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What makes you think you aren’t right for each other? Yeah I have the same thing! Never thought these things before ROCD! I always wonder what happiness is in a relationship with ROCD when I constantly question every small detail about our relationship! But my boyfriend loves me, respects me, treats me well, would do anything for me and we have a lot in common. Try not to reassure yourself, but it’s okay to remember that our relationships aren’t all doom and gloom and love isn’t always a feeling it’s a choice!
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@Pauline421 it’s just think little voice in me that has no grounds to stand on that says oh no, it feels like we’re not suppose to be together. It’s SO annoying. And YES I relate. The constant questioning and the not understanding what happiness or love is, is soooooooo Infuriating .
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@Anxiousashley have you ever had any other type of OCD apart from ROCD? And ugh it sucks! You can really love someone and be so good together but OCD doesn’t care! The doubting and questioning is soo tough, it made me seriously depressed a few months ago.
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I ask because I have dealt with HOCD in the past and I was wondering if you ever did too. But I definitely deal with religious. And I’m not familiar with blushing ocd! What is it? I was just diagnosed in May but I’ve had OCD all my life I just didn’t know what it was! So I’m definitely still learning
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@chancie blushing ocd is what I call it. It’s when you think something like “omg what if I blush when this person is talking to me? Then ppl with think that I have feelings for them when I don’t” and then it usually ends up making me blush because I’m embarrassed. I haven’t dealt with HOCD but it definitely sounds like it sucks! I’ve had ocd my whole life and I want to learn as much as I can about it. I’d love to become an OCD specialist someday
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I have the same thing. It’s horrible. It makes me so sad. Mine kicked in about 4 years ago and it’s been hard ever since. My husband understands and is very supportive. It still makes me feel so bad that I have these thoughts
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I have had harm ocd religious ocd of course Rocd and blushing ocd and also food ocd. The fear of what if I don’t really like food?
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That would be wonderful! I hope you do! It’s such a misunderstood disorder.
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for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.
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Lately my ROCD has been flaring up, making it difficult to even be around my partner. I’m having so many troubling thoughts with the one that bugs me most being, “maybe this isn’t my OCD, maybe I’m just in a bad relationship and I’m trying to cover it up and blame it on OCD”. This thought really scares me because there are valid doubts in my relationship but my boyfriend and I have openly talked about them and are trying to work through. My OCD won’t take that as an option tho. It makes me feel like I need to be 100% certain that these things can NEVER happen again or else we need to break up immediately. So anything he says in that moment about trying to do better, my OCD will not trust anything he says and just wait until the next “bad thing” happens. When I continuously bring these things up to my boyfriend even tho nothing has happened between these conversations, it exhausts him making it feel like he can never do enough. I feel so bad because I know it’s just my OCD getting in the way. But then that thought creeps in saying I can’t trust him because I need to protect myself. It’s just an ongoing cycle that is so tiring. I don’t even know what I want anymore. We are very opposite when it comes to emotions. I am very in tune and very emotionally intelligent, and he is not. He is the opposite. I do recognize that my anxious attachment style may be hard for him too but I can’t stop thinking about all of his flaws and all of the things he needs to do to make our relationship better. It makes me feel like I’m the only one putting in effort when in reality that is not true. But my OCD does make me feel like he doesn’t really love me or want to be with me and that he feels forced to be with me or do things for me. It makes me feel like him being with me is like a chore. Can anyone relate? My OCD just makes me feel like I can’t trust anything he says to make our relationship better.
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I just read a post that said “people with ROCD know they love their partners” right when I read it I got this horrible anxiety feeling rush down into my stomach. My partner asked me to be his girlfriend in December and literally since that night It’s like a switch of doubt turned on and I was suffering with consistent doubt about loving my partner, I felt like I didn’t feel anything anymore and I didn’t know what to do and through out the past months it has been an absolute wave of things going on. He is aware of my ocd and in a way I’m glad that this happened because I have had harm ocd for the past 4-5 years and had no idea what it was until 2 months ago when I got an OCD therapist, I just thought I was crazy so I’m happy to know I’m not. Buuuuttt back to the ROCD, my main thoughts and feelings are about not feeling like i love my partner anymore and if we’re compatible, I hyper fixate on the weight he’s gained in the past few months and all the bad food he eats, I think about if our lives even align, we have very different views on some things but are we too different, what if we really don’t know each other at all and we thought we did because we’ve been best friends for 10 years. This is so frustrating because I’ve gotten to the point where my anxiety is barely there, I was have constant outrageous anxiety for 3-4 months and now I’ve gotten to this numb, I literally feel absolutely nothing feeling and it’s not even with just my boyfriend it’s with everything, I just don’t feel happy with anything anymore, I feel like there’s something wrong with me. We got into an argument the other day about how rude I was and I didn’t even feel sad or apologetic when he was talking to me about it, and I couldn’t stop crying, like I just don’t feel anything. I feel like there’s something really wrong with me. All I can describe it as is “blank” does that make sense? I feel like a bad person and I feel like we’re going to break up and I can tell how sad he is. All I do know is that I don’t want to break up. But anytime I think about him or anything along the lines of my ROCD everything like freaks me out. I like scream “NO” and “STOP” in my head all the time. But it’s starting to really feel real. I’m so scared, and now I read that post that said that “people with ROCD know they love their partner” but WHAT IF I DONT KNOW!!! I WANT TO LOVE MY PARTNER. I want to feel the love I had for him before this all started. We were so happy, and we didn’t even get the honey moon phase because my ROCD started right when we made it official. This is seriously so crippling.
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