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I do this too. I love my girlfriend and I don't at all want to be with anyone else, but I guess doubts spring up about everything; including my physical attraction to her. It does sound like relationship OCD.
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Okay good! I absaloutely hate this. We’re going out to a big town for my birthday this weekend and staying in a hotel and I’m panicking already like ‘what if really good looking men are there and my ROCD fuels up’ but it’s crazy cause like we’re going to spend time with each other there’s no reason to panick so much I just don’t get it
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@Tillyyyx I wish you all the best of luck. Have a good time, and happy birthday!
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@BigTree Thanks!☺️
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It’s ok to be attracted to other people but it depends on how we act and respond I’m learning this to and if there are good looking men there which more than likely will be keep your attention and focus on him all night stare In his eyes as much as possible and don’t make eye contact with anyone I learned that eye contact really pulls me in that dark place and I’ve let it happen so much my girl and child left me give him the attention he needs from and he should do the same
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This is a great reply ! I’m going to do that , he deserves to know he’s the best
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This might be a form of Relationship OCD. If the root fear is that you may not be with the ideal partner, then exposure therapy would be to accept that uncertainty and not try to figure it out.
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Yes I mean I have been diagnosed with Relationship OCD but I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year and I can’t shake these feelings off they feel so real and I hate it cause all I want is for things to workout between us both. I’m not giving up on us for this reason.
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Omg!!!! I get this too!! Then I tell myself to stay humble because I'm not the most gorgeous girl ever lol. It's comforting I'm not alone in this.
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Lolll same here 🤣 it’s like if anything he could say the same about me aha , but he’s so good to me tells me I’m beautiful even at my worst ! Why can’t brain think the same way as him :(
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I know he’s not cheating on me. He’d never do that and, as hard as I try to tell myself “he’s proven already that he’s not” and show myself all the signs of commitment and dedication, I still have that fear. It’s eating at me and ruining my relationship. How do you guys get over this? If my brain were true he’d have been cheating on me for months in ways that aren’t even possible. It doesn’t make sense if I think about it logically but it seems like when I do, I create in my head more ways for it to be logically true. What is your advice? How can I stop self sabotaging?
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Lately, I’ve been struggling with feelings that I might be sabotaging myself in my relationship. By sabotage, I mean that I find it hard to stop engaging in compulsions, like seeking reassurance or overanalyzing my thoughts. I also sometimes behave badly with my boyfriend, and the intrusive thoughts I have can completely change my mood. I love my boyfriend—he’s such a good, beautiful, and wonderful person—but I’m afraid these thoughts are going to ruin things. I truly want to love him, but I’m scared. I know the thoughts are anxiety-driven, but they still make me question if I’m forcing myself to stay with him. Today, for example, I felt okay earlier, but when he called me on video, I suddenly felt like I didn’t feel anything, and I started thinking I don’t like how he looks. These thoughts hit me like a wave, and I panicked. Usually, I find him very attractive, but when these thoughts come, I feel sad and disconnected. What’s confusing is that I also have many moments—like today and in the past few days—where I’ve felt really good and I’ve felt love for him. I feel awful writing this because my boyfriend doesn’t deserve this, and I feel like I’m posting out of habit. It makes me scared that I don’t want to accept the truth, even though I know I care about him. I hate feeling this way because it feels like I’m betraying him by having these thoughts and posting them. Has anyone else dealt with these feelings of sabotaging their relationship or feeling like they’re forcing themselves to stay? How do you cope when the thoughts feel like they’re true, and how do you work through the fear of letting go of anxiety
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He loves me and complimenta me and saya beautiful things and does many things for me, he says he loves me and he is there for me, but me.. i cant even say i love you without doubting, i am doubting my feelings my atractuon for him, everything, i feel so bad, i dont want to be like this, i hate myself . He is precious and genuine and im scared im not, i have moments when i am happy … but rn i am sad. I saw him today. i dont know what i felt but as im writing this i feel guilt amd fear. Scared that i may be pretending. I want to be happy, what if im not happy with him.. it cant be.
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