That's a really popular word today. You hear it a lot and it's a topic that attracts millions. A lot of us want it but we don't really know how to achieve it. But that's the problem. Not in the not knowing itself but in the achieving part. You see we think healing is a destination or a level we reach. We believe once we reach it we will not struggle. For us with OCD we think we will reach it and we will not deal with any more intrusive thoughts. I gotta confess that I wish this would be true but it isn't.
Healing is a Journey. One that will be for life. Is not something you achieve but something you live in and practice. Challenges aren't going to disappear. Instead in the process of healing we will become aware of them without blaming ourselves, others or internalizing them as part of our identity. I constantly remind myself that I'm not my thoughts. I'm not even my emotions. I'm the observer of the thoughts that come and the one who experience emotions. This is a universal truth. But we think only us struggle with thoughts and emotions. And we end up believing we are in some way broken without remedy. Not true. Everyone struggles with something. Yes, even people without OCD. Some people are just better at hiding it.
Healing is a Learning process. It will take time, patience and intentionality. It will not come automatically. We will be students for life. Challenging yes, but also worth it.
Healing is about experiencing Love in the midst of our struggles. This is the biggest challenge. To accept ourselves and to be compassionate towards us. The thing is this part is not achieved fighting but actually surrendering. This doesn't mean I take a defeated attitude. To the contrary. I reject that mindset of defeat and victimhood. I surrender and don't accept those good for nothing mindsets and in surrender I accept the truth that I'm unique and wonderfully made. And even in my brokenness I'm worthy of Love, peace and joy.
So let's us practice being more accepting of ourselves. More compassionate towards us. More present for our own sake. Will it be easy? Nope. It will be worth it. And we can share the rewards with others.
I don't know about you, but today I want to accept myself even if it is just a little and I don't perfectly know how.
Hope this helps you. God bless.