- Date posted
- 3y
- Date posted
- 3y
Get a therapist asap
- Date posted
- 3y
Did she used to workout regularly before she would get pregnant?
- Date posted
- 3y
@Bookworm91 She could if she wanted too. Just like he could if he wanted to too. Relationships aren’t end all be all. I knew a couple from a coworker to where they just had a baby and right around she got her check up to see if everything is alright in her and she could do normal things again like sex they separated and they were married apparently. the guy still wanted her back and even though they were separated never tried to date anyone else but because the wife of his was friends with the wife of the coworker who told me this the wife who separated was having sex and not feeling to bad about the separation so it’s a 2 way street. She shouldn’t be treated like a hoe or slut just cuz she was ok with sleeping with someone else other than the person she just had a second baby with. We should try to understand relationships come and go and feelings come and go just because one relationship is intimate and we should treat in a different way than a great friendship that isn’t intimate doesn’t make the two relationships any different. I’m sure you probably have friends who you don’t talk to anymore and that’s ok. Relationships of any kind aren’t set and stone cuz we change throughout our lifetime and something that was once frat might not be as great as before and that’s just what happens.
- Date posted
- 3y
Hey.. she was always kinda active. But with the pregnancies and post pardon depression she has found it hard to lose it. She is an emotional eater also and eats her feelings sometimes
- Date posted
- 3y
@Issac11 Of course I love my wife! She’s the mother of my kid. I suppose I am trying to separate my OCD from reality. I think it is shallow to judge anyone by their looks but it does bother me that she has changed physically. But she is still a great person and wife
- Date posted
- 3y
@Swolejaboy ?
- Date posted
- 3y
I would practice sitting with the uncertainty for example saying things like "I may or may not love my wife"
- Date posted
- 3y
Thank you for the suggestion 😊 could you elaborate please?
- Date posted
- 3y
Yeah well OCD's Kryptonite is uncertainty and the longer you can spend "not trying to figure it out" whether you love your wife and just move on with your day, the better.
Related posts
- Date posted
- 21w
me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
- Date posted
- 18w
I don’t know where to begin, this is going to be very long. But whoever responds I appreciate you dearly. I’m 20 years old, I’ve dealt with a lot in my childhood with abandonment and insecurity issues from my family. Aswell of not having a role model of a healthy relationship shown to me as a child. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years, my first healthy relationship. Last year I discovered OCD (I am diagnosed but I ignored my mental health as a teenager like anybody would) I started to get these feelings that I don’t love my partner/he’s not attractive enough/ etc etc. I’ve discovered that it’s ROCD. I made threads on Reddit asking for advice googling for reassurance, all the things as one would do with ocd (as I’m doing now!) One day I woke up and that theme was gone, I felt normal in my relationship for about 4 months with no terrible thoughts. As of about 2-3 months ago, my theme switched. Now I have a fear he doesn’t love me, he’s cheating, he doesn’t want to marry me. It has utterly consumed me (just like my last theme!) I check his phone an unhealthy amount (guess what I never find anything!) He always lets me go through his phone, but as anyone would he gets annoyed and frustrated. I always am searching for signs if he’s acting weird, will get into arguments 24/7 because my brain keeps telling me he’s cheating, I get fake scenarios in my brain, hell I even bought Snapchat+ to stalk his snap score. But ever single time I find nothing. A lot of things trigger me and I over analyze everything, phone calls who his texting. When I do search his phone I check his EMAIL because of how paranoid I am. When I see things on social media about people cheating I SPIRALLLL But what really triggered me was this scenario, his family loves to joke around with me and mess with him at the same time, especially with our relationship, saying I have a leash on him etc etc making jokes (which I can take but when I’m in an ocd spiral and they have no idea something’s are triggering) anyways, we were out to lunch and his mother texts him “are u at some girls house” he told me straight away then responded “why would u say that” then she proceeded to say she’s messing around with him. And sent a picture of me and said I’m with Hailey at lunch, then they had a normal conversation after. Obviously this sent me into a spiral, it still bothers me. I was so upset and anxious, when we got back to his house I went through that man’s phone like it was my only job in the world. And I search EVERYTHING not one thing goes untouched. (I sound insane) anyways we went back to his place, then he called his mom to come in his room and asked why she said that, she felt guilty and said she was messing around she had her hands in her head (mind you she’s been drinking probably just messing around with him when she texted that) she told me not to worry ever about that kind of stuff because her son is not that type of man, she proceeded to leave the room then texted me about how sorry she was and didn’t mean to freak me out and felt like shit about it. Ever since then she’s been acting kind of weird towards me (not really) maybe she’s uncomfortable or there’s another women idk LOL. Anyways yea what the hell do I do I literally can’t function properly.
- Date posted
- 15w
I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.
- Perfectionism OCD
- Mid-life adults with OCD
- Sexual Orientation OCD
- Religion & Spirituality OCD
- Relationship OCD
- LGBTQ+ with OCD
- Young adults with OCD
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond