What should you do if you find a suicide note in your teens’ room. She has severe OCD, anxiety, and depression. I check her sketchbook occasionally to make sure she is ok. She would never tell me otherwise and she goes to school and comes home to her room and shares very little. If she found out I touched her sketchbook she would absolutely lose it because I contaminated it. So…..how do I approach this without letting on that I touched her things. Apparently kids at school are telling her to “kys” which I just found out means kill yourself. Should I contact the school? I really don’t know what to do!!!!

We are teens we can't tell our parents we find it shameful I totally understand you! Try with a way to get close to her from time to time tell her that she is loved and you can't imagine life without her tell her about the bright future how proud of her never neglect her and spend time with her please but don't mention anything about mental illness don't blame her plssss

And contact the school but never let her know also she should ne close to good kids and the teachers should try to put her next to good ones so she will not feel alone

Her "losing it" over you touching her stuff is gonna be rough but she needs counseling ASAP if she is writing suicide notes! You don't wanna play it too safe and then her actually try to do it. I know its hard but she needs a counselor asap, maybe you could call the school counselor and ask them if they can say they got an anonymous tip or something? Did she make a suicide plan?

Consult a therapist. She needs medication and therapy. Ocd can lead to severe depression to the point of wanting to commit suicide. The low self esteem that results from ocd and depression in conjunction with the fact that she's in puberty could lead to destructive things. Please consult a therapist so that they tell you how to deal with her and how to convince her get the help she needs

And contact the school ASAP

I am not a parent, but I don't have to be one to tell you that occasionally upsetting your kids is an inevitable part of parenthood. I think you should tell her that you looked through her sketchbook because you were concerned about her and more importantly apologize. After that speak to her about her feelings and suicidal writing while prioritizing listening to her.

something I really valued my parents doing was just sitting with me whilst I was having horrible thoughts. they allowed me to be distressed in their presence without trying to “calm me down”. they just accepted and tolerated calmly what i was going through. My mom sat with me one time just doing a jigsaw puzzle to keep my head distracted. and she did it with me all night, just sitting there whilst i struggled and getting me back into the puzzle once the distress eased.

And show her love and patience

Put her in a small private school