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It's okay to feel bored in your relationship. I know it's hard but you don't have to break up with her over that. If you stick through it and be open and honest with each other you might come out with an even stronger relationship. Try to come up with new activities that you guys can do together to add some new experiences. What I've learned is that it's not so much what you have in common with a person that makes a lasting relationship, it's the experiences you share together.
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I fully agree with you. The thing is that we are in a long distance relationship. Chatting with her was so exciting once and now it seems like a task. Same with the video calls. I really don't wanna feel like thisš
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@raj123 That's normal especially for long distance relationships. They're really difficult to maintain because you can't use body language to comfort or communicate with one another so you have to constantly be simulating each other's minds with conversation etc, which is really hard to do all the time. It's not easy but what your feeling is honestly pretty normal. Everyone goes through those stages at some point.
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@Kuno You explain it really well
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@Overcomer Thank you! I really appreciate that! This all comes from personal experience so I hope it helps in some way
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@Kuno I have a question how did you manage it the long distance for years
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@Overcomer The truth is I didn't. I never even made it to 6 months in all my previous long distance relationships. I only found a lasting relationship when I moved to the same state as my current partner and it's now been a year and 2 months. It really is so much more natural and easier to maintain when you can see them in person because I probably would have said something stupid and messed it all up by now if it was still long distance. Granted I know that's not possible for everyone which makes it even harder. It's rough man
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@Kuno Like idk Iāve convinced myself it will work out so Iām going to see . Iām happy you made the bold choice to move to the state that love wish you the best
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@Overcomer Thank you! Yeah there's no point giving up on something until you try. You never know. Long distance relationships are just harder and more of a challenge, that doesn't mean they're impossible. Honestly the confidence to feel that it will work out is exactly what you need to make it happen. If you're always doubting yourself, your partner or your relationship that doubt will sooner or later infect your partner and then they'll start questioning it because you're questioning it. So just do your best and keep at it! I wish you all the best and i hope you guys live a happy life together!
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