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Hey, I’ve been trying to not ask for reassurance and to sit with the anxiety. POCD, Real Event, and False Memory ar ent worse themes. You’ve commented on one of my posts once, it was about using dating apps. I just wanted to ask, have you struggled with False Memory, like as a very strong theme, because that seems to be my biggest stumbling block as of right now. What kind of ERP can I use to get through it?
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*are my worst themes
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@OCDHaver Hello. I may have dealt with false memories also
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Yes, I have false memory OCD. I also have a very bad memory but I know I can only do my best to remember things and if I don’t, I simply don’t. My uncle said something very enlightening to me eight years ago regarding having a bad memory and not being able to remember things. He told me that you can’t feel guilty even if you want to about something that you have no control over. That sentence changed things for me and the obsession with anything having to do with memory subsided. I still have moments where I question stuff but I keep a journal now, so that’s helpful if I need to go back and remember something. I also have my fiancé, who has a fantastic memory 😁
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have u ever had thoughts about a family members boyfriend? i feel so damn guilty. i just wish this shit would leave me alone.
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I have but my half brother is gay, so I sat back for a moment and then just laughed because that’s just not going to be a thing 🤣
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i too struggle with nearly every theme and i want to say that it’s amazing that most of them are gone!!! that’s incredible!! ik this app isn’t for advice or reassurance but if i may ask what got you through until you reached this point? tysm best wishes<3
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I hit rock bottom not just with OCD but with PTSD, depression, and GAD in 2013 when I had a mental break down. I was in therapy for a bit but that therapist wasn’t a specialist and not what I needed, so in 2013 I got a new therapist (and still my current therapist) and for two years I did basic work on myself, like visiting up my confidence and letting out my emotions through poetry. Then in 2016, I was ready to do the work for OCD and PTSD. I did ERP and various trauma therapies. This also includes practicing mindfulness and meditation, which I started in 2013 but took about 3 years to really take into effect. By 2018 I was good and by the end of 2019 I was fully healed and recovered.
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@Nica Building up my confidence*** 😅
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@Nica man that’s incredible… i can’t even imagine doing all of that. 25 inpatient stays later and i am still so lost. it is so amazing to see that someone really has succeeded.. so i suppose i should start putting in a little more effort even when it’s uncomfortable. thank you for sharing that, seriously. i am so glad that you made it to the other side my friend and you give so many people hope that they can do the same.
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@rorisadventure also, patience is something i am really lacking but it is possible and you are showing me that!! you seriously are so wonderful and strong. i cannot thank you enough because your words really made me feel hopeful.
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@rorisadventure I know you can do it even though it’s a lot of intense work. But you have to put your foot down and take control of your life. We are our brain (or else we wouldn’t be here) but we are CONCIOUS beings. We have what all other animals do not: consciousness. That lsnwhat you need to use in your fight against OCD overcoming you and taking over. I highly suggest looking into mindfulness and practicing detachment. That’s the basics to not letting your thoughts affect you so greatly.
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@Nica thank you so much. i am going to let my therapist know this week that i need some support to work harder on this!! and ofc i gotta motivate myself.
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@rorisadventure Just remember: You’ll always get support from your therapist but this work is mainly on you. You decide to not give into ruminating, to doing your ERP homework, to not taking a thought seriously. It’s your choice at the end of the day. The therapist is there to guide and support you but they can’t make you do anything, nor can they change you too. You have to change yourself.
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How did you overcome POCD ? I’ve had it for 12 years and hit rock bottom I’m 30 years old
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I still have it but I know myself and I trust my therapist and psychiatrist (when I had one) when they said I was not a pedophile. That was an extremely hot topic for me because I was abused as a child, so I know that OCD theme will always be there. I have accepted my diagnosis because I know my therapist would know what I am/am not and would’ve told me years ago if I were a pedophile.
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Please elaborate on harm ocd please please please, I feel like I’m capable of doing something terrible to anyone around me and even just thinking about it causes me to shake and have tears in my eye.
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I had it when I was a preteen but I talked to my mom (a therapist) and my grandmother about it once. It was a long conversation but they told me you aren’t your thoughts and everyone has intrusive thoughts. Your actions matter, not thoughts and feelings. Just because you have violent thoughts and images doesn’t mean you have to take them seriously. You need to let them be as they are and continue your daily routine.
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@Nica I just hate the anxiety that comes along with it which makes you think you have urges. I’m just frustrated because I know right before this started happening I’d be so opposed to it but because I’ve obsessed over it so much, it’s causing me to doubt my feelings.
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@Recoverer I know it’s hard but the only way to recover is to let the thoughts be and not react to them. It took a few years for me of practicing mindfulness to get to where I am, so I highly suggest looking into it and starting that journey now along with ERP.
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@Nica I’m in ERP, I’m just so impatient to get through this lol. But thank you for the insight!
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Struggling with TOCD has probably been the hardest theme I’ve had to deal with so far For reference. I’m a gay male 20yr old Before this theme I was so open with my gender expression, love drag and used to do it for a time. A lot of my friends are trans women and my whole life is queer When this theme hit. It’s like I completely lost who I was. Questioning everything I enjoyed, not participating in anything because it triggered me so heavily. I went through a whole gender journey awhile back and the trans path never spoke to me when I looked into it. I love my physique and my face but now when I look into the mirror i feel like a shell of who I was. I can’t find any sort of pure enjoyment without the accompanying “what if” or “you’re this” intrusive thought I still enjoy how I look. I’ve not looked in the mirror and felt like anything is missing from me or needs to be taken away I just feel like a spectator in my life while this disease tells me I’m not who I know myself to be I affirm myself every day I know who I am and it may change in the future but that’s not important. It’s highly unlikely it will but it may! Giving into the uncertainty has been so hard but it’s worth it! My ocd has really picked up since getting into my first serious relationship I care about my boyfriend with my whole heart but over the course of our relationship my themes have included Health Relationship Irreality Harm I just want to be who I was again before this current theme it feels unbearable to live like this BUT! I’m seeking appropriate treatment and not giving into a majority of compulsions I just wanted to write this to see if anyone can relate and if they do. Know that you will overcome this! I know I will and you will too
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I’ve had different themes of ocd throughout my life. Can they all differ such as how the thoughts may present? Currently my thoughts feel so true immediately (like they genuinely feel like what I think) but in the last theme I feel like it may have been more of a “what if I think this” type of situation
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I haven’t done a Q&A in over a year (my bad) but I used to do these at least once a month. Work is slow today, so please send me any questions you have about OCD and I’ll answer them as best as I can. A little about me: I’ve been subclinical/recovered for going on 5 years and I’ve been on this app volunteering since 2019 in an unofficial capacity—I’m not connected to the NOCD team, so I don’t have any badges. I did ERP treatment with my therapist in-person while I was also being treated for PTSD. I have OCD, PTSD, ADHD, depression, GAD, social anxiety, driving anxiety, and a few speech impediments.
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