I’m in a new relationship and have real event ocd. I really did something terrible back in 2006 and I feel the strong urge to tell the new guy I’m dating. It was back when I was 19 and I’m now 35. Should I tell him?

Are you doing this to seek reassurance? I would try to ask yourself why you want to talk to them about it. I struggle with real event ocd sometimes as well as well as other types like harm, suicide, etc. I am doing my best to just sit with this uncertainty and allow myself to use my own strength to not engage in reassurance seeking or anything like that. I still feel crappy today, but i have forced myself multiple times to not engage the urge to google things, seek reassurance from people, etc. Like i said, i still feel crappy today but i don't feel as bad today as i did earlier this week.

Just worried if they would truly accept me, which I guess is seeking reassurance in a way. I just feel dishonest not telling them

@Anonymous I get very similar thoughts. I want the people in my life to accept me, but at the same time i feel like it's part of a reassurance-seeking attempt when i go to them with things like this hoping they will still try to be there for me despite my obsessions. I try to tell myself to accept my past, live differently than my mistakes, allow these OCD thoughts to burn out without compulsively addressing them, but it is really hard sometimes.

@intrusivedaily It really is a nightmare. I’m hoping the urge to confess just gets less intense