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- 3y
My boyfriend and I on a break. This is a good one
So a week and a half ago me and my bf got into the biggest fight in our relationship. I snooped & found out he was breaking THE ONLY boundary I have by briefly speaking to a girl who caused major issues years ago in our relationship. I never asked him to delete any girls or remove anyone to not be controlling. But I have told him I don’t like this it makes me uncomfortable and u do what u want with that info. Clearly he chose to do what he wanted. With no regard to me. He told her he wasn’t allowed to talk to her… which why would u tell her that if u don’t even know her like u claim? Anyway. He lied to me about it then showed me then I dumped him impulsively. I messed up cuz his very old dog was downstairs during this struggling and covered in poop (he’s very old) so he kicked me out. Asked for a break. We been on a break for a long time now. And said we’re actually broke up. And he was in San Diego with his friends he started to act like everything was just fine and talking to me here and there. The last few days we been talking a littttle more but I could feel he didn’t care to. Last night, he liked a photo of this girl. After everything we fought about, I had been spending this last week spiraling trying to figure out how we both can make compromises and make this work and he did another thing that upset me. I told him, he got mad and said he didn’t wanna date someone who gets mad at stuff like that. I explained why and was in tears explaining my feelings and that this was the last boundary I had and he said well I don’t care sorry I’m not going to be told what to do. When I haven’t ever done that. I thought me explaining why it hurts me, would be enough for him to stop. He continues on to say he hasn’t felt like even talking to me in the last few days and doesn’t know if he wants to be with me and this fight now has pushed him more away. It ended up all being my fault. All of it. Am I crazy to think that he isn’t respecting me or my boundaries? Like am I wrong? Fuck. This isn’t necessarily ocd related, kinda cuz I been spiraling but now it’s just pure anxiety and anger.