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Porn is literally the worst way POSSIBLE to make some sort of ‘conclusion’ about your sexuality. (Not that there is any way at all- don’t go looking for it!!) Gay people watch straight porn, straight people watch gay porn, women get turned on by lesbian porn, and some people on both sides of the spectrum never watch porn at all. Arousal after watching sexual things cannot decide what you want or prefer in your own life. You’re just watching sexual people do sexual things!
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Honestly it doesn't matter - just enjoy your marriage and be yourself, maybe you can explore this new sexual side with your husband :) consider seeing a relationship therapist to help talk about and communicate what your experiencing :)
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- 6y
When the thought comes, try to say “maybe I am bi” and then do what you were doing before the intrusive thought. Obsessing over a question almost never leads you closer to the answer. If you want the truth, let your obsessive thoughts pass and you might find clarity.
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(I don’t mean to be reassuring here- just want you to know!!)
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You are watching straight porn and you said you love men, to non ocd that would be enough. Being ocd I know its not. Personally I had to become ok with the possibility of being homosexual to enable me to find my straight self again, like would it really matter if I was gay? Its not the end of the world is it and I dont know why I built it up so much, and when I started thinking like that, I settled back into my hetro life, I strongly back gay rights now though and support the gay community. Thats what helped me anyway, personally I think if you stop building it up the being bi would be a bad thing (it wouldnt, and you could still be with a man) you will stop obsessing about it and like me, you will prob find something else to obsess about!
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Thanks everyone. @Leah25. I agree. That's how I see it too. We are sexual beings and sexual content can turn us on. It doesn't define what we desire. @wiseblood. Thanks for the advice. I noticed that is true. When I finally stop obsessing then the answers become clear. @morgz82. That's what I need to do. Just accept the possibility and move on. It isn't the end of the world if I am bi.
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- 25w
Do our minds imagine someone to look more attractive than they actually are in real life? I get aroused when I get images of this one guy and it feels like I really want to have sex with him but at the same time I try to push it away. I feel like there’s a part of me that is curious and wanting to explore, but I have a boyfriend and I love him and I only want him.
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I went out last night with a couple of girlfriends. One of them is contemplating divorcing her husband bc of a drinking problem (she is straight) and made a joke about running off and joining the “lesbian island”. She then continues to say “making out with a girl is one thing” but that she could never actually BE with a woman sexually, etc. Well… this has triggered my SO OCD significantly because I’m thinking, well why does she think it’s okay to just kiss/make-out if she doesn’t identity as bisexual? I mean she is beautiful and I’ve heard all my straight friends say the same thing. So I start to worry by thinking, well I find her very attractive - does that mean I want to make out with her and see what she’s talking about? Just to note, I also identify as straight and am married. So this is just so damn frustrating and confusing. Especially bc society shows women kissing all the time on reality tv shows etc (who present themselves as straight). So now I’m having intrusive thoughts and making myself think sexual things to “check” if I’m still straight. Ughh..any advice would be greatly appreciated. And if someone could please explain why a straight woman would make such a comment - that would be very helpful.
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- 15w
I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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