is it normal to feel somewhat disconnected from your partner when you’re away from them and you’re having ROCD thoughts?

well the question is do you really love him deep down beyond these OCD thoughts and doubts?

Yeah. That is the question. Haha the question my OCD tortures me with. Did you ask me that as an exposure?

yes i can confidently say that if i wasn’t dealing with these OCD thoughts that i know i love her and truly care about her

That's awesome. And triggering to hear. I guess ROCD impacts us in different ways.

Oh, I feel that. The disconnect I mean. I start obsessing over what it means and if I don't care as much about her as I say I do or that I'm lying when I say I love her, even tho I know for a fact that I do love her!! It's just the 'what if' intrusive thoughts that trouble me and make me anxious and feel somewhat disconnected. But man, when I'm with her? I *know* that I love her, and that I'm just obsessing over what ifs because I'm terrified of hurting her. But ye, that disconnected feeling really sucks, and I feel ya a lot on that ;-;

For me, 100%. It's always worse when I'm away from them. My doubts are rly strong when I'm away and not so bad when I'm with him. Can I ask you a question? We're you/are you scared of people finding out about your relationship? I'm get this scared feeling, like they're gonna find out I'm a fraud, that I don't rly love him, and like since ROCD tells me we're inevitably gonna break up, that I'll be ashamed in the future. Idk.

@jordandroberta do you feel like you can confidently answer that question?