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Porn is literally the worst way POSSIBLE to make some sort of ‘conclusion’ about your sexuality. (Not that there is any way at all- don’t go looking for it!!) Gay people watch straight porn, straight people watch gay porn, women get turned on by lesbian porn, and some people on both sides of the spectrum never watch porn at all. Arousal after watching sexual things cannot decide what you want or prefer in your own life. You’re just watching sexual people do sexual things!
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Honestly it doesn't matter - just enjoy your marriage and be yourself, maybe you can explore this new sexual side with your husband :) consider seeing a relationship therapist to help talk about and communicate what your experiencing :)
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When the thought comes, try to say “maybe I am bi” and then do what you were doing before the intrusive thought. Obsessing over a question almost never leads you closer to the answer. If you want the truth, let your obsessive thoughts pass and you might find clarity.
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(I don’t mean to be reassuring here- just want you to know!!)
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You are watching straight porn and you said you love men, to non ocd that would be enough. Being ocd I know its not. Personally I had to become ok with the possibility of being homosexual to enable me to find my straight self again, like would it really matter if I was gay? Its not the end of the world is it and I dont know why I built it up so much, and when I started thinking like that, I settled back into my hetro life, I strongly back gay rights now though and support the gay community. Thats what helped me anyway, personally I think if you stop building it up the being bi would be a bad thing (it wouldnt, and you could still be with a man) you will stop obsessing about it and like me, you will prob find something else to obsess about!
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Thanks everyone. @Leah25. I agree. That's how I see it too. We are sexual beings and sexual content can turn us on. It doesn't define what we desire. @wiseblood. Thanks for the advice. I noticed that is true. When I finally stop obsessing then the answers become clear. @morgz82. That's what I need to do. Just accept the possibility and move on. It isn't the end of the world if I am bi.
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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