Hey, I would like to ask some Christians for advice. (it is long ) :) It would be nice if someone could give their opinion or biblical advice to this please. When I was not really a Christian I lied about some things to my partner as an example , I told that a person that I once kissed (not a serious thing) is just a friend of me , because I was ashamed and did not want to worry him about this person and think of me bad. Another thing was that I told that I didn’t had some feeling for my ex even tho I did a little , but It was a private thing for me and I didn’t wanted to make this information make another person worry because it was my „own“ battle, so I lied sometimes but it didn’t affected anything it made me just get over my past faster. Now that I‘am more of a Christian I feel a lot of guilt about the way I lied to my partner because it was a sin (even tho it was somehow protection). I feel like even tho I asked god for forgiveness and told the person in general that I lied sometimes (not on which topics), I feel like god won’t forgive me until I totally confess every lie even tho it may hurt the person unessecary because this Information is not relevant for the other person and would just make them insecure for no reason because these things do not make me or my behavior different and I would not do it again .

“I feel like God won’t forgive me until I totally confess every lie” This is what sticks out to me, and here’s the problem with it coming from a fellow Christian. The problem with this is your basing your forgiveness off of your own works and how well you can apolegize enough and confess “every lie” (which is impossible anyways) this flies directly in the face and is contrary to the the Gospel. When you gave your life to Christ and became a Christian (assuming you have) then your sins were forgiven by Christ’s death on the cross, he did all the work for you by living a perfect life none of us ever could and giving his life on the cross as a sacrifice for our sins, there’s nothing we can add or do to change that, so this idea of “god won’t forgive unless I do x, y or z” is not true. He already did everything for you and forgave your sins past, present and future if your a follower of Christ. Now if this is from your OCD (I’m no specialist or expert so don’t take what I say as med advice but as someone who struggled with similar things, it kinda does) using what you know to be true dosent always solve the problem, and seeking treatment helps, as well as going to God and asking for his help with it. He sees and understands and loves you more than you know.

It sounds to me like your obsessive thoughts are acting up. I can relate to the feeling like I’m forgiven and loved then doubting 5 min later, that’s the nature of the OCD beast, once you feel like you have a answer or peace, you start to doubt it. Of course I will pray for you! This is a tough battle but with God’s help you will overcome it!

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