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I’m so glad that you’re better. What themes were most difficult for you and how did you overcome them? Thank you for sharing your story. I don’t wish this on anyone either, it’s debilitating.
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Absolutely ridiculous, couldn’t look at my microwave, tying shoes, listening to music, looking at guys, looking at girls, eating or drinking, looking at signs, talking to people, meaningless words or phrases. I had it all, you have to understand too I am an outgoing popular guy, it was messed up. I am 100 percent now or say 98 percent but am happy. Even tried medication which doesn’t work because it lowers your willpower and subconsciously it was a compulsion. Let’s you feel no anxiety but all the compulsions.
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I got better by not doing erp purposely but instead lived my life as I normally would, let each thought flow to another and my biggest fears became my ally because I used those thoughts to flow through others. In the bigginning you will compulse every time but your actually getting better, it is your fight or flight response. Then it stops, the hardest thoughts you have to flex your abs and put pressure on your head to get through the worst, eventually you won’t need to do this and it’ll honest be annoying not intrusive.
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Hey Anonymous, would you mind joining our discord server of other OCD sufferers? I think you’d make a huge impact on it and we need more people like you in it! https://discord.gg/UYJ4SWTB
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how can we stop the ruminating? also did you ever deal with pocd?😞
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Yes I dealt with that too, rumination as hard as it sounds is a choice the key is to keep anxiety levels low by letting thoughts flow. Seems impossible in the beginning, unfortunately when your in fight and flight mode I took a 3 days off work and walked around a reservoir for about 12 hours a day. Got my anxiety levels down and now the instantaneous compulsions didn’t happen. Sucks I know, hated this shit. It’s all about momentum, one compulsion takes about a week to heal. Tough odds but it’s the truth
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I deal a lot with harm ocd and false memories all I do is sit and wonder all day of the thoughts are real and if they were real I couldn’t live with myself. The only thing that helps me is time. My dad and mom keep telling me that if I did do something bad everyone would know about it but that doesn’t help. I feel like I’m the exception and I’m a bad person the thoughts feel so real I don’t know what to do
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Listen people love you right, this shit is destroying your life I know I was there , your attitude needs to change, the anxiety is ridiculous I know but you will be good soon when that anxiety Lowers I promise the rumination is the problem. If you do not ruminate you will have this thought less and less
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@Anonymous Everyone says rumination does that mean thinking about the thoughts all the time?
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Thoughts are not in control, but let them bet your ally, love them laugh about it, soon you actually might never get them again and if you do it’s super rare.
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Struggling with TOCD has probably been the hardest theme I’ve had to deal with so far For reference. I’m a gay male 20yr old Before this theme I was so open with my gender expression, love drag and used to do it for a time. A lot of my friends are trans women and my whole life is queer When this theme hit. It’s like I completely lost who I was. Questioning everything I enjoyed, not participating in anything because it triggered me so heavily. I went through a whole gender journey awhile back and the trans path never spoke to me when I looked into it. I love my physique and my face but now when I look into the mirror i feel like a shell of who I was. I can’t find any sort of pure enjoyment without the accompanying “what if” or “you’re this” intrusive thought I still enjoy how I look. I’ve not looked in the mirror and felt like anything is missing from me or needs to be taken away I just feel like a spectator in my life while this disease tells me I’m not who I know myself to be I affirm myself every day I know who I am and it may change in the future but that’s not important. It’s highly unlikely it will but it may! Giving into the uncertainty has been so hard but it’s worth it! My ocd has really picked up since getting into my first serious relationship I care about my boyfriend with my whole heart but over the course of our relationship my themes have included Health Relationship Irreality Harm I just want to be who I was again before this current theme it feels unbearable to live like this BUT! I’m seeking appropriate treatment and not giving into a majority of compulsions I just wanted to write this to see if anyone can relate and if they do. Know that you will overcome this! I know I will and you will too
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I have really started to take control of my compulsions and im starting to string together better days! Still not great days or even good, but they are better!!! I have controlled my outward compulsions (googling, research, reassurance, checking) the past couple of days and felt the positive impact of that. But unfortunately, I am realizing that the rumination is still constant. My sexuality and relationship are the only two things constantly on my brain, and if they aren’t I freak out and wonder why im not thinking about them! Anyone have any advice on how to deal with the rumination. Sometimes I don’t even notice im doing it, but it’s taking up 90% of my day. Once I start to tackle this I think I may make some real big progress! Hope everyone is fighting today! ❤️
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I want to get thought this weird horrible period, it has been horrible. I am doubting everything. I’m not diagnosed but when I look at my past I’ve always been horribly anxious and worrying about health, death and basically everything while suffering from major a lot of insecurities stemming from bullying and lately a lack of intimacy with my partner, Every time I think I’m on the way out, or see some light at the end of the tunnel my mind always pulls me back in. It’s torture. I’ve always been insecure about how I look and I find myself comparing myself at other males and it’s made my self esteem on the floor. I have a girlfriend and prior to this we had a future planned and talked about kids (we’re still young, but it felt so real), this all began to bubble when we stopped being intimate and the loss of my job. I don’t know anymore how to move on, every day feels like a chore. The intrusive thoughts telling me I’m in denial, constantly thinking about men I’ve felt insecure about their looks compared to mine wishing I looked like them plaguing my mind. The false attractions, prior to this i was comfortable in acknowledging good looking men. However now my mind takes this as evidence, every single thing in my past seems like some form of evidence. Not having male friends, the comparisons, being questioned about my sexuality from siblings. I’m sorry if this is reassurance, I am just needing to get some things of my chest. Every time I think about my first real attraction or girls I found pretty/attractive or I liked my mind is like your in denial and then I feel horrible about thinking those thoughts as I have my girlfriend. I miss just being with my girlfriend and not having these thoughts and feeling horrible. I feel like a fraud and a horrible partner. I’ve tried to accept maybe, maybe not, but something always comes back. These 4 months have been terrible. I want to sleep without horrible dreams, I want to eat. I want to feel like myself again. Thank you to anyone who reads this. Hope you’re strong too.
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