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You can choose to love him! Love is a choice. OCD can’t take him from you. Sending positivity and love to you 💜
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Thank you so much!
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@Andate I am afraid, that psychiatrist will told me, that is not rocd, and I will have to face the truth.
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@Andate I will say that not every Psychiatrist is well educated in OCD. I was assessed by an actual OCD specialist (at NOCD) and am confident in their assessment because it’s what they’re focused on. Especially with Pure O (OCD like relationship OCD that are mostly mental), having a specialist is helpful.
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@LSea2021 When someone is asking me about treatment in their own case of mental health I am always recomending seeing proffesional. But in my own I'm a coward. Ocd seems to be my only hope, that's why I'm that afraid... Sadly, I can't book a visit with NOCD specialist, so I started to looking for someone in my country. But it's hard. There are plenty of psychiatrist, but it's hard to tell if they are good with diagnosing ocd... And yes, my fear is kot helping...
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@Andate 💜 that sounds really challenging. I think then my best advice is this: if you see yourself in the symptoms of OCD that you’ve read about, then it’s likely that you have it (diagnosis or not). OCD will be looking for that “certainty” that comes from a diagnosis, but even if the certainty is not there you can still take steps to improve your quality of life and mental health. I’m hopeful for you!
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@LSea2021 Thank you once more. I'm fighting so hard for not lose my partner. Even when my thoughts are telling me that I don't love him, I'm crying, because I want to love him so much and don't want my life without him.
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You're not alone💜
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Thank you so much!
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Love is a choice. A YouTube channel called Awaken into Love would be something I recommend you look into. 💜 keep your chin up 💜
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Thank you! ❤️I'm watching their videos, but sometimes I still feel like spiraling for most of my days..
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@Andate It's rough, I get those days. On those days I tell myself live is a choice and I tell my head like hey those are interesting thoughts, thank you for bringing those to my attention however I am with them right now and that's what is important.❤
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@WitchyKota Oh, I will be trying that! I have some good days, when I feel love, some backdoor spike moments and some hard days, when I can only obsessing and crying... It's really hard...
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@Andate I absolutely understand. I have days where my brain will be so mean to me at night it wakes me up, and times I have to go sit in the shower and just sit with the thoughts. I constantly still ask if my eyes get big when I look at him because there are alot of days I struggle with feeling nothing, and other days I feel love. 💜 any progress is progress 💜 you've fot this!
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@WitchyKota Thank you! Your words mean a lot to me! I hope you also will find a peace 💜
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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Recently my ocd keeps asking me if I love my boyfriend enough and that if I don’t love him enough I should breakup with him. It’s really bothering me and idk what to do about it. Sitting in the uncertainty is too much and I fear sitting with it too long I’m just gonna crack and give in to a compulsion.
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