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My entire OCD automated system is centered around this thought or “theme.” It is so scary when thoughts of randomly cheating “pop up” and I don’t remember regardless of what amount of time has passed and your body genuinely feels the guilt and pressure. I’m currently being treated by medication, therapy and exposure therapy. My thoughts are a lot less frequent and reactive than before (as well as compulsions). I feared reading the rest of this post because it mirrors mine. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
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i suggest watching youtube videos about false memory ocd, and i seriously doubt that you did cheat on your partner
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I have this too....thinking I've cheated...it sucks
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Thank you dostrick. This is super scary. I'm back on medication, and starting therapy soon. I hope it will go away soon, and not ruin my relationship.
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Does it ever happen to you guys after alcohol?
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I would look into a couple things Number 1 . Why am I so preoccupied with the false memory. Is the problem really in the memory or that I'm scared something bad might happen if I don't solve it. Is it possible that I'm hooked on the 7 months because *7* is a lucky number and really I think it has to do with memory but I'm preacupies with magical thinking OCD like I'm down on my luck and therefore the relationship was "7 months" over ....
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Basically, am I struggling with Rocd or maybe It's just I'm scared that something bad may of happened through me not being careful in the past and now I need to solve the past so something bad doesn't happen... Meaning is it really an issue with false memory. Are you searched for the cumpolsions but not finding it? I was searching for my false memory cumpolsions for 2 years until I noticed that my only problem was that something bad may of happen if I don't solve the events. So I came up with the saying "something bad might happen " and than everything diminished because OCD learned that yes, maybe something bad will happen and there is nothing I can do about it. Take a few steps back and see what else is there, what's beanetg the obssesions? What else happened . Did I feel betraited maybe I'm having some anger to. Maybe I need something like Emdr to reprocess the events. Sometimes we run to conclusions and try assessing the situation by saying it's relation - OCD but really the theme changed to something else. Or I want to get revenge on my "x" and now I'm heading towards Some trauama and so on. I have switched from Zoloft to Prozac and my urgency to solve false memory went down very quickly. A great way to tell if medication should be looked into is am I having maldaptive thinking styles? Am I thinking in all or nothing. Am I hyperfocused on the obssesion ? And most importantly how is my appetite doing? Maybe Depression is playing a role Please note , I'm not a clinical proffesional so please don't take my advice for any licensed professional
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my problem is my mind causes false memories after drinking...I never get them when sober
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I know it's out of fear of losing him. I can't imagine my life without him. Early on in our relationship he mentioned that us cheating on each other is the only thing that could break us up because he was so sure I was it for him (and I feel the same). I am sober when I have these thoughts, but I fear going out for a drink with any of my girlfriends because of my OCD. It's really affecting my social life. I feel like a monster the more real my false memories become. I'm on Effexor (because Paxil was giving me bad side effects), but I don't know if this one is working either as it's been only 3 week
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- 23w
I am diagnosed with OCD, ADHD, and mild depression. But my OCD symptoms are so prominent in my daily life where it feels debilitating. It comes in waves, there will be months with very minor symptoms and other times where it comes in random hitting me like a truck making me rethink life. I grew up having intrusive thoughts of all types, and a lot of them sent me over the edge because I couldn’t understand why things of such sort would cross my mind, things that I’m sure to this day that I’m incapable of or would never want to actually do. Yet I find myself in a constant cycle of trying to dig deep in the past and trying to figure out if I ever acted on any of the intrusive thoughts I can remember, yet ofc have no recollection of acting on them because they most likely didn’t happen. However, not having concrete proof of these things makes me not want to see another day sometimes. It is so hard to move into daily basis like this. I’m also in a happy healthy relationship and sometimes I get these thoughts of “what if I’ve done something awful during the relationship (for example, cheat, dishonesty, etc.) and can’t remember?” I know I would never do anything intentionally to harm my relationship and I think that maybe the idea of not having my partner sends me down a rabbit hole to think all these things. This mental fight is getting harder and harder. It feels unbearable. Does anyone have some fruit for thought, relate, or have any tips?
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I have false memory real event ocd, I’ve been married 13 years and I used to constantly bring up past mistakes from when we were dating and it RUINED our marriage, but I got medication and therapy and things got better untill a few weeks ago where everything crumbled. I have a memory that is 13 years ago of me being intimate with my husband (than boyfriend) while being intimate I have a memory of sending a text to a male who obviously liked me but I didi not while my husband was under the covers . And I keep thinking over and over how disgusting and inappropriate it was to do that especially doing it in the middle of being intimate 😞. I have confessed this to my husband last year and he didint believe me saying it’s probably a made up memory and would are not a slut and wouldn’t do that. Now i have guilt all over again for weeks and it’s taking such a toll on me it’s all I think about and try to remember every detail I’ve thought about it so much I don’t even know if it’s 100 percent true. But I can vividly see it when I close my eyes. How do I get over this guilt without confessing? Confessing would absolutely destroy my husband.
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I suffer with a constant worry of what if I’ve cheated. You name it I’ve thought I’ve done it. I’m quite flirty at nature and also insecure. Sometimes hand in hand I don’t think they balance each other out as the constant need for attention to validate myself can backfire. Although I have the best partner ever and she makes me feel nothing less than beautiful I still crave validation from others. That being said someone I used to work with left over half a year ago and when they worked at my current place of work we were very close. Text everyday, phone calls you name it. However looking back I was extra flirty as I wanted him to fancy me. I wanted the power to turn him down to make myself feel better. Awful I know. Now all I can think about is what if I’ve done something. What if I kissed him. What if I’ve slept with him etc. I’ve kept our whole conversations from the minute I got his personal number. I constantly search key words to see if my intrusive thoughts are real. I can except the uncertainty my therapist tells me about as if I have done the worst and cheated I would loose my partner and our 10 year relationship. I love her so much she is my life but I can’t stop thinking what if I’ve cheated. Does anyone else suffer with the same theme? If so how do you cope?
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