- Date posted
- 3y
- Date posted
- 3y
Do you want to talk about it? I’m in exactly the same boat. Ive tried almost every online forum out there (please don’t the people are horrible) and asked almost everyone in my life. I too feel like I can’t move on!! It’s honestly the worst form ocd can take I swear
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Is the real event the problem? Or is the OCD interpretation of the event the problem? Also, even if you were to get an honest opinion of your real event, would OCD accept this, or continue to doubt it? The best way to handle Real Event OCD is to accept uncertainty and practice ERP. An imaginal exposure script is a common form of ERP therapy for real events OCD. This is where you take one of the fears driving your obsessive thoughts and play it out to the worst possible end. As you can imagine, using imaginal exposure scripts can be uncomfortable because it requires unfolding hypothetical scenarios your mind has labeled the worst possible thing that can happen. However, the idea behind ERP is to habituate yourself to these fearful thoughts so that they will loosen their grip on you. Eventually you’ll get to a point where you are relatively comfortable with the uncertainty of these past actions, and the obsessive thoughts will reside. If you don't feel comfortable doing ERP by yourself, I recommend doing it with a trained ERP-therapist. I've dealt with real event ocd and I can say it does work! It might also be helpful to check out NOCD's support groups just to know you're not alone. https://www.treatmyocd.com/support-groups How to Accept Uncertainty with OCD https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhKmY1IeFf8&t=137s How do I deal with guilt or doubt over a memory? with Dr. McGrath, Davida Vaughn & Dr. Solarin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EEriK-0VGk&t=178s What Is Real Event OCD? https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/real-events-ocd
- Date posted
- 3y
I totally agree with everything that you said, and it’s so hard to do what’s best even when I know it will help me. However, I do feel that, if I got an honest opinion I would be able to accept it! It’s just really hard to find one
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- Date posted
- 19w
Honestly I’ve never felt like the worst person ever , all my life I’ve always struggle with fitting in and making a good friend group, and I always think I don’t do enough for anybody and sometimes when I feel like somebody is becoming cold or distant I make sure to keep a distant too out of respect or a mechanism to help me not feel hurt , as a result a friend of mine did this and I stayed away because I had no idea what she was going through and my other friend who I’ve met at the beginning of the year I’ve never had a good feeling abt her because I noticed her starting to be really flirty with my boyfriend and when I tried talking to somebody about it , she twisted the entire situation to her assuming I was sl*t shaming her, which I’d never do that is not in my dictionary , so when I arrived to school everyone said she was saying really bad things about me and what’s worse is that she did this two months ago and I found out last week I cried to all of them about it and they ignored me they all laughed and just left me there to cry , I tried talking to my friend who slowly grew distant instead I noticed her getting closer to the friend who wronged me . I noticed all my friends growing a distant , I slowly felt like I failed as friend and then I slowly starting convincing myself i was a failure in general , so as a result, I turned to marijuana and cough medicine, and multiple dealers reach out weekly so I can buy more stuff , and what’s worse is that I know these people are not good friends but I still let them get to my head and on top of that I resort to substance abuse to help with my overthinking and anxiety , I need advice
- Date posted
- 13w
i feel like i have been posting a lot about this and i will try to stop since now but i just don't know where to start or what to do, and i can't take therapy right now either. my event is about something that did actually happen; i had a boyfriend and we had a 1.5 age difference (i know this sounds stupid) but the thing is that we both started to sext a lot since he was 14 and i was 15. we shared audios videos pictures ect and i don't know how to just let this go, even when i know that i never really forced him into anything and i was always constantly worried about him being comfortable, when to stop and ect. the memories keep coming back to my mind and the guilt is eating me up slowly because i keep thinking that i'm a predator or a groomer or something like that. i don't know how to deal with the what ifs either, lately i haven't stopped thinking what if i sexually harassed or sexually exploited him or something like that. how do i deal with the cycle of guilt and constant what ifs if i also feel like my event is worse than others i've seen? please help me with this. it's getting a lil tiring and even if somedays i know how to deal with this, i still get really triggered sometimes. this wouldn't even bother me before, i wish i could just get back in time before this theme popped into my mind. my life has been a hell since then and i live constantly scared and suicidal.
- Date posted
- 6w
Is there anyone out there with the real event subtype that wouldn’t mind giving me some encouragement not to confess or do compulsions? It always says I’m different. My events are the exception. What do you do to ignore this voice?
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