How do I stop comparing my boyfriend to guys I find physically more attractive? I find my boyfriend very attractive physically but I always compare him to people that are ‘better’...I hate that I do this because we are really good together :(

This might be a form of Relationship OCD. If the root fear is that you may not be with the ideal partner, then exposure therapy would be to accept that uncertainty and not try to figure it out.

Yes I mean I have been diagnosed with Relationship OCD but I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year and I can’t shake these feelings off they feel so real and I hate it cause all I want is for things to workout between us both. I’m not giving up on us for this reason.

Omg!!!! I get this too!! Then I tell myself to stay humble because I'm not the most gorgeous girl ever lol. It's comforting I'm not alone in this.

Lolll same here 🤣 it’s like if anything he could say the same about me aha , but he’s so good to me tells me I’m beautiful even at my worst ! Why can’t brain think the same way as him :(

I do this too. I love my girlfriend and I don't at all want to be with anyone else, but I guess doubts spring up about everything; including my physical attraction to her. It does sound like relationship OCD.

Okay good! I absaloutely hate this. We’re going out to a big town for my birthday this weekend and staying in a hotel and I’m panicking already like ‘what if really good looking men are there and my ROCD fuels up’ but it’s crazy cause like we’re going to spend time with each other there’s no reason to panick so much I just don’t get it

@Tillyyyx I wish you all the best of luck. Have a good time, and happy birthday!

@BigTree Thanks!☺️

It’s ok to be attracted to other people but it depends on how we act and respond I’m learning this to and if there are good looking men there which more than likely will be keep your attention and focus on him all night stare In his eyes as much as possible and don’t make eye contact with anyone I learned that eye contact really pulls me in that dark place and I’ve let it happen so much my girl and child left me give him the attention he needs from and he should do the same