Relationship OCD.. I really need some advice on this. My wife of 2 years has put on a lot of weight due to 2 pregnancies. (1 miscarriage) I am so hyper focused on her weight ave what she is eating. Why she won’t exercise! I’m having a lot of obsession thoughts on whether I love her or not or if I have ever!! Looking back I have always had relationship OCD but this is really affecting our relationship.. HELP PLEASE!!!!

@Bookworm91 She could if she wanted too. Just like he could if he wanted to too. Relationships aren’t end all be all. I knew a couple from a coworker to where they just had a baby and right around she got her check up to see if everything is alright in her and she could do normal things again like sex they separated and they were married apparently. the guy still wanted her back and even though they were separated never tried to date anyone else but because the wife of his was friends with the wife of the coworker who told me this the wife who separated was having sex and not feeling to bad about the separation so it’s a 2 way street. She shouldn’t be treated like a hoe or slut just cuz she was ok with sleeping with someone else other than the person she just had a second baby with. We should try to understand relationships come and go and feelings come and go just because one relationship is intimate and we should treat in a different way than a great friendship that isn’t intimate doesn’t make the two relationships any different. I’m sure you probably have friends who you don’t talk to anymore and that’s ok. Relationships of any kind aren’t set and stone cuz we change throughout our lifetime and something that was once frat might not be as great as before and that’s just what happens.

Hey.. she was always kinda active. But with the pregnancies and post pardon depression she has found it hard to lose it. She is an emotional eater also and eats her feelings sometimes

@Issac11 Of course I love my wife! She’s the mother of my kid. I suppose I am trying to separate my OCD from reality. I think it is shallow to judge anyone by their looks but it does bother me that she has changed physically. But she is still a great person and wife

@Swolejaboy ?

Thank you for the suggestion 😊 could you elaborate please?