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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Parents with ocd
Any parents out there right now struggling with ocd? If so would you mind sharing the struggle?
Any parents out there right now struggling with ocd? If so would you mind sharing the struggle?
I feel like every subtype there is to be honest. Seems to change by the day if not the day by week. Makes you question everything. The scary part is the numbness or disassociation I have been feeling.
Trying to accept the uncertainty and using words like it is what it, its all in God's hands. Prayer. I see a nocd therapist as well.
I am struggling myself. Feel like I'm going nuts. The mind just plays so many games with our heads. Just have to keep in mind the ocd attacks what we care about the most. I don't think this is talked about very much. Meaning parents who are struggling with ocd. In various manors. I hope to see more responses because I know we are not the only ones going through this as parents.
It’s a very tough thing to deal with when it attacks the people you love the most. Makes you question everything. What are you experiencing if you don’t mind me asking?
I have been suffering ROCD for years, mostly directed toward my wife on 7 years. A have also noted that I find myself questioning whether or not I love my kids, similar to the doubt that comes regarding my wife. The guilt that comes with these thoughts are devastating but like you guys have said, OCD attacks what you care about most so I try to keep that in mind.
Fellow harm sufferer. As a parent to think these thoughts about your kids. Kills you inside. How can someone feel that way about the little people they made. But without reassuring myself I do my best to be mindful of parenting is hard. And as ocd and being focused on perfection. It’s impossible. Last night I asked my husband I have such little joy in this job. And he said what joy. I mean we are trying to make good humans. Like that is not an easy task. I have real hard time sitting with my thoughts but I try to let them go. As much as possible. Because they are just always playing games.
Hey! Fellow sufferer here. I have 4 kiddos and the struggle is real my friend!! I say fellow sufferer bc I'm immensely better and continue to heal. Know it's not a linear process and that there will be constant ups and downs. However my intrusive thoughts come now but I let them go. There are days where I find myself frustrated that I'm still having them, which causes the cycle to continue - ruminating is my compulsion so I over analyze everything. It gets easier for sure. It's hard because I also have some scrupulosity with mine. So naturally for me it's like hard to let go. It will get easier. Some tips are labelling everything. Intrusive feelings, intrusive thoughts, ruminations or even saying - Oh! That thought is too big for me. I try to let it go. My therapist suggested acknowledging the thought and moving on to something different and everytime I did my OCD was like - if you weren't busy you'd be being a psycho killer right now. Sooooo stupid. Either way, please know there's hope and healing. You'll get there, just have faith. Also, Bible scripture is amazing for this. A simple google search will pull up a ton of scripture revolving around fear and anxiety. Replace the ocd lies with truth! Hugs!!!
Me. Have a four year old daughter that I am scared to death I will harm. We co-sleep and in the middle of the night is when my thoughts, urges, and sensations flair up and it’s awful. It’s not every night but when it happens it’s hard for me to start the day on a positive note. Ugh
Thank you for sharing i really appreciate it . Stay positive, its all mind games.
Parent of two here it’s hard to deal with your ocd when you got other people to make sure they’re ok first and you don’t want you to notice you’re down as with my wife
Have any of you found any good remedies to help with the nasty thoughts and feelings? Acceptance for me has really helped but it’s hard at times.
Mathias - are you meaning your wife doesn't know what your going through as well?
No she knows what I go through and tries to understand but I try to hide when I’m down
My struggles with OCD began in childhood, but it wasn’t until after giving birth to my first child at 30 that I finally received a diagnosis. For years, I suffered in silence with intense anxiety, insomnia, and intrusive thoughts, but because my compulsions were mostly mental—constant rumination, reassurance-seeking, and avoidance—I didn’t realize I had OCD. I experienced Pure O, where my mind would latch onto terrifying thoughts, convincing me something was deeply wrong with me. After my son was born, I was consumed by intrusive fears of harming him, even though I loved him more than anything. Seven weeks into postpartum, I hit a breaking point and ended up in the emergency room, where I was finally diagnosed. For the first time, everything made sense. I didn’t discover exposure and response prevention (ERP) until years later when my son developed Germ OCD during COVID. I went through the program myself first, and it completely changed my life. ERP helped me sit with my intrusive thoughts instead of reacting to them, breaking the cycle that had controlled me for so long. Life isn’t perfect, but it’s so much better than before. I can finally be present instead of trapped in my head. Now, I’m working on trusting myself more and handling challenges without fear of “losing control.” As I prepare to help my daughter start therapy, I feel empowered knowing I’m giving my children the support I never had. If you know you have OCD but haven’t started therapy yet, what’s holding you back?
I just wanted to ask any mothers their experience with having children & the positive experiences they’ve had despite their diagnosis (even the small moments of joy)? I have always yearned to have children & grow a family however recently OCD has made me question this desire (though when I’m back to thinking rationally my heart knows I’m meant for motherhood). though I’m not oblivious to how difficult it must be, I thought it would be nice to see the good amongst the bad, not just for me but for anyone else feeling a similar way 🫶🏼
Anyone else raised by a parent who has undiagnosed OCPD? I just discovered what the diagnosis is, and I am certain I had a caregiver as a child with it. It greatly shaped my OCD and why I have OCD in the first place. I’d love to hear your story and relationship to that person as a child and adult.
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