you have? We're all you have!" Which is completely not true 🥲. To make things worse, he actually said this to my nana (his mother...who has a fear of dying...) and is extremely jealous of our close relationship. He's constantly calling her and talking about what a disappointment I am Sorry to vent y'all, normally I post positive stuff. But this has been really getting to me, as my therapist will still be out until next week 🥺. On a happy note, i had a good time at the lake yesterday :). It was frozen over but super sunny and pretty 😊

Thank you for being there! ❤ yea its hard, especially during the holidays.

Thank you for your sympathy :) its tough. It was super cold but really nice yesterday 😊

I am sorry to hear about what happened with you, it sounds like no contact was the way to go though, I've been contemplating that. I am feeling the guilt right now, but I am working through it because I know I am doing what is best for me. Its just that my sister has a relationship with my parents and she's my roommate...so it makes things a little more difficult. Narcs definitely can never take responsibility for anything they do...I am sorry you have gone through such a painful experience. I hope the new year brings joy and abundance to ya, thanks for being a there 🤗💗

@alexisrae1999 My youngest brother kept a relationship with him years after the three of us but my dad continued and finally he did a couple of things that broke the camel’s back. It’s hard to not compare yourself with your sister, thoughts like “well maybe I should be more forgiving” or “maybe I’m not good as so-and-so bc she kept the relationship”. Everyone is different and chooses their own path, but we shouldn’t feel badly about protecting ourselves, however way we choose to do that. Thx. You have a good new year too.

@alexisrae1999 I’ve only done some light reading on the subject but narcissistic parents they treat one kid different from the other. Scapegoat and golden child…

@LisaP99 Those are the thoughts that go through my head, depending on how my days going they affect me differently. I'm glad your brother finally saw the truth :(. I agree, we all choose our paths, peace is essential to living and without it you're not really living up to your true potential. Thanks girl! 😊 I was definitely the scapegoat lol

I have tried setting a lot of boundaries...word for word boundaries, but my dad doesn't seem to want to believe that I'm setting any. I'm working on the feelings of selfishness. It sucks when they never think they do anything wrong 😩 makes you feel crazy and gaslit. I think you made a good choice with your father. Thank you for listening :)

Thank you matt 🤗💗