Anybody with Real Event OCD have any tips for accepting past events? Especially with distinguishing acceptance from saying something is morally okay. I had a real event obsession in the past, but I am new to considering it in terms of OCD, and I never really accepted the event, per se. Other obsessions just stole the show. Every once in a blue moon it comes back and gets to me. But I also think it will help me with my retroactive jealousy obsession and accepting my partner’s sexual past. Whenever I try to accept it, my brain will frame it from a new angle that’s harder to accept. This makes me feel like I’m doing it wrong.

I don't have the same thing but my ocd does the same to my obsession. When i manage to finally accept it, it shows me a new way about why I shouldn't 🙂Really sucks

Yeah, it can be hard to beat OCD when it keeps changing the rules of the game.

Yes, tell yourself your worst fear over and over as a maybe, maybe not statement and then don’t do any kind of figuring out or checking. Over time you will see that nobody is perfect and we would all do things differently now. And it does not matter what your partner has done in the past it has nothing to do with you and predicts nothing

It’s a little different than that. I’m mostly asking about how to deal with the certainty of the past rather than the uncertainty of the future. I’m in ERP therapy right now so I’m familiar with the latter. I also have a bad rumination compulsion so the “challenging beliefs” approach is usually not very helpful for me (I already challenge my beliefs compulsively as part of my existential themes).