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Does it just disappear? Does the brain get empty from all the thoughts or do they remain but you just get better at ignoring them?
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They don’t disappear; I still have intrusive thoughts. I don’t react to them so they aren’t an issue anymore. You have to let them be and not fight them.
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can it feel extremely real?? like mine feels so real at times and makes me so miserable
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Yes, of course. We are our brains after all. However, what other animal don’t have is consciousness that we are more than just our brains.
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@Nica Yes it feels extremely real. That why it’s a problem
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@Anonymous It’s only problem because you’re making it into a problem.
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Yes indeed. Any time I caught myself about to do a compulsion, I left the room and did something else. Example: I want to Google if I have cancer or not. I shrug off the intrusive tho if hot and go to the living room, away from my computer and phone (I don’t take my phone with me when I’m at my house).
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@Nica Thought* that was a bad typo 🤣
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Have you experienced a lot of regret and shame from your past that turned into Real Event for you? It’s my worst theme, what’s something that helped you overcome it if you did suffer from it?
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I don’t love with regret or shame anymore, no. I did the intensive therapy work not just for my OCD but also childhood trauma and that helped with dealing with the feeling of shame. If I feel guilty or shame, I detach from the emotion and ask myself if I did something wrong. If I did, then I don’t do that thing again. But I don’t feel bad for intrusive thoughts and feelings; it’ll always be there and I’ve accepted it.
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@Nica I love this, I’ll definitely try to keep this while I’m working on my exposures
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@OCDHaver Yes 🙌🏻
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I have false memory ocd. I get a thought randomly and it says “what if you did _____” and then I start to get images and stuff in my mind how it happened, and then my mind keeps adding new thoughts and then I keep ruminating and going back to see if it’s true and then I start saying I would never do that and it helps but then it slowly comes back. I feel like when I go back to the thought it makes me feel better cause it doesn’t seem realistic and i just say I never did it and I feel better but then ocd makes me doubt and say but what if you did and you didn’t remember and then I start trying to find evidence that I didn’t do this bad thing. I ask my parents and stuff and they say I’m a wonderful person . I know I shouldn’t be asking for reassurance but sometimes it helps me get through this . Btw this false memory is about harm ocd mainly. I struggled with pocd but I got over that one.
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If you can get over POCD, one of the most difficult ones to overcome, you can overcome and recover from them all. I struggled with POCD for years until I finally also let those thoughts and feelings be. Doing what I did for all my other themes, I knew POCD was just another one. A difficult is , but OCD all the same. It’ll always be with me because I was abused as a child by a neighbor. So, POCD is the one that I’ll have for the rest of my life. However, I know what it is, I know what/what not to do when it comes up, and I refuse to let my OCD control my life when that’s all it did for 6 years.
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@Nica Thanks for your reply. My main thing is with harm ocd is I got a thought what if I killed someone ? And I get images and stuff and it feels so real and awful. This is probably the darkest time of my life. I’m slowly getting better but it’s made me quit my job, stop eating, and take care of myself. I rather hurt myself then hurt anyone else. I love people and I never want to hurt anyone. I think that is why it’s so hard for me it’s so unlike me. I hope I get through this awful thing
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@Emilyycc You’d definitely know if you did and that’s all you need to know. Don’t give into your OCD trying to prove it or not. Fighting the thoughts and images only makes it worse because you’re signaling to your brain that that thought, feeling, or image is dangerous and it’ll keep feeding that to you.
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And sometimes it happens like when I’m somewhere and then a few days later it comes what if you did that when you were at this place
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Do you have false memory ocd ? How did you recover from it
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@Emilyycc Yes, I do. I don’t let the thoughts bother me. I’ve had years of practice with mindfulness, so I can search from my emotions/mental illnesses and see then for what they are. Then, I let the thoughts be.
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have you recovered from an identity related theme? if so did you find ur old self again
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I had homosexuality OCD as a teenager. I accepted that I might or might not be a lesbian and there’s nothing wrong with being a lesbian. I stopped caring and I haven’t had it since 15 years old.
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@Nica how long did you have it? also was accepting that you may or may not be hard at first
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@Anonymous20222 About 6 months.
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@Anonymous20222 My brother is gay so it wasn’t very hard because then my mom would have two gay kids and that was funny to me as a teenager for some reason 🤣
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How do you deal with the “grey areas”- where depending on who you would ask, whether or not something is morally acceptable would be questioned. (eg- doing something borderline illegal that many people do, and is usually harmless, but is still discouraged)
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I have ground rules for myself that I don’t cross even if it seems easy. I was a juvie as a kid and could’ve been down a very different path than I am right now. But that’s because I decided to do the right thing always and I know what the right thing is for me personally.
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Hey! I’ve recovered too- how’s after recovery like? Don’t mind me, just wondering how our experiences line up. :)
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Just living my life, riding the life wave 🤣
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how can you convince yourself youre just not in denial? especially after doing stuff that you can say is why you're this or that
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I’m not trying to convince myself of anything, I just live my life and not fixate on things I can’t change. Trying to fight or change against your own mind will never work out well.
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Hi! How long did you suffer with ROCD? Did your feelings come back? Did you stay in your relationship?
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I had it for the first year in my relationship. It sometimes comes up but I know my fiancé and myself well, so I don’t pay the thoughts any attention and let them be whenever they pop up.
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@Nica Thank you!
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(Long read) hello everyone. i was out of the country for about 3-4 months and traveling. my ocd was not that bad at all and I was able to handle it even if it came up. on my way back home, it immediately started. i have learned how to handle it better, but i am more sad and just “awaiting” for something bad to happen. for example, i have sexual themed ocd. pocd and family related stuff, and also my ocd targeted my pets for about a year and it manifested into compulsions that disturbed me and made me not want to be around my cats. now that i am around my cats, i feel like “what if i harm them or do something bad?” or “what if you do those weird compulsions that happened before?” , when i look back on the compulsions that happened, it doesn’t feel like me and it was clearly driven by ocd, but it makes me worry i am just a sick person. i know myself and i know im not, but i had such a weird childhood and then ocd from 15 years old and up. so when these weird compulsions had happened , whether it was for the pet ocd theme or pocd or the family ocd, it feels like some sort of proof. anyways, i feel a bit for content with myself but i know how real ocd can feel and i just remember feeling so hopeless and suici da l, i just don’t want to go through that again. i take a more spiritual route of life and healing, and i wonder if anyone has some deep spiritual warmups or practices i could do to maybe open up my mind more? maybe to realize this is all in the mind? but also to not fight it… Not fight it meaning not let it take over my life. i racked up so much debt in therapy and i truly think i can get through this alone i just need a bit of help. but i dunno. any advice would help! thanks everyone ☀️
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I haven’t done a Q&A in over a year (my bad) but I used to do these at least once a month. Work is slow today, so please send me any questions you have about OCD and I’ll answer them as best as I can. A little about me: I’ve been subclinical/recovered for going on 5 years and I’ve been on this app volunteering since 2019 in an unofficial capacity—I’m not connected to the NOCD team, so I don’t have any badges. I did ERP treatment with my therapist in-person while I was also being treated for PTSD. I have OCD, PTSD, ADHD, depression, GAD, social anxiety, driving anxiety, and a few speech impediments.
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I wanted to share with you guys some of the things that have helped me in the past few weeks! If you’re open to it, maybe try a few and see how you feel! First I would really recommend leaning on God. If you’re not a believer you may be skeptical but if you’ve never tried to read the Bible, prayer or even just talking with God, I would recommend so much! My relationship with God has gotten so much better through this terrible illness and in turn I have noticed a lot of positivity, I feel substantially better since I’ve been trying to bring this to God instead of worry about it myself. If you can give your worries to God and learn to have faith that he is with you, loves and forgives you. You have a great step towards recovery and even just a more positive life. Next, try going outside! I know it sounds kinda dumb but I mean it! Some of my best days started with just going outside, reading a book and or listening to music. I went out and tanned, ate some fruit with some lemonade and read “Girl Wash Your Face” it was a great book! I would spend HOURS and it helped me so much! Take a walk, hike, etc.! This leads into the next thing…READING! I recently bought the new book “don’t believe everything you think” and the workbook and it is amazing! This also applies to reading your Bible and other books, specially ones targeting self help and things like that! Another thing is fitness! Try out the gym, I know there is days that you just can’t bring yourself to get up but in those days, make yourself go to the gym! Even if you just go walk on the treadmill or bike! Anything is better than nothing! Keep yourself active, I promise it will make you feel better! Find a good podcast! I have been listening to (The OCD Stories on Spotify), sometimes I’ve even listened while I was going to sleep and let it play through the night! Go on YouTube and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD and look for other people who help! Go on instagram and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD, iocdf, sincerelyocd, recoverocd, letstalk.ocd, my lovely ocd and there are so many more! Find good music! Again I’m going to bring up worship music some of my favs being ( I Thank God, Move of God, Hard fought Hallelujah, The Truth, Made for more, Thy Will, and there is so many more!) if you would like I can share my playlist! But overall music is so helpful and if you are not a believer or want something different I would recommend songs by Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Kesha, Rihanna, Demi Lovato, Kelly Clarkson, even Billy Joel, Queen, Beck, and things of that nature that are gonna get you PUMPED UP! Lastly, hang out with PEOPLE! Don’t let OCD rule your life, put your ocd in a box best you can and go live your life! Get lunch with a friend, join a bible study, go get a massage, even just meet up with a friend and talk in a parking lot while shoving your face with fast food! You NEED interaction as much as you don’t want to! I know some of these are hard, some is triggering or you’re nervous that you’re gonna spiral, but step out of your comfort zone! That’s the way to get better! Do things that make you feel uncomfortable, the things that are unknown, the things you used to do before this! You can still live and love your life you don’t have to keep just “surviving”! And this isn’t a fix all, trust me I still have my days where I’m like nope I’m staying in bed and crying, but you need to push yourself! No one is coming to hold your hand and walk you out of this, you have to want to help yourself too! And you can do that! I know it’s scary and uncomfortable but you got this! We’re gonna kick some OCD butt! I hope you find this helpful and I wish you the most luck! Comment if you have questions and whatnot! 🫶
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