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What makes you think you aren’t right for each other? Yeah I have the same thing! Never thought these things before ROCD! I always wonder what happiness is in a relationship with ROCD when I constantly question every small detail about our relationship! But my boyfriend loves me, respects me, treats me well, would do anything for me and we have a lot in common. Try not to reassure yourself, but it’s okay to remember that our relationships aren’t all doom and gloom and love isn’t always a feeling it’s a choice!
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@Pauline421 it’s just think little voice in me that has no grounds to stand on that says oh no, it feels like we’re not suppose to be together. It’s SO annoying. And YES I relate. The constant questioning and the not understanding what happiness or love is, is soooooooo Infuriating .
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@Anxiousashley have you ever had any other type of OCD apart from ROCD? And ugh it sucks! You can really love someone and be so good together but OCD doesn’t care! The doubting and questioning is soo tough, it made me seriously depressed a few months ago.
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I ask because I have dealt with HOCD in the past and I was wondering if you ever did too. But I definitely deal with religious. And I’m not familiar with blushing ocd! What is it? I was just diagnosed in May but I’ve had OCD all my life I just didn’t know what it was! So I’m definitely still learning
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@chancie blushing ocd is what I call it. It’s when you think something like “omg what if I blush when this person is talking to me? Then ppl with think that I have feelings for them when I don’t” and then it usually ends up making me blush because I’m embarrassed. I haven’t dealt with HOCD but it definitely sounds like it sucks! I’ve had ocd my whole life and I want to learn as much as I can about it. I’d love to become an OCD specialist someday
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I have the same thing. It’s horrible. It makes me so sad. Mine kicked in about 4 years ago and it’s been hard ever since. My husband understands and is very supportive. It still makes me feel so bad that I have these thoughts
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I have had harm ocd religious ocd of course Rocd and blushing ocd and also food ocd. The fear of what if I don’t really like food?
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That would be wonderful! I hope you do! It’s such a misunderstood disorder.
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My rocd is making me disconected from my boyfriend thinking he is cringe and that i dont know him or i dont like him for real, making me question the times i was happy thinking i was pretending and i was just thinking i am happy and in love but i wasnt… when i think abt my boyfriend i cant feel happiness… im scared. Yesterday we talked he said he is happy when we talked he sais how happy he is and that if i dont feel the same i should not panic (hw knows about my thoughts) i am so sad, i dont want to be like this forever, im scared
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I feel like my Rocd has become more sophisticated. It’s made me feel as if my healthy loving boyfriend is this terrible person. Or I’ll be thinking to myself like “I love him”, and in middle thought I get “no you don’t”. It’s convinced me that our values and beliefs are just TOO different (we’ve only disagreed on one thing in our relationship, but we talk it out). It’s like my ocd is clinging on to every reason why I should break up, like I don’t want this anymore, even tho I do! It’s frustrating. And the idea of doing erp terrifies me. Because I’m afraid if I do erp statements, that I’ll agree with them. Can someone give insight
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Lately, I’ve been feeling so disconnected from my boyfriend, and I don’t understand why. When I look at him, it feels like I’m looking at a stranger, and my mind keeps telling me that I don’t like him, that I never really loved him, or that I was just attached and comfortable. It feels real, and that terrifies me. I know logically that ROCD makes me overanalyze every little feeling, but it doesn’t make this any easier. I keep waiting to feel something—love, excitement, even relief—but instead, I just feel numb and distant. When we talk, I feel weird. When he kisses me, I don’t feel much. I keep thinking, ‘If I really loved him, wouldn’t I feel something?’ And the fact that I don’t just fuels my anxiety even more. It scares me that I can’t remember how I felt before ROCD took over. I look at old pictures, and my brain tells me, ‘That wasn’t real, you were just excited to have a relationship.’ And because I can’t access those feelings right now, it makes me doubt everything even more. I also feel guilty because my boyfriend is so loving and patient, but I feel like I’m hurting him. He tells me he doesn’t feel loved by me anymore, and I hate that I can’t just snap out of this and be the way I was before. It’s exhausting. I don’t know what’s real anymore. I keep checking how I feel every second, and it just makes me feel worse. I know that’s a compulsion, but it’s so hard to stop. I keep searching for certainty, but no answer satisfies me. Even when I try to accept the uncertainty, my mind screams, ‘But what if you don’t love him? What if you’re just lying to yourself?’ I want to be present with him. I want to feel love naturally again. But I don’t know how to get there, and it’s terrifying.”
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