- Username
- jordandroberts
- Date posted
- 5y ago
well the question is do you really love him deep down beyond these OCD thoughts and doubts?
Yeah. That is the question. Haha the question my OCD tortures me with. Did you ask me that as an exposure?
yes i can confidently say that if i wasn’t dealing with these OCD thoughts that i know i love her and truly care about her
That's awesome. And triggering to hear. I guess ROCD impacts us in different ways.
Oh, I feel that. The disconnect I mean. I start obsessing over what it means and if I don't care as much about her as I say I do or that I'm lying when I say I love her, even tho I know for a fact that I do love her!! It's just the 'what if' intrusive thoughts that trouble me and make me anxious and feel somewhat disconnected. But man, when I'm with her? I *know* that I love her, and that I'm just obsessing over what ifs because I'm terrified of hurting her. But ye, that disconnected feeling really sucks, and I feel ya a lot on that ;-;
For me, 100%. It's always worse when I'm away from them. My doubts are rly strong when I'm away and not so bad when I'm with him. Can I ask you a question? We're you/are you scared of people finding out about your relationship? I'm get this scared feeling, like they're gonna find out I'm a fraud, that I don't rly love him, and like since ROCD tells me we're inevitably gonna break up, that I'll be ashamed in the future. Idk.
@jordandroberta do you feel like you can confidently answer that question?
Is it normal to not miss your partner? Or should I always want them around? I’m home for a few days seeing my parents and I have anxiety about not missing my boyfriend. I of course compulsed and FaceTimed him to test myself but all I felt was anxiety and OCD over his appearance. I just think I should be attracted to him always, and I’m not. I can’t tell if this is just a normal couples thing, or I’m having bad ROCD. Help!
When interacting with friends and family, I find myself almost constantly checking my thoughts to see if I am present with the people I love, or stuck in my head. The mental checking is what keeps me feeling distant and disconnected. Does anyone else experience this?
My ROCD HOCD only comes back when I get into relationships. Like for example when we broke up bruh my heart was messed up I’ve never experienced heart break before, but my ocd was like null during that experience. But when we started working things out my thoughts started to come back again? It’s like when the thing I love most is gone I get no bad thoughts? But I guess I wouldn’t have been that heart broken if I really wasn’t into him. Cos the whole time I was like he’s so pretty I don’t want anyone else. But at same time not one intrusive thought maybe ur not into him came???
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