- Username
- getwellsoon
- Date posted
- 2y ago
So I’m in the middle of an intense wave of ROCD thoughts. And to answer your question, yes and no. The thoughts might not get better, but my emotional reaction to them does. Sometimes they feel like absolute truth and I am the worst wife in the world, and other moments I still have thoughts but I don’t react to them in the same way and that makes them seem better. But it takes a lot of time and seeking help to get there. Reach out to a therapist and keep holding on.
Yes. All OCD themes can get better. Do you have a therapist and are you doing ROCD exposures? That is by far the best way. Love is not feeling. Especially for people with OCD. It is action/devotion. If you are waiting for things to feel right all the time, especially if you're not actively doing exposures, then you'll be going in circles. Tell yourself to act out your love, write down things you can to act out love when you feel anxious. If you have been stuck on trying to figure out feelings for a long time, treat them as if they don't matter for a while. You may as well try something new. I'm getting married in August and my ROCD is much better. Actions > Words > Thoughts. Good luck.
what are some exposures for rocd ?
@hope I'd like to know as well
What is ROCD
Mine did but this theme only popped up randomly for a couple months last year. Then completely went away as if it never even happened. Gives me hope for other themes going forward! I will say at the time it was terrible and felt all consuming. And the fact it came out of nowhere terrified me.
what’s ROCD ?
@Anonymous Relationship ocd
how long should my obsessive thoughts last about my boyfriend if i have rocd ? usually i have a bad period where i think i have lost feelings for him and then it comes back but i’ve been feeling anxious and having these constant thoughts for days now. i’m trying not to do my compulsions but even when i do i don’t get the feeling of loving him back i just don’t get the constant thoughts and anxiety. is this rocd or do i actually just not like my boyfriend ? i’m not formally diagnosed with rocd but i have done so much research and my habits and thoughts sound exactly like examples of those suffering from rocd. i thought that i had it and now i’m scared i don’t and i just don’t love him. but then i also know that that’s another symptom of rocd that the ocd convinces you that you don’t actually have rocd and you just don’t have feelings for them so now i’m scared and confused. can anyone tell me if they think that i have rocd please
hi! I'm really struggling with rocd right now. I have a boyfriend that I'm very in love with, and havent doubted that until now. I've been struggling with what I think is derealization, which has caused myself to feel distant from him, and like he isnt actually my boyfriend. because of this, I now I keep getting repetitive intrusive thoughts that I dont love him, and that I never loved him, and that I don't even know him. its terrifying. I've told him about this, and hes very supportive. he knows I still love him, and just wants to help me. but I'm so terrified of these thoughts to the point of almost believing them. if anyone else has struggled with this, how do you cope? I've been trying to reassure myself of my memories of him, and looking at things I do currently that show I still have love for him, but I would love some other ideas since it's still hard to convince myself. thank u!!
How do people recognize the difference between relationship ocd intrusive thoughts and real thoughts about your relationship? I have been in a relationship for about a year, it’s my first long-term relationship and the healthiest, I am almost 20 years old, and I believe I have rocd (I haven’t been diagnosed but it’s pretty clear to me). The main thoughts I get are “what if I’ll lose feelings for my bf?, what if I don’t love him?, what if I’m gonna break his heart?” (it’s never about if he’s cheating on me or anything like that. He is a really great boyfriend and the best person to ever walk into my life, he isn’t toxic or bad in any way towards me or the relationship). Usually these thoughts occur before my period (luteal phase/pms) but I’m on day 6 of my period and I got these thoughts, which usually isn’t the case as I’ve said before. So I went into a spiral cus I believed that since I got these thoughts at a different time in my cycle, they must be true. Deep down I know I love my boyfriend so much, it’s just so hard to navigate whether or not these thoughts are just fake rocd thoughts or what I’m really thinking. Can anyone else relate?
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