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Breathe. Take some deep breath. Having thoughts doesn't mean having already an answer. There isn't "a switch", something that in one day will make your doubts sopportabile. You need practice and a lot of efforts. It's hard, but with time; you will learn to manage thought, and they will not bother you anymore. Take it as a journey with yourself, something that will help you to understand "you" better. Not only about ocd/rocd, but generally. You need to understand what are your deep beliefs, that makes this thoughts so painful. (For me; a game changer was understanding that there isn't "the right one", that having doubts doesn't means that there is something wrong, that I could pursue whatever decision I want even if not feeling it). There are so much things you can improve! Your attachment style, your dreams, your thinking process... Take bad moments as free erp! Try to accept whatever emotion you feel! Don't be "omg I'm anxious, he can't be the one I must go". You are anxious? Sit with your anxiety and try to accept it without doing compulsion. (I'll tell you a secret, it's okay in a relationship don't feel the sparkle all the time). At first one thing that helped me was writing down all doubts and posticipate the answer! Like okay, now had written my doubt, at 10pm I will answer it!
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- 3y
I know I love him so much I know I do there’s no no way I don’t it’s been a year with him he matters he comforts me he supports me I don’t wanna leave that I don’t wanna leave him . I don’t crave anyone but him then I have these stupid dreams about an ex and I feel happy in the dream then I think is it Bc I’m not happy with my boyfriend why am I dreaming about the past but my mother and bf both told me you literally cannot control a dream . I feel so guilty inside to think such stupid things and have doubts about someone I know I cannot let go of I just can’t get my heart to let him go
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- 3y
I just want him to come over and hug me and he always tells me everything gonna work out with us don’t put time in bri your intrusive thoughts because you know in your heart how you really feel but then I think what if it’s a lie and it hurts so so much .
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- 3y
I know I want to love him and I cannot I just can’t take a break or break up with him my mom said If i didn’t love him why would it hurt me so much if I didn’t . When u don’t love someone y don’t care anymore she said you don’t feel the need to cry about you just get uo and walk away . I just want him to be with me rn to help me through this he’s my biggest support , and I love him sm for everything he’s ever done then I fear what if I live him for the wrong reasons then I start to circle in my thoughts again .
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- 3y
@lexi1347 I know the feelings. I used to gave soo much importance to dreams too. You don't need to prove yourself your love. You want to stay with your bf? Than stay! Stay no matter what! You feel bad? Stay anyway!
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@Saraa my head just tells me am I with him for the wrong reasons do I love him for try eating right Eason and it hurts so so bad
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@Saraa We jumped in the relationship right after my ex broke up with me and maybe he was a rebound at first to fill a void but I fell in love with him the way he treated me the way he comfort me the way he always made me laugh and try to show me real love the way he holds me like what if all of those are for the wrong reasons to “fill a void “ and I get so so scared because I don’t want that to be true it hurts to think it’s true because I never use people that’s not me .
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@Saraa I just can’t think about using him or loving him for the wrong reasons I’m just so scared it’s true I’m so scared it hurts my heart it makes my heart so god damn heavy and it feels like I can’t breathe and I can’t stop curing because the thought of that kills my heart and kills my soul
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@Saraa I’ve never ever had anyone understand me or love me or anything like that other than him he never gave up on me he never gave up on me and I don’t wanna give up on that but what if that’s all for the wrong reasons it hurts me so so much
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- 21w
When my boyfriend and I are apart, it honestly feels like I've lost all feelings for him. I start questioning everything, wondering if I even love him at all. Then, when we're finally together again, the memory of those earlier doubts creeps in and completely ruins the moment. I get so caught up in overthinking and analyzing my feelings that I can't even enjoy being with him. It's like I'm constantly second-guessing myself. The worst part is, sometimes later, when we're still together, I do feel the love. But then the anxiety kicks in again! I start worrying that I'm just faking it because I had those doubts earlier in the day. It's this endless cycle of questioning, doubting, and overthinking, and it's exhausting. I'm really struggling to stay present when we're together, and it feels like this constant cycle is preventing me from truly connecting with him. We have been together for three years and we love together, and I just started feeling this way about a month ago; it’s been almost every day since. One day, I randomly thought about breaking up with him. Our relationship is healthy, especially compared to my previous toxic one, where I was anxiously attached for two and a half years. My boyfriend is very supportive of me. I have talked to him about my doubts and everything I’m experiencing, and he continues to support, care for, and help me through it all. I am very grateful for that. One aspect of my current relationship that I would like to improve is our communication, but we are both willing to work on it together. I often find that my overthinking leads me to question whether I really want to try to fix things or if I’d rather just continue as we are. This creates a constant push and pull in our relationship. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice on how to break this cycle and just be present in the moment? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something like this.
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- 20w
I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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- 15w
So i had really bad pure ocd but recently it’s been sooo much better but i’m in a relationship and me and my bf dated before about 2 years ago then we broke up and now we are back together but i’m having an issue where i will try to go back years and find something i did wrong and i really do not want to find anything to feel wrong about or guilty specifically something i may have done wrong to my boyfriend but the thing is i’m a good girlfriend and i’m very loyal so i don’t want to ruin something for me because of my past if that makes sense like i can’t remember doing anything wrong but my brain keeps going are u sure let’s look at all your interactions with people and it’s so annoying i just wanna live my life in the present does anyone have any tips
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