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- 3y ago
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- 3y ago
I don't have the same thing but my ocd does the same to my obsession. When i manage to finally accept it, it shows me a new way about why I shouldn't šReally sucks
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- 3y ago
Yeah, it can be hard to beat OCD when it keeps changing the rules of the game.
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- 3y ago
Yes, tell yourself your worst fear over and over as a maybe, maybe not statement and then donāt do any kind of figuring out or checking. Over time you will see that nobody is perfect and we would all do things differently now. And it does not matter what your partner has done in the past it has nothing to do with you and predicts nothing
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- 3y ago
Itās a little different than that. Iām mostly asking about how to deal with the certainty of the past rather than the uncertainty of the future. Iām in ERP therapy right now so Iām familiar with the latter. I also have a bad rumination compulsion so the āchallenging beliefsā approach is usually not very helpful for me (I already challenge my beliefs compulsively as part of my existential themes).
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- 3y ago
@CaptainKierkegaard I understand, I also have real event. Mine usually makes me feel like it means Iām a horrible person or others would leave me if they knew. I tell myself maybe itās true and maybe itās not
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- 13w ago
So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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- 10w ago
Iām new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancĆ©, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether thatās an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I canāt disengage till there is a clear resolution. Itās causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.
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- 4w ago
I need tips on how to really accept the uncertainty the ocd causes, even if it feels so bad like I might get in trouble for something , do I wanna be okay with that?
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