- Date posted
- 3y
- Date posted
- 3y
I know rocd and especially rjocd well. It’s hard. My heart goes out to you.
- Date posted
- 3y
It fucking suuuucka
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Call him up, tell him you made a mistake, apologise and get back together if it was your choice to break up. Breaking up for that reason is a compulsion
- Date posted
- 3y
I been working so hard and trying my best for 6 months and its just not getting better for me its not fair to drag anyone into it
- Date posted
- 3y
@Goagoa The question is: working so hard at what? trying so hard to do what?
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard Erp and my intrusive thoughts from ruining the way i feel about him
- Date posted
- 3y
@Goagoa It’s hard to make progress on because it seems different than the other themes. My therapist hasn’t been able to help much with it. But I think the problem is moreso that I haven’t been able to access the benefits of ERP, due to depression, confusing explanations, etc. I am going to start some exposures with this soon, actually, and I actually am optimistic that they will help. If you have any questions, feel free to ask, though I would ask you to avoid sharing details about your boyfriend’s past with me.
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard I just been feelin super insecure and thinking hes constantly trying to find something better and probably cheating on me. And just sitting in anxiety waiting for him to break up with me
- Date posted
- 3y
@Goagoa What has your practice of ERP looked like?
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard Writing down all the worse case scenarios and re reading them for like an hour out of the day
- Date posted
- 3y
@Goagoa How would you decribe your mental process during those exposures? What are you attempting to do with them?
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard To trigger myself until im descenzitized to my thoughts to that i understand that theyre only my ocd thoughts and not whats really going on
- Date posted
- 3y
@Goagoa Does your anxiety ever come down in that hour?
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard Also, if you weren’t worried about him cheating or looking for someone better, do you think the thoughts about his past would still make you anxious?
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard No not really
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard No i think the cheating is the biggest thing and the thing is ive never been cheated on so its even more fucked
- Date posted
- 3y
@CaptainKierkegaard I was mainly asking because the cheating anxiety is not the main fear for me. I discovered that the more I tried to identify exactly what I was afraid of, the more fears seemed to pop up. So my exposures have been in the form of habituating to the kinds of intrusive thoughts I have (visual thoughts of her past or what I think her past might have been) rather than stating my fear in sentence form. Tbf this has been a brutal exposure, but it’s mainly the depression and low self-esteem that makes it so. I do believe my anxiety is going down and it does go up and then down each session like normal exposures. Not completely down, but it has a peak, at least. It sounds like possibly you could be using the exposure to ruminate. I have foubd it helpful to remind myself of why I’m doing the exposure, which is to habituate to the thoughts.
Related posts
- Date posted
- 25w
My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
- Date posted
- 24w
Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
- Date posted
- 19w
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond